I think it's normal for couples to quarrel over their children's education. My wife and I occasionally encounter this situation. I think this matter should be treated dialectically, because the quarrel in this matter shows that both sides are more concerned about children's education, and neither side has taken an indifferent or indifferent attitude towards children's education. At this point, you should be sure that the other party has thought deeply about children's education, which should be affirmed and must be seen. If one party thinks that the other party's education method or concept is contrary to his own, he should not rush in front of the children, which will damage our image as parents in the eyes of the children. Because this matter has been accused by both sides, do you think children will be calm when they disagree with others in the future? We want our children to be a calm person. First of all, we should establish an unhurried and unhurried image in front of children. I think parents should have a clear goal and train of thought when dealing with their children's problems or educating their children. At this point, the two sides must reach an agreement, including what role they should play in children's education, such as who should be the mainstay in learning and who should be the mainstay in life, and both sides should have a clear division of labor. This is a problem that both husband and wife should discuss behind closed doors. If the two sides can't reach an agreement on many things, I think we can reach an agreement on a small issue first, with one party participating and the other trying to give each other enough trust and support. Through constant adjustment and trial, we finally find a method that can give full play to one side's advantages and is effective for children. Educating children is a protracted war and systematic. The opinions of either party can add different ways of solving problems to this child's educational thought. Therefore, we must establish the spirit of perseverance and stick to it all the time. Neither party should arbitrarily think that the other party's opinion is absolutely useless, so it's okay to give it a try first. Only by constantly trying and adjusting in practice can you get the best solution that suits you best. So I think it will take time. Please trust each other and give full confidence and patience. I wish you an ideal state as soon as possible and find the best solution!

I'm glad to answer it for you. Children are the crystallization of husband and wife's love. Both husband and wife have high hopes for their children. However, because they come from different family environments, different growth experiences, personality characteristics and values, there will be inconsistencies in educating children. Some families often have differences and quarrels about educating their children. So, what should we do? Marriage and family counseling will explain it to you.

"The child is two years old. I hope my child is independent, optimistic and confident, so that she can play freely and do what she wants without danger. But my wife thinks it's dirty and dangerous here, and she won't let the children try it, which makes them very timid. Sometimes she also says that I don't care about my children, don't care about her feelings, and often quarrel with me about my children. What should I do? "

"My husband and I often quarrel about how to discipline our children. He won't listen to me, and I can't accept his way. He is strict and fierce with children and often scolds them loudly. I don't think this is good for his children. I can't accept it, and neither can the children. They basically don't talk to their father. Now, the atmosphere in our family is very depressing. I dare not speak ill of my child to him, because it will happen again if he knows. I can't change him, what should I do? "

It is normal for parents to have different opinions on their children's education. Husband and wife may have something in common, but due to the differences in life background, education level and personal habits, the two sides often cannot reach an agreement on many issues. The inconsistency of parenting concept will not only affect the harmony of husband and wife's feelings, but also bring harm to children. First, the inconsistency of educational ideas brings harm to children. Inconsistency in family education will make children at a loss and don't know who is right or wrong. When parents disagree on their children's education, children will choose the one who is beneficial to them out of instinctive self-protection psychology, which will not only offset the educational power and damage the prestige of parents, but also make children have two sides, and use their parents' contradictions to achieve their own goals without reflecting on whether their demands are reasonable. Moreover, in some families, when there are differences, one party is completely dominant, and it is difficult for the other party to express their opinions, which is detrimental to the prestige of parents in their children's hearts. In this way, children are prone to depression, and it is difficult to express their true inner needs. When they see difficulties, they often feel powerless and choose to escape.

Second, why do partners have different views on education? No one taught us how to be parents. We can only imitate our parents or people around us from life. In the face of unreasonable educational methods, parents usually use two reasons to defend themselves: that's what my parents taught me, but I'm fine now. That's what other parents teach their children. Why don't their children have so many problems? Many parents think that what others have done must be right and what parents have done must be right. Faced with this mode of thinking, many education experts will feel that it is easy to change children, but it is more difficult to change parents! A father will be strict with his children, because that's how he was treated when he was young. He just learned this way to get along with children, and even some people have never learned true love because it is a manifestation of love, and have never understood the psychological development and real needs of children. A mother who has never been taken care of by her parents since childhood dotes on her children very much. She doesn't want her children to make the same mistake, but it hinders their normal psychological development, because this is not their real need. When parents find that the way they or their partners love their children is biased or has a bad influence on their children, they should seek the help of professional psychological counselors in time, so that parents can mend past wounds, truly see their children's needs, learn the correct expression of love, and let their children grow up healthily.

Third, how to deal with the differences in educational views? Educate children to avoid confrontation, but this is not to give up carelessly, but to actively find solutions. First of all, the relationship between husband and wife should be harmonious. Parents complain to each other that only their own methods are right. This is not education, but venting one's dissatisfaction. When the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, husband and wife impose their own opinions, including dissatisfaction and complaints about each other, on their children, hoping that the children can "share the same enemy" with themselves in order to achieve the goal of "winning". If one parent disagrees with the way the other parent treats the child, they should not raise objections or even argue in front of the child, but the husband and wife should communicate privately afterwards, put forward their own opinions and discuss together. Secondly, actively interpret each other's educational methods. Try to rationalize each other's behavior in front of children. If a child complains to his mother that his father is too strict, his mother can say, "Of course, his father wants you to be successful when you grow up!" " "Similarly, if the child shows off to his father that his mother says he can play, his father can say," Mom is afraid that you are tired of learning, so have fun while playing, and study hard when you are finished. "In this way, it is not easy for children to take advantage of their parents' divergent education and make both parents lose their authority.

Third, respect children's thoughts and feelings. Children are the focus of education. Couples should educate their children on the premise of respecting their wishes, and they should not blindly regard their children as their own belongings and shape them at will. If children have certain independent thinking ability, they can communicate with children, ask their opinions and ideas, and solve problems together. It is normal for parents to have different opinions on their children's education. Husband and wife need mutual understanding and respect. But for the better growth of children, all family members should be consistent in education (including attitudes, requirements and methods). Even if there are contradictions and conflicts, we should avoid children and discuss them together in order to reach agreement.

Children are the crystallization of husband and wife's love, and both husband and wife have high hopes for children. However, because they come from different family environments and different growth experiences, there are differences in personality characteristics and values, and there will be inconsistencies in educating children. Some families often have differences and quarrels about educating their children. So, what should we do? Marriage and family counseling will explain it to you.

"The child is two years old. I hope my child is independent, optimistic and confident, so that she can play freely and do what she wants without danger. But my wife thinks it's dirty and dangerous here, and she won't let the children try it, which makes them very timid. Sometimes she also says that I don't care about my children, don't care about her feelings, and often quarrel with me about my children. What should I do? "

"My husband and I often quarrel about how to discipline our children. He won't listen to me, and I can't accept his way. He is strict and fierce with children and often scolds them loudly. I don't think this is good for his children. I can't accept it, and neither can the children. They basically don't talk to their father. Now, the atmosphere in our family is very depressing. I dare not speak ill of my child to him, because it will happen again if he knows. I can't change him, what should I do? "

It is normal for parents to have different opinions on their children's education. Husband and wife may have something in common, but due to the differences in life background, education level and personal habits, the two sides often cannot reach an agreement on many issues. The inconsistency of parenting concept will not only affect the harmony of husband and wife's feelings, but also bring harm to children. First, the inconsistency of educational ideas brings harm to children. Inconsistency in family education will make children at a loss and don't know who is right or wrong. When parents disagree on their children's education, children will choose the one who is beneficial to them out of instinctive self-protection psychology, which will not only offset the educational power and damage the prestige of parents, but also make children have two sides, and use their parents' contradictions to achieve their own goals without reflecting on whether their demands are reasonable. Moreover, in some families, when there are differences, one party is completely dominant, and it is difficult for the other party to express their opinions, which is detrimental to the prestige of parents in their children's hearts. In this way, children are prone to depression, and it is difficult to express their true inner needs. When they see difficulties, they often feel powerless and choose to escape.

Second, why do partners have different views on education? No one taught us how to be parents. We can only imitate our parents or people around us from life. In the face of unreasonable educational methods, parents usually use two reasons to defend themselves: that's what my parents taught me, but I'm fine now. That's what other parents teach their children. Why don't their children have so many problems? Many parents think that what others have done must be right and what parents have done must be right. Faced with this mode of thinking, many education experts will feel that it is easy to change children, but it is more difficult to change parents! A father will be strict with his children, because that's how he was treated when he was young. He just learned this way to get along with children, and even some people have never learned true love because it is a manifestation of love, and have never understood the psychological development and real needs of children. A mother who has never been taken care of by her parents since childhood dotes on her children very much. She doesn't want her children to make the same mistake, but it hinders their normal psychological development, because this is not their real need. When parents find that the way they or their partners love their children is biased or has a bad influence on their children, they should seek the help of professional psychological counselors in time, so that parents can mend past wounds, truly see their children's needs, learn the correct expression of love, and let their children grow up healthily.

Third, how to deal with the differences in educational views? Educate children to avoid confrontation, but this is not to give up carelessly, but to actively find solutions. First of all, the relationship between husband and wife should be harmonious. Parents complain to each other that only their own methods are right. This is not education, but venting one's dissatisfaction. When the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, husband and wife impose their own opinions, including dissatisfaction and complaints about each other, on their children, hoping that the children can "share the same enemy" with themselves in order to achieve the goal of "winning". If one parent disagrees with the way the other parent treats the child, they should not raise objections or even argue in front of the child, but the husband and wife should communicate privately afterwards, put forward their own opinions and discuss together. Secondly, actively interpret each other's educational methods. Try to rationalize each other's behavior in front of children. If a child complains to his mother that his father is too strict, his mother can say, "Of course, his father wants you to be successful when you grow up!" " "Similarly, if the child shows off to his father that his mother says he can play, his father can say," Mom is afraid that you are tired of learning, so have fun while playing, and study hard when you are finished. "In this way, it is not easy for children to take advantage of their parents' divergent education and make both parents lose their authority.

Third, respect children's thoughts and feelings. Children are the focus of education. Couples should educate their children on the premise of respecting their wishes, and they should not blindly regard their children as their own belongings and shape them at will. If children have certain independent thinking ability, they can communicate with children, ask their opinions and ideas, and solve problems together.

It is normal for parents to have different opinions on their children's education. Husband and wife need mutual understanding and respect. But for the better growth of children, all family members should be consistent in education (including attitudes, requirements and methods). Even if there are contradictions and conflicts, we should avoid children and discuss them together in order to reach agreement.

Why do partners have different views on education? No one taught us how to be parents. We can only imitate our parents or people around us from life. In the face of unreasonable educational methods, parents usually use two reasons to defend themselves: that's what my parents taught me, but I'm fine now. That's what other parents teach their children. Why don't their children have so many problems? Many parents think that what others have done must be right and what parents have done must be right. Faced with this mode of thinking, many education experts will feel that it is easy to change children, but it is more difficult to change parents! A father will be strict with his children, because that's how he was treated when he was young. He just learned this way to get along with children, and even some people have never learned true love because it is a manifestation of love, and have never understood the psychological development and real needs of children. A mother who has never been taken care of by her parents since childhood dotes on her children very much. She doesn't want her children to make the same mistake, but it hinders their normal psychological development, because this is not their real need. When parents find that the way they or their partners love their children is biased or has a bad influence on their children, they should seek the help of professional psychological counselors in time, so that parents can mend past wounds, truly see their children's needs, learn the correct expression of love, and let their children grow up healthily.

It is the last thing for two people to have conflicts in order to educate their children. Every parent who comes over has experienced such a thing.

First of all, we all want our children to be good, and we all want our children to be dragons and phoenixes among people. Therefore, it is necessary for you two to make three chapters.

First of all, whoever is right should listen to him. If the other party is not wrong, discipline the child, you can't protect it in the middle, otherwise it will be counterproductive. If you have other ideas, you can communicate with your lover privately.

I'll tell you the best way. Children can divide their work when educating you. For example, if you help your child learn Chinese and your lover studies math, there will be no contradiction.

In a word, don't separate husband and wife because of their children's education. You should work hard in one place, so as to educate good children.

First of all, I have personal feelings, and I will only talk about my personal views and opinions here.

Educating children is a university question, and there will always be parents' deep-rooted starting point during the teaching period, because people are never too old to learn, and some questions and views on things are still ambiguous.

Besides, I think there is too much competition in education in China. For example, there is no need to attend cram schools, some unnecessary classes, unnecessary comparisons, or find that children's development is professional.

Guiding education is still very important.

Hello! I'm happy to answer your question.

I think the relationship between husband and wife is deeper because of children. After all, children are the crystallization of two people and the hope and future of a family. Because of having children, the marriage is more happy, and because of having children, there will be more topics between husband and wife. You see, after marriage, I face two people every day, staring at each other with small eyes, which is really boring. Since the birth of the child, there has been so much busyness and happiness at home, and there have been so many "struggles" between husband and wife. Take children's education as an example. Almost every couple has their own ideas about educating their children, and they can't be exactly the same. Then there will be many "conflicts" between them. You said that she dotes on her children, and she said that the way you educate your children is wrong. You should discuss with each other and be calm. Blind quarreling will only affect children's education. In his childhood, the shadow was the picture of his parents quarreling every day. Educating children should pay attention to ways and means and adopt correct ones.

Children's education is a very important issue in family conflicts, which may lead to serious consequences if it is not handled properly. When discussing children's problems, couples should talk calmly and arrange education according to children's hobbies. Husband and wife should discuss peacefully according to their own actual situation, and the best opinion is the best. The quarrel between husband and wife has a great influence on the growth of children. Don't quarrel any more.

Perhaps it is not just the education of children, but the contradiction of this issue is more acute. The leading power of education is either dominated by the father or the mother, and one party fully cooperates. Are you all arguing, or what?