Isabella Chow's Reading Notes on Appreciation Education 1 describes how he used the great energy of appreciation in traditional education to train his daughter Zhou Tingting from a sympathetic deaf child to the first deaf college student in China. And put forward the concept of appreciation education for the first time. Appreciation education refers to the words and deeds of educators in the process of education, and treats and evaluates the educated with appreciation and encouragement; It admits differences and allows failure, which conforms to the law of life growth. It can rebuild children's health and self-confidence, discover and develop students' advantages and potentials, and finally make them succeed.
Appreciation leads to success, and complaining leads to failure. As early as 1968, the famous Picmarion effect proved that one person's appreciation of another person will promote its success. Experiments show that after the list of students with "training prospects" was consciously leaked by experts, their personalities gradually became cheerful and lively, and their academic performance also improved. Zhou Tingting, a deaf-mute girl in China, is also a typical example of success in the atmosphere of appreciation education. She was deaf and dumb since childhood, but under the education of her father Isabella Chow's "Appreciation-Success" method and with the help of her teacher, Zhou Tingting walked out of the silent world. She can not only be eloquent, but also give full play to her potential and enjoy more happiness and sense of accomplishment in life. At present, I am studying in America. But in real life, people often go into the misunderstanding of failure from the initial appreciation of children. Teacher Isabella Chow said, "Children learn to speak freely, and their parents will praise them. As a result, most children have learned the most difficult spoken language in the world. Why can't you stare at the child with appreciation now, but complain? " It is true that when the child was born, his first cry filled us with surprise and happiness. When children just learn to call "mom and dad", no matter how vague the pronunciation is, we are very happy. When the children grow up a little, our teachers and parents have high standards for their children and are stingy with praise and smiles. Turning a blind eye to many advantages, but severely criticizing mistakes or shortcomings, or even sarcasm, has seriously dampened children's self-esteem and self-motivation, which obviously runs counter to the original intention of education.
The origin of appreciation education is love If our teachers and parents can find the advantages of children with loving eyes and point out and correct their shortcomings in the right way, then our children may be different. "you can do it" and "you are great" With the encouragement of teachers and parents, many children have changed and grown up happily. Appreciative language and behavior bring happy motivation and upward self-confidence to children. The secret lies in that it removes the huge stone of inferiority that is pressing on their hearts, and the potential of children erupts like a volcano. There is no child in this world who can't be taught well. It depends on whether you can use "appreciation education" as the golden key to open children's hearts. Suhomlinski once said: "Please remember that the joy of success is a great spiritual strength, which can promote children's desire to study hard." Many children have this experience, because they got good grades in an exam and fell in love with this course. On the contrary, repeated failures may cause children to hate this course. It can be seen how important the sense of success is to the growth of teenagers. Therefore, in the process of education and teaching, we should establish the concept that appreciation is the ladder to lead children to success. As teachers and parents, we should learn to appreciate children.
Appreciation education is to admit differences, allow failures and even allow mistakes. "It is human nature to make mistakes." You don't admit the differences between children, and you don't allow children to make mistakes when they fail. As a result, children are afraid of failure, make mistakes and widen differences. In real life, there are many facts that complain more than appreciate. To some extent, China's current education system and previous education system are outdated. Only 50% of peers are admitted to universities every year, but 92.8% of parents want their children to go to universities, and 19.3% of parents also want their children to study for a master's degree. Education has almost become exam-oriented education centered on entrance examination. "Black June" and "Thousands of troops crossing the single-plank bridge" buried many talented people with stunts; Parents with high expectations are faced with the inevitable failure of their children, which leads to countless tragedies. Because of this, we have to accept failure, face differences and make full use of appreciation education and successful education to motivate children. As a teacher, we should change our ideas, appreciate and educate our children, grasp the psychology that children are concerned and valued, and let them achieve "I can do it", "I am a good boy" and "You are great!" "You are excellent!" "What a wonderful way!" "I'm so proud of you!" In line with the child's desire to be affirmed and appreciated by others. American psychologist Whip James said: "The deepest principle of human nature is to hope others appreciate you." He also found that an uninspired person can only play 20%-30% of his ability, and when he is inspired, his ability is 3-4 times that of before. So in the process of learning, the existence of motivation is very important, and any child needs constant motivation. However, we should also avoid going into a misunderstanding. Don't aim at narrow success, such as winning the school gold and silver award, but cultivate children into a caring, confident and all-round new person.
Appreciation education is a positive education. It is important for teachers to be good at guiding, rather than relying on harsh voice to reprimand and forcibly prohibit. School is not a place to supervise students, but a paradise for students to grow up healthily; Teachers are not watchmen who supervise students, but guide their lives. Teachers should pay more attention to the progress and growth of each student, focus on the students' achievements, advantages and strengths, and cultivate and establish a healthy atmosphere. Sometimes, the effect of education is not necessarily proportional to the time spent by educators and the number of times of education, but if we seize the favorable educational opportunity and carry out more appreciation education, we will receive good educational results.
Appreciation education should be geared to all students. We should appreciate each student's unique personality, specialty and achievement; Appreciate every achievement made by every student; Appreciate the dedication and kindness of every student; Appreciate every student's questioning of textbooks and surpassing teachers; Appreciate every student's clever way, learning style and performance. Respect students with mental retardation; Respect students with poor academic performance; Respect the isolated and rejected students; Respect the students who are at fault; Respect students with serious shortcomings and defects; Respect students who disagree with themselves.
Isabella Chow Appreciation Education Reading Notes 2 Recently, I read Appreciation Education by Isabella Chow. As a primary school teacher and mother, I have a brand-new understanding. In the book, he mainly discusses education from how to treat children, from an attitude towards children and an attitude of appreciation.
First, understand children.
To consider the problem from the child's ideological level, many times what we think is boring becomes interesting in the child's eyes. Because our way of thinking is different from that of children, if we want to understand children, we should look at the problem from their perspective. Ask yourself, how many children did you really know in previous education and teaching activities? After listening to the lecture, I understood the importance of understanding children.
Second, the attitude towards children.
Mr. Isabella Chow, although his daughter can't speak, she is worse than the average child, but she tries her best to find out some facts to prove that her daughter is a genius. Finally, he found it. He told his daughter that she and Helen Keller were the same person. He told his daughter that she was the reincarnation of Helen Keller. My daughter found her birthday two days later than Helen Keller when she was looking for a book. But her father told her that it was difficult for her mother to give birth to her, so the time was delayed. Her birthday is the same as Helen Keller's birthday. Suddenly, Isabella Chow made his daughter feel like a child prodigy. From then on, his daughter thought she was a genius and planted the seeds of genius in her heart. Seeing this, let us know how to give our children confidence. Every child is a genius, it depends on how you educate them. Our teacher can't "treat" a child differently just because he is inferior to other children in some places. We treat every child warmly and let them wait for better development.
Third, find the feeling and taste the sweetness.
For children, it is necessary to grasp the advantages and not to say, and the shortcomings are less slow. Allow children to fail and acknowledge the differences between children. Be good at using your thumb, be a friend and be the king of children.
Fourth, meet a child's psychological needs.
We should respect our children and create appreciation. Praise your children often. You say he is good every day, and if you talk more, he will get better naturally and let the children grow up with encouragement.
A person's life is not good or bad, and a person's thinking is also good or bad, but under no circumstances can children be said to be stupid. If you call a child stupid when he makes a mistake, he will become really stupid one day as you wish. In fact, the child's carelessness is the future care, and the child's failure is the future success.
Children's success often comes from the evaluation of people around them. You said he could do it, and he thought to himself, work hard, and finally it will do. If people around you said you couldn't do it, you could have done it. If people around you talk too much, you think you can't do it and finally give up. Say that children can do it, and children will do it.
First of all, we should learn to respect and trust our children and become their best partners. Every child is an angel who comes to the world hand in hand. They are all independent and equal individuals and have their own world. We should squat down to see the children's world, bend down to communicate with them, and never appear in front of them as an "authority". When children express their emotions and dissatisfaction, they should listen attentively, learn to apologize to their children, and replace indifference and reprimand with attention and enthusiasm; When children encounter failure, don't deny their future, believe that their children are the best, support and encourage them instead of discipline and criticism; When a child makes a fool of himself in front of others, don't let "comparison" hurt the child's self-esteem, and use affirmation and appreciation instead of negation and degradation; When children succeed in harvesting, they should be praised and rewarded in time, encouraged and reminded instead of showing off and being indifferent. In short, it is necessary to communicate with children as equals, with appropriate tone and rational language, so as to achieve the effect of communication.
Secondly, we should know how to love children, know how to express love, and cultivate love with love. Every child is the crystallization of parents' love and is born in infinite love. However, as children grow up, they increasingly feel tortured and manipulated by their parents. This is because parents are gradually taking love as an exchange condition, exchanging love for children's obedience, for children's face in front of others, and for children to vent their emotions, thus destroying their fragile hearts step by step and letting them go astray. Conversely, we should turn ourselves into children, enter the children's world, have a spiritual dialogue with children, and understand their real needs and ideas; We should treat children's arguments calmly and turn confrontation into dialogue; Let children decide their own affairs, let them become their own masters, and don't let them bear the dream burden of the previous generation.
On the other hand, parents always like to keep their deep love in their hearts, which is what Isabella Chow said: "A knife in the mouth, a bean curd in the heart". Influenced by parents' or China's hidden thoughts, I once thought that caring about others would become false and meaningless, but later I realized that without emotional communication, how can we get to know each other and deepen our feelings? Therefore, we should not only know how to love, but also know how to express our love. Only in this way can we communicate with each other, let our love warm children's hearts, and let children better understand and cherish my love.
Third, dilute the traces of education and set an example. The example of an ordinary worker's father and son mentioned by Isabella Chow in his report is a strong proof. The ordinary worker realized that the best education is not to improve his face, but to gain spiritual communication and emotional exchange through laughing and playing with his son, and finally achieve the effect of teaching without distinction. The healthy growth of children is far more important than their grades, and our parents often throw away watermelons and pick up sesame seeds and ask their children all day: "How did you do in this exam?" These problems make children feel that their parents love scores and rankings rather than themselves, which leads to rebellion and avoidance to their parents, which is also the result of lack of democratic communication. In addition, some parents not only do not communicate with their children, but also create a quiet and relaxed environment for their children's study and life. But playing mahjong at home, drinking and chatting, while educating children to be diligent and not lazy. You should know that the positive and negative effects of parents' words and deeds are equally profound.
In teacher Isabella Chow's report, vivid examples illustrate the effectiveness and advancement of appreciation education, which is gradually recognized and adopted by everyone. He stressed that we should understand children, love them, appreciate them and cultivate them according to law. Every process and every link needs communication. How can we understand them without communication?
An advertising word is well said: communication makes the future. Communication will achieve the future of children, family and country.