0 1. Compared with raising girls, raising boys brings much greater challenges to parents.

Plato, the great philosopher of ancient Greece, wrote more than 2,300 years ago: "Among all animals, boys are the most difficult to control and deal with."

Indeed, this little guy born with "Y" sex chromosome will bring endless educational confusion to his parents from birth:

Boys like adventure, climbing mountains and trees is his strong point, and he is often scarred by his "adventure" actions.

The boy is stubborn by nature. His parents said that he was inclined to the west. The more his parents say he can't do it, the more he wants to try. The more his parents strictly control him, the more rebellious he is.

Although the boy is careless in everything, he has a sensitive heart. Parents' disrespect and incomprehension are often the eternal pain in his heart.

It is difficult for boys to control themselves and their immunity to temptation is low. A little trouble from outside will make his academic performance go from bad to worse. ...

02. Many mothers say it's too tiring to talk to the male treasure.

I feel the same way: for example, when my son is playing with toys, I let him eat. The first time I told him not to listen, the second time he still couldn't hear me. He may see you for the third time, but he still looks deaf.

I thought he pretended not to hear, but later I learned that boys are like this. So I'm much calmer.

There are some irritating things about talking to boys.

For example, when we went upstairs together, I accidentally passed him and opened the door first. The son looked unhappy and said, "I will kill you."

This is a good thing. Leave malicious words from an early age. How should I teach them in the future?

Fortunately, I know that they often can't express themselves, but this is not the case. I just found a sentence that I think is very exciting to express my emotions.

So we went home, calmly holding his story book and asked him, "You just said you were going to fall to your death. How are you going to fall? " Hearing what I said, the little guy looked embarrassed.

Boys are like this. Don't take them too seriously, otherwise, you may get 10 thousand injuries a day.

Of course, as long as we talk to our children carefully and accompany them gently and firmly, we can also harvest a warm-hearted boy who understands his parents and speaks intimate words, so that his parents can burst into tears instantly.

03. Boys and girls are born different.

Because they mature later than girls, they need the patience of their parents.

Especially the development of language communicative competence.

Scientific research has found that the area of "language and emotional communication" in girls' brains will develop earlier. Even for babies, baby girls are more interested in observing the facial expressions of caregivers and detecting people's emotional changes. They are good at reading people's facial expressions and feeling emotional changes, so they are more considerate and sensible.

Moreover, I can express my feelings, for example, I prefer to tell my parents my "love".

But boys are different. Their space and sense of touch will develop first, so they will be better than girls in sports, space and classification. So we often see a boy angry with a female companion who is not good at classification.

The son is often anxious because his cousin confuses the types of toys. If there is no adult intervention in time, it will be rude, and the two children will fight if they don't give in to each other.

Boys generally don't realize until they are four or five years old that every feeling in the body has a name, and language is a very powerful tool.

Because their language development lags behind that of girls, they are naturally energetic, adventurous and often make mistakes, so they are often scolded by adults.

When it comes to boys' mistakes, don't mind too much.

Because boys will understand the world through "trial and error", not through reading and understanding other people's feelings.

At the same time, they use their own behavior to find out their parents' bottom line, so it is not too much behavior, and parents should not strongly prohibit it.

However, if you break the rules, you should tell him in time that "fouls", such as bullying weak children or spitting on people, should be corrected in time.

Boys without ears are everywhere. Are you sure you agree with them?

Many mothers often mention that "that guy has no ears, so I can't hear anything." Moreover, boys are often criticized by teachers for not listening well at school and often have no ears.

This is the case, and we have to accept the harsh reality: generally speaking, boys' attention is not as good as girls'.

So we should spend more time to help them, of course, not by the same nagging.

There is a saying: "The biggest harm to a man comes from a woman's mouth."

Don't disturb the child when he is doing something seriously.

When he is angry and refuses to talk, wait for him to release his emotions first. When you are in a good mood, talk again.

In front of many people, don't play some "good" jokes on them, because it's easy to take them seriously. Little men's self-esteem will inspire them to resist strongly.

When they are so absorbed in doing one thing, they can't hear the second sound at all. If forced intervention, it will destroy the child's concentration, not worth the candle. I suggest you go over, squat down, look him in the eye, get into it, speak softly, let him feel you, and then he will turn his attention from other things to you.

In addition, communication and expression should be as concise as possible. Boys especially don't like wordy words. Their brains don't have that complicated network. It is best to give only one simple and clear message at a time, so that boys can respond effectively.

If you say that you have taught your children to be obedient and obedient, it may not be the success of education, but the birth of a "mother baby boy".

Many boys were often scolded by their mothers when they were young. When they reach puberty, they will be at a loss and don't want to continue to endure it. Then you will use rebellion against your mother.

If children want to communicate smoothly with themselves and have a harmonious parent-child relationship, they should remember to be a gentle and firm mother. When children trust you enough and have enough confidence, they will have a good parent-child relationship.

Let the boy know that he is a great man from an early age.

When boys were four or five years old, they already had gender awareness. He already knows that he is a nobody. At this time, parents should consciously cultivate their children's masculinity.

The boy fell down and told him: get up by yourself;

The boy is timid, tell him: you can do better;

When the boy made a mistake, he told him: a hero must be a hero when he does something;

The boy is disobedient, tell him: it is a man's honor not to disturb his parents!

It is worth noting that the father's role in making boys masculine from an early age is enormous.

Numerous facts have proved that too much protection and worry from the mother will reduce the masculinity of the boy; The stricter rules and looser constraints of the father will give the boy unparalleled strength and courage, and then promote the boy to grow into an excellent man faster.

06. If you love him, you must enter his world.

Many boys' parents, especially fathers, will be confused because they can't communicate with their children.

For example, when a child comes back from playing outside, I will ask him, "What did you play today? Who did you see? " He will simply answer where I went and who I played with, but if he is more specific, it will not work.

Sometimes I don't know, I don't want to express it, and sometimes I really can't express it. Besides, they often can't express themselves. For example, he clearly wants to express his anger, but he will say "I hate you" and "I will kill you" and so on. So parents should help their children patiently and tell them how to express their feelings and thoughts.

Many parents want to master the secret of children's communication overnight, which is impossible. In fact, the best teacher for emotional management is the company of children, which needs to be accumulated over time.

1. Talk to children when they are very young. When my son was a baby, I told him my experience every day, read him story books and stimulated the development of his brain language area.

The next few years will be years of rapid progress. I talk to him a lot every day. We will tongue twister the game to see who can read faster.

Don't shut up just because the baby can't talk. We should observe children's eyes and expressions and use language to help them understand.

2. When walking or shopping outside, you can chat with your children more. The dialogue between parents and children will expose children to information and vocabulary several times higher than that of families without communication. The influence of dialogue on children's brains is more effective than any expensive education in the future.

Children often read story books to them when they grow up. Even if the child is only one year old, he can read picture books. In the process of reading, communication will be more frequent, and children's language expression will be exercised. More importantly, parents and children will read irreplaceable intimacy together.

Don't worry, you need to encourage your children and accompany them all the time. Children can't tell stories themselves. Don't worry, you can start with short sentences.

Don't let your boy be too rich.

What we call "wealth" contains two concepts, one is that parents spoil and arrange too much, and the other is the abundance of money.

Many parents especially love boys, so everything depends on boys;

Many parents are rich, so they give boys a lot of pocket money;

Many parents are very capable and will do everything for boys.