Learning habits refer to the special tendency of children to engage in certain activities spontaneously in a specific learning situation. In other words, children will learn automatically at some point. For example, a teacher's child goes to Shanghai to take part in a national competition. After the teacher came back, he said with emotion, "On the cruise ship that day, after dinner, all the students enjoyed the scenery on the deck. After a while, no one reminded him or asked him. The teacher's children went to the hut by themselves, took out a book and began to study like no one else's watching.
My son is learning Go. From the first day of playing chess, I insisted on playing chess with him after 7 o'clock every morning. It's been nine months now. Occasionally come home late and let him take a bath and sleep without playing Go. I didn't tell him not to play chess today, but my son would take the initiative to remind me: "Mom, I didn't play chess today, you forgot." It is these months that he has formed this habit.
Second, how to scientifically guide children to develop habits?
Professor Sun Yunxiao's formula is: cultivate good addition habits; Overcome bad habits by subtraction. Then how can we cultivate the habit of addition? For example, to cultivate children's habit of painting, draw a rabbit today, a rabbit eating grass tomorrow, and draw a meadow, a flower, a white cloud and a sun tomorrow. Over time, he got into the habit of drawing. How to overcome bad habits through subtraction? It is normal for a child to sit still on a stool. A careful mother watched her son do his homework, drinking water for a while, peeing for a while, and coming out four or five times an hour. Mother is not worried when she sees it. The next day, before the child did his homework, she gave the child a suggestion: finish all the things he should do before sitting down. I think it is ok for you to come out three times when you are doing your homework. Unsurprisingly, children seldom go out with the encouragement of their mothers; A few days later, the mother proposed to reduce it again, and the child easily reduced it again. Parents' requirements are gradually reduced until children can concentrate on finishing their homework, which can not only help children overcome bad habits, but also protect their self-confidence. Good habits can't be formed overnight, so we should persevere.
Some parents report that children's inattention in class, lack of interest in reading, careless observation of things and poor memory will all affect their good study habits. In view of the confusion caused by parents' bad study habits, this paper introduces some family education methods for parents from five aspects: cultivating learning interest, cultivating attention, cultivating reading habits, cultivating active study habits and cultivating memory:
(A), to cultivate children's interest in learning
Children's interests are often formed in childhood. Children of different ages and qualities often have their own unique interests. The development and expression of children's interests is often a harbinger of their talent and quality. Parents should always ask their children about their hobbies and guide them to cultivate their interests. A scholar once compared a child's interest in learning and self-motivation to a small flame sown by parents in their children's hearts. When parents light this fire in their children's hearts, it is like a pile of dry wood that needs to be lit. A small flame fell on it and was blown out by the wind. The wind is too weak to light. The firewood is too tight and loose to catch fire or wet it. We should carefully "coax" it, let it burn slowly, and finally become a raging fire.
So, how to cultivate children's interest in learning from family education?
1, improve learning fun and cultivate students' direct interest. Yang Zhenning, a famous physicist, once said that he disapproved of being called a "diligent person" because he never felt "bitter". On the contrary, he felt endless "joy". If learning can bring happiness to children, then children will definitely like learning, and the younger the children, the greater their interest in learning. For example, some children like to draw, maybe he likes to draw on paper with colored crayons, watching colored lines extend and expand on paper, and his thoughts and imagination roam and rotate freely with imagination; Perhaps his teacher often praises him, although his painting skills are not so good. So, how to make learning happy?
First of all, praise more and criticize less. Be good at discovering the strengths of each child. Some parents say that "such a simple thing can only be played", which makes them very disappointed, but they don't know that the best weapon has also been criticized and polished. Over time, children will feel that they are poor, always have mistakes, have the pressure of learning, and hate learning. If the child does something wrong, of course, he should criticize it, so that the child can understand why adults criticize the child and let the child understand the truth. Secondly, let the children succeed from the beginning. Adults should try their best to let children master knowledge and learn from scratch, which can enhance their self-confidence and let them experience the fun of learning.
2. Clear learning objectives and cultivate indirect interests; The experience of excellent parents also proves that learning goal education should be combined with children's ideological reality, adhere to patient and meticulous positive education, and link learning goals with life goals in various forms with vivid and infectious examples in order to receive good results. For example, some children learn dance. She doesn't like the practice of basic dance skills, so she can't suffer. But she is very interested in the results of learning dance and participating in various performance activities, and can encourage children to practice basic dance skills. Therefore, parents should make full use of their children's direct interest, stimulate their enthusiasm for diligent study, and improve their indirect interest through learning purpose education. Many psychologists have realized the active role of interest in activities. Piaget, a Swiss child psychologist, called interest an "energy regulator". Pan Wei, a famous psychologist in China, believes that interest is the most realistic and active factor in learning motivation. Children's interest in learning can stimulate their enthusiasm for learning and promote them to get good grades.