Before every child goes to school, most of the habits he learns or develops come from his parents. I remember Suhomlinski once said that "the spiritual wealth in children's personality, as well as the thirst for knowledge, curiosity, exploration spirit and quick thinking mentioned by educators, all depend to a great extent on the environment in which children live from 2 to 6 or 7 years old." Then, the children at this stage are all preschool children, and their education is basically family education. Parents can't ignore the influence on their children.
This requires a good grasp of children's primary school stage, to be strict, so that children can develop good habits from an early age. Parents should set an example first. Only by doing it yourself can children follow suit. The primary school stage is a critical period to cultivate children's good habits, so we must seize this important critical period.
In the process of children's growth, parents should also dare to let their children do what they can, cultivate their sense of independence, and don't let them feel dependent. Maybe sometimes children don't do well the first time, but if they do it a few times more, they will always do well! If you don't learn, you'll never do it well.
Try to be friends with children. Only by becoming good friends, children can communicate with their parents in time if they have any questions or opinions about anything, and parents can better understand their children, correct their wrong thoughts in time, and effectively reduce the occurrence of bad behaviors.
Parents should also keep in touch with teachers. Parents should know their children's school situation in time, so that home-school education can work together, parents can also master scientific education methods, and it is also beneficial for teachers to understand their children's personality characteristics and family education environment and educate their children in a targeted manner. Only when parents and schools reach an agreement on education and home-school cooperation can the effect of education get twice the result with half the effort. Mo Yan, the winner of Nobel Prize in Literature in China, once said: Every one of us has received the earliest family education since birth, which is also the most affected family education. This kind of education has words and deeds, and he thinks that setting an example is more important than words and deeds. Example is an invisible education, and example is dominant. Many times, invisible education will have a greater impact, invade people's hearts and become a way of life and living habits. But in life, many times people often ignore this subtle influence and always love to educate their children with words. I always think that "speak out or speak out" is education! This is very one-sided. Therefore, every family should pay more attention to the influence of role models on children's growth.
Family style is a long-term formation of a family or family, which can affect the traditional fashion and virtue inheritance of family members' spirit, morality and behavior. We often hear "Xinglin family" (medicine), "Liyuan family" (opera), "educated family" and so on. Therefore, the quality of family style often affects several generations, even a dozen or dozens of generations.
It is reported that there are two families in the United States, one is the Edward family and the other is the Zuk family. Edward is a virtuous, knowledgeable, diligent, versatile and rigorous person. His descendants include 13 university presidents, 100 professors, more than 80 writers, more than 60 doctors, a vice president, an ambassador and 20 parliamentarians. Zuk, on the other hand, is an alcoholic, gambler and rogue, who has been in a daze all his life. Among his descendants, more than 300 were beggars and vagrants, more than 400 were disabled or killed by alcoholism, more than 60 were guilty of fraud and theft, and 7 were murderers. None of them are promising.
This information is really shocking and thought-provoking. It reveals a profound truth: a family or its family style, good or bad, good or evil, has a very long-term influence and strong penetration on the whole family, and it will affect the growth of many generations of future generations for a long time. Therefore, a family or family's family style must be positive, not only to establish a family by virtue, but also to govern the country by virtue; We must also persist in reading and adhere to the road of rejuvenating the family and learning people through culture.
There are no parents who are naturally successful, and there are no parents who don't need to learn. Successful parents are the result of continuous learning and improvement. Only when parents grow up, children will not fall behind. So what should we do in life? Here I recommend to you: three principles that excellent parents consciously follow when communicating with their children:
One is listening. Many times, parents often don't give their children a chance to speak. Parents will interrupt a child as soon as he opens his mouth. Then tell the children what they think is a very reasonable way of education. In fact, this practice is very undesirable. In life, we should create opportunities for children to speak out and listen carefully to understand the true meaning of their words. Communicating with children in life still requires certain skills. There is a book "How to Listen to Children before Listening to Children" recommended to everyone, I believe it will be helpful to everyone.
The second is understanding. Think from the child's point of view, look at the problem from the child's point of view, not from your own position. We often say to squat down and talk to children. That's why. Only when we stand from the same angle as children can we see the real world in their eyes and truly understand their situation.
The third is the suggestion. Parents should be able to give their children reasonable advice in time when they encounter problems and ask their parents for help. Because many times, even if it is reasonable, children may not be able to take the right action, because children have limited experience and lack the necessary experience. Therefore, parents need to give appropriate help. In life, if every parent can follow these three principles, I believe that your relationship with your child will become more and more harmonious, and your child's physical and mental development will become more and more healthy!
Family education is the starting point of educating children and has a great influence on them. I hope every parent can learn some correct family education concepts and make unremitting efforts for the healthy growth of their children!