Common family education methods, educating children, often make many parents feel headache. In fact, family education can also be enjoyable. Never beat and scold children blindly. There are many ways of family education. A good family can give correct guidance and demonstration to children's character and conduct. The following are some common ways of family education.
The common way of family education is 1 education. The so-called role model is an educational way that directly affects children with the actual movements of the eyes. Example is one of the most important and common forms of family education. Whether parents consciously or unconsciously, their actions are playing a certain educational role. Children and teenagers have little social experience and narrow social contact, so their parents and brothers in the family where they live day and night will naturally become their role models, and their parents and brothers will become their earliest and longest-serving teachers.
Suhomlinski, a famous educator in the former Soviet Union, once said: "The all-round development of human beings depends on what kind of people mothers and fathers are in front of their children, and on how children understand interpersonal relationships and social environment from their parents' role models. "It can be seen that the practical actions of parents play an important role.
First of all, parents are required to pay strict attention to their own self-cultivation when adopting this educational method of setting an example. Our country has attached great importance to self-cultivation since ancient times. "Four Books and Universities" once said: "Those who want to be famous in the world in ancient times should rule their country first; If you want to govern your country, you should first get your family together; If you want to reunite with your family, repair yourself first. " It can be seen that the importance and foundation of "practicing the body first". If parents don't set an example, it's difficult to educate noble children. Secondly, parents are required to behave correctly. Every move of parents. Even a small move may have a far-reaching impact on children. If you don't pay attention to restraining yourself in front of your children, it is tantamount to inadvertently instigating your children to learn bad. In addition, in front of children, we must do what we say. We shouldn't cajole children just because they are young. In ancient times, I participated in killing pigs because my wife inadvertently said that she would kill pigs for her children. In order to prevent children from learning to cheat in the future, Zeng Shen really killed pigs. This is the famous story of "Cooking makes education". In the process of educating children, we should also learn this serious and meticulous attitude.
Words and deeds, the so-called words and deeds, is an educational way to persuade and guide with perceptual language. Words and deeds are also an indispensable way of education in family education. In the process of education, we emphasize that "teaching by example is more important than teaching by words, which is very important."
But leading by example cannot replace teaching by example, because:
One: teaching can only tell women what to do, but can't tell children why to do it;
Second, there are many educational contents, which cannot be completed by examples alone;
Thirdly, we can put forward clearer goals and specific requirements through writing teaching.
Family education is different from school education in which teachers stand on the podium. If you bring home the "report" and other forms that you often use at school, you will certainly fail. In family education, words and deeds should be moved by emotion and understood by reason; Clear and specific; Just right. Specifically, there are persuasion, dissuasion, praise, criticism, consultation, discussion and other forms.
Common family education methods 2 Parents all over the world love their children, but they just can't love them properly. On the contrary, it hurts their natural innocence step by step and affects their lives. Adults' own behavior, in particular, is an example for babies to learn and follow. This 10 family education and family atmosphere is the most unsuitable environment for the baby to grow up.
The first charge: paternalism
In the traditional China family, parents insist on what kind of person their children should be and what kind of person they can't be. Now children don't have to kneel, but have we achieved the most basic democracy in family life? For example, have parents ever asked their children for advice on matters involving their interests? When there is a dispute within the family, whether it makes sense or not, parents are always used to using simple and rude methods to make decisions instead of their children in the name of "everything is for your own good". And this kind of behavior is a knife, cutting away the democratic consciousness in the child's heart and making him feel that power can overcome everything.
The second sin: none of your business.
When you fought with your sister over how to raise your elderly parents and brother and share your parents' legacy, did you notice a pair of frightened eyes looking at your performance in disbelief? When you saw a thief break into a neighbor's door and you hurriedly pulled your son away, did you find that his other hand was a fist? When your daughter told you that the faucet in the community garden was broken, did you take the tools to repair it or call the property right away, or told her to mind her own business? You pretended not to see the old man who couldn't stand on the bus. When the child wanted to get up and give up his seat, you stopped him with your eyes. Your performance is part of the subtle family education for your children. Every move you make, in his young mind, cuts off the love for children and plants the seeds of selfishness.
The third sin: "white" lies
Once children learn to lie, they can avoid being beaten or scolded, or let the pain of the flesh come back later, and they may gradually become experts in lying. Children are forced to lie. If telling the truth can benefit, who is willing to risk lying? Many children have a puzzle-why do adults lie and children don't? When the child thinks about this problem, it shows that he has found that adults often lie. Our interpretation of children often thinks that our lies are "good". But for children, whether it is good or bad, it is a lie!
The fourth sin: put an end to adventure
The children want to swim in the river. Adults don't teach them how to protect themselves in the water, but simply refuse-the reason is of course dangerous. Of course, for safety reasons, children are not allowed to climb mountains.
Children are in their teens and dare not go shopping alone at the door because the street is dangerous. I won't peel the apple myself, because the knife is dangerous. Twenty-year-olds can't cook with fire because gas is dangerous. Yes! Now the society is a bit chaotic. It is dangerous to go out, but not safe at home. But how do you grow up holding them all the time? A child who cannot experience any danger must be mediocre. Danger is everywhere, and hiding can't solve the problem The key is to teach children to know the danger and deal with the crisis.
The fifth crime: not obeying laws and regulations.
Children who cross the street by themselves rarely run red lights. Children will also ride bicycles on bicycle lanes in an appropriate way. When children are in kindergarten, they recite the formula "stop at the red light and go at the green light". But when they go shopping with their parents, they are always dragged by adults not to take crosswalks, underpasses or footbridges, but to cross the railing and cross the road. The excuse of adults is that I am busy and in a hurry. As everyone knows, this knife makes children realize that the rules can be disobeyed and their own interests outweigh the seriousness of the rules. Many people drive with their children, with no traffic rules in their minds and no traffic signs in their eyes, and they rampage in the street. They can't restrain themselves until they see the police uncle. This teaches children that the rule of man is greater than the rule of law. In the case that the executor of the regulation can't see it, he can trample on the regulation for his own benefit.