Because of work, my son lived in the countryside until he was three years old and was looked after by his grandparents. When it was time to go to kindergarten, we decided to take care of the children by ourselves.
I majored in preschool education in college, but after graduation, I started the sales industry. Now, in order to spend more time with my children, I decided to return to pre-school education and apply to be a kindergarten teacher in a private kindergarten near my home.
Everything is ready, just waiting to pick up my son. So happy! At the same time, I can take my baby to school. I look forward to having fun every day in the future.
Kindergarten stipulates that children can't attend classes with their mothers. Rare went to Mr. Wang's golden unicorn class, and my class was sunflower class.
When Rui Rui first entered the park, he hoped that he would adapt as soon as possible. He arrives half an hour earlier than normal working hours every morning to get familiar with teachers and children with him.
Before I went to kindergarten, I made an agreement with my son and told him that his mother's current job is a teacher in this kindergarten, and all the children call her "Miss Chen".
Therefore, when you meet your mother who goes to work in kindergarten, you should also call her "Teacher Chen".
Every time someone says this, he doesn't answer, just frowning and pouting, as if expressing his dissatisfaction and protest!
After that, Rare didn't call me "Mom" when she saw me during recess, but refused to call me "Teacher Chen".
I can feel his unhappiness, thinking that maybe after a long time, he will adapt.
Two weeks later, Rarity became familiar with the kindergarten and became more courageous. He often runs out of the classroom during class and comes to our sunflower class.
I took him back several times before "skipping classes". Go home at night, and then educate him about the rules, and admonish him several times with "carrot and stick", but he always wants to "skip class" in our class.
So many times the teacher is too lazy to take care of him. As long as he knows that he is staying in our class and not going outside alone, he will not be forced to go back to class. Everyone acquiesced that he was a member of the sunflower class.
Children's Day is coming, and the teachers and children begin the rehearsal of the class happily.
In order to welcome Children's Day on June 1st, Sunflower Class prepared a program called Finger Dance. I demonstrated it once. The children in the class like it very much, and the atmosphere is very active.
Unexpectedly, my work touched my son's bottom line. He became extremely excited and began to lose his temper, which hindered the rehearsal of the program.
He is familiar with this program. Because he is very young, I often play with him when I go back to my grandparents' house on weekends. I invited him to teach the children together, but he just ignored me and looked angry. I can't help it We can only rehearse first and then go home for education.
Just after practicing for a while, the music suddenly stopped, so I turned off the stereo! I turned it on again. As soon as the children's song started, he ran angrily and turned it off. This kind of behavior, time and time again, caused the rehearsal of sunflower class to be unable to proceed normally, which affected our progress.
Seeing the rehearsal of other class programs in full swing, I began to feel anxious. Asked why he turned off the stereo, he snorted and didn't answer. I was very angry and asked him to go back to Jin Qilin's class. The stubborn guy refused to give in.
No matter how the teacher persuaded him, he wouldn't listen, neither left the sunflower class nor let us continue rehearsing the program. As a result, there is a "war" between our mother and son almost every day in the class, to outdo each other!
This incident caused the director's dissatisfaction. I was embarrassed, too, and offered to leave.
When I was unprepared, my son entered a stubborn and sensitive period, and decided what to do by himself!
I stayed at home with my son for a while after leaving my job. During the period, I often communicated with my son and told him to abide by the rules of kindergarten.
I am not discouraged, and I have not given up my good idea of going to the same kindergarten as my son.
I submitted my resume to a new kindergarten in the city.
It is said that this kindergarten fully implements Montessori education and is an advanced private kindergarten that advocates "love and freedom".
Because I graduated from preschool education, and I am the mother of a three-and-a-half-year-old child, I have some experience in parenting, so I was quickly admitted to this Montessori kindergarten and was assigned to a branch near my home.
My son and I moved to this new garden, and Rare was put in the Montessori class on the second floor. I am responsible for the children who have just entered the kindergarten in a small class on the first floor to help them adapt to kindergarten life.
The new children in the park are emotionally unstable. At this time, I will take them to the yard to feed rabbits, watch goldfish by the shallow pool and pick fruits in the small vegetable garden.
Individual crying children, hug and gently touch, give children a sense of security, and guide children to play and play together.
The children quickly adapted to the collective life wholeheartedly. They are very attached to me and affectionately call me "Mother Chen".
My persistence in my work and the name "mother Chen" once again angered my son, who became more and more paranoid.
Rare began to refuse to go to class on the second floor, and watched our class like a policeman every day. In his sight, I am not allowed to hold other children. If any child calls me "mother Chen", he will be hysterical: "She is my mother, not your mother!" This kind of furious behavior makes the children in the class cry, and I have a headache.
The director of this branch park is an unmarried girl. She used to be a teacher in an ordinary park for five years. Because he participated in the newly-emerging Montessori education and training, he did well in the exam and was promoted to the director of the branch park.
I was anxious to solve my son's interference in my work, so I went to ask the director, hoping that she could use Montessori's knowledge and experience in pedagogy to help Rare and I get out of the predicament.
The director said that in addition to the "love and freedom" advocated by Montessori education, there are also "rules and equality", suggesting that the extreme behavior of rare things should be punished:
Shut up in the office and reflect.
From what I know about my son's personality, it doesn't seem to be of any use to him, and I'm worried that it will cast a shadow on his heart. But in the face of the present situation, I still want to try the guidance of the director's "new concept".
With mixed feelings, I am looking forward to a good result.
After school, kindergarten children began to be picked up by their parents. The director took Rarity's little hand into the office to communicate.
Half an hour later, the stubborn son still refused to admit his mistake. The director closed the door of the "little black room" while he was not paying attention and entered the punishment mode.
Seeing the door closed, Rare began to cry and kicked the office door. Hearing my son's crying, I was distressed and wanted to go in and see him. The director held me back. She said I should harden my heart and ignore him until he was willing to admit his mistake.
Time passed in a rare cry, and I resisted the impulse to rush in and began the longest wait. ...
However, contrary to expectations, Rarity cried at the top of her lungs in the office for nearly two hours and refused to give in.
At this time, I thought the director would change the way of education when he saw his stubbornness, but he didn't. ...
The director said that every time he broke the rules, he would be locked in the office until he admitted his mistake.
Hearing this sentence, I was surprised and a little annoyed.
I began to regret that I shouldn't pin all my hopes on a young director in the cloak of "love and freedom, rules and equality". She just used punishment simply and rudely, but did not study and understand the child's heart and find out the problem.
As a mother, I even ignored this. I only wanted to solve the trouble my son brought to my work, but I didn't pay attention to the reasons behind his behavior and listened carefully to the child's low voice.
This is the conclusion reached in two hours of suffering.
At this time, my heart is full of doubts, anger, love and guilt ... all kinds of emotions, and I am also relieved. I firmly opened the door of the office.
Seeing my son's face full of tears and red eyes, I took his little hand out of the Mongolian garden. ...
With questions and doubts, I entered Montessori education and began to study and recharge at my own expense.
From the beginner's class, advanced class and lecturer's class, the deeper you learn, the more you feel your own shortcomings.
Montessori education advocates paying attention to children's inner world, revealing children's needs and gaining insight into children's personality.
Children aged two to four are as stubborn and sensitive as rare animals.
At this time, children have the boundary of "yours and mine", and they are disobedient and lose their temper because during this period, they begin to grow up like adults and have their own thoughts.
Through learning, I understand that in the face of stubborn and sensitive children, we must not fight hard. One is to have enough patience, the other is to understand children, and the third is to know how to respond flexibly.
Parents and teachers, as the guides of children, should not be overly depressed, divert their attention in time, give them more attention, encouragement and love, and let them naturally transition to a stubborn and sensitive period.
Try every means to make him yield, blindly suppress, his resistance may be stronger, and it is easy to cause children's willfulness, entanglement, stubbornness and other personality characteristics.
After understanding this, I no longer distinguish behavior by strict "right" or "wrong" in the process of getting along with my son. On some unimportant matters, I let my son make his own decisions, give him some freedom and satisfy his desire for independence.
Gradually, my son's personality began to become easy-going and cheerful, and he also learned to express his feelings in words and often confided his thoughts to me.
Children grow up day by day, and parents need to learn and progress. Only by keeping up with children's growth can we better accompany children and become their mentors. After all, parents are the best teachers for children.