Many teenagers' children will have some deviations in self-concept, which will even affect their adulthood.

For example, my friend Komatsu is a person who speaks very quietly. He said that because his parents didn't let him talk much since he was a child, after a long time, he felt that he was a person who didn't deserve to talk, and he was also worried about saying the wrong thing. So even now that he is working, the problem of speaking softly has not been completely overcome.

Many times, when children have problems, we can't help losing our temper. But when you calm down and think about it, you will find that you just want to get rid of anxiety by losing your temper.

Therefore, when encountering problems, don't blame the child for the first time, but help the child to establish a positive self-concept, give him more positive encouragement, and convince him that he can overcome difficulties and achieve success.

If parents educate their children with love and respect, they will learn to love and respect.

2) Have a positive dialogue with your child.

When a child encounters a problem, parents should not pay too much attention to the problem itself, don't nag and preach, but consider the child's feelings more, and don't let the child feel scared and accused.

For example, when children do their homework, they often go out for a drink, go to the toilet and eat something. If you pay attention to the problem itself, you will feel that the child is not paying attention, and you may say, "Have you done your homework?" I don't think you have put your mind on your study at all. "

And if you have a positive conversation with your child, you can say, "Are you tired of doing your homework? What do you think of every 40-minute break 10 minute? "

For another example, if your child is not good at math and you are in a hurry, most parents may say, "Junior high school is coming. Your poor math performance depends on what you do. " In this way, children will be very nervous and even afraid of studying.

If you have a positive conversation with your child, you can say, "What would you change if you woke up tomorrow and found that your math scores were good?" This beautiful expectation can make children full of motivation and discuss with you how to achieve it step by step.

In this way, children will be more willing to solve problems by discovering their positive behaviors and asking questions patiently. Parents can try more and then apply the successful experience to other scenes.

In addition, parents can guide their children to move forward by strengthening their advantages, encouraging them to establish good habits, guiding them positively and cultivating their self-confidence and sense of responsibility.

Remember, if parents can give their children enough time and care and guide them in a positive way, they can cultivate enviable "other people's children."