Parents often look at their children from the perspective of adults. In fact, children have their own world. They are novel about everything, full of fantasy, good at games and love to ask questions. But some parents keep their children well-behaved and always want to turn them into adults. This kind of education divorced from age characteristics will easily lead to the gap between the two generations, and most of them will fail. Parents don't understand children in many ways, such as children's hobbies are different from their parents', behavior habits are different from their parents' and so on. Children's practices often have the characteristics of the times, while parents' practices often have traces of the past. The experiences of the two generations are different, and of course there will be a lot of incomprehension. First of all, if you don't understand the child's psychology, there will be no childlike innocence. Although you are thinking about the children, it is difficult to achieve good results. Some children want to replace their electric toys with clay figurines in their hands, and some children will spend all their money to raise a tadpole. These are incredible things for adults, but they are normal for children. Every child, whether it is thoughts, feelings, feelings, happiness, anxiety or sadness, is a unique world. Whoever understands the child's psychology will win the child's heart and gain the initiative in education; On the contrary, it will lead to the phenomenon of arrogance, and even be disgusted by children, which is thankless and thankless. Second, know the child's requirements. In order to understand children's psychological requirements, American scholar Hertz conducted a survey of 654.38+million children in more than 20 countries on five continents, and found that children's main requirements for their parents are 654.38+00:(654.38+0) children are present, and don't quarrel. (2) Every child should give the same love, and don't be partial. (3) Don't break your word or lie to your child at any time, and keep your word. (4) Mothers should be modest and understand each other. (5) Parents and children should keep close relationship. (7) Answer children's questions as comprehensively as possible. (8) Don't tell your child's fault in front of his friends. (9) pay attention to observe and praise the advantages of children, and don't overemphasize the shortcomings. (10) Love for children should be stable, don't be hot and cold, and don't lose your temper easily. Third, always remember your childhood. Everyone has a wonderful childhood. As a parent, Keren often forgets his childhood and blindly asks his children in an adult mood. If parents can often recall their childhood and put themselves in their children's shoes when they encounter problems, it will be easy to understand their children's feelings and the way of educating them will naturally change. For example, if the child is bouncing around energetically, parents have to let the child go home at once, and the child's mouth will pout. Why? Because she just finished dancing and wanted to give someone a rubber band. If she walks away, the children will be dissatisfied with her. If she waits until it's her turn to dance and her parents tell her to go home, she will be dissatisfied. If parents understand the child's mood and say that they will go home after playing for a few minutes, the child will be psychologically prepared, and after the end, they will consciously stop playing, and the imbalance in their hearts will be solved. Parents should not forget their childhood: painting foreign paintings, playing marbles, slingshots, jumping rubber bands, jumping houses, playing tiger chess, blowing bubbles, and playing house have all fascinated us; Riding a horse to fight, having snowball fights and playing hide-and-seek have also excited us. If we can recall these things, it will be of great benefit to understand and guide children correctly. There is no true love without understanding. If you don't understand your children, your parents' love for your children will disgust you. The key is that your parents are divorced from the reality of your children, forcing others to do what they want, and even using your children as a tool to carry out your will. On the contrary, from the standpoint of children, we can treat our demands with children's eyes, support our legitimate demands, share joys and sorrows with children, be psychologically connected and integrate emotions into one, so as to love accurately, profoundly and fairly. Of course, understanding is not an end, but the starting point of education. Understanding cannot replace education, but it is often difficult to educate without understanding. Some children are emotionally opposed to their parents, often because parents don't understand their children and simply and rudely educate them.