I was lucky enough to listen to a lecture given by a professor in Tsinghua University. His topic was how to cultivate excellent and successful children! He bluntly said: "If the mother has these four qualities, the child will be more likely to succeed in the future"!
First of all, a decent mother
In life, you will find that most of the children raised by respectable and glamorous mothers have high emotional intelligence and sweet mouths, which are easily loved by others. Such children are more likely to succeed when they grow up.
Why is this happening? When I was watching the Round Table School, I still remembered a sentence by Tao, who said, "The difference between the poor and the rich is that the poor give up their image first." .
Looking back at those rich families, the importance of the word decent is no longer reflected all the time, and decent people will not be easily defeated by life. This immediately reminded me of Meyer, the mother of "Iron Man in Silicon Valley" Elon Musk!
After the divorce, she didn't get a penny from her husband and took care of her two children and a daughter alone. Even though she was embarrassed, she appeared in public gracefully and happily.
Meyer never complained that his family was poor. He tried his best to support his children's hobbies. Elon musk was interested in computers, so he bought him a computer.
Under her education, the three children finally became billionaires! Even though Mayer, who is over 70 years old, appears in front of the camera, she is still the avant-garde, elegant and decent woman.
Second, a mother who is passionate and gentle about life.
Psychologist Martin seligman once tested 100 children and their parents, and found that the optimism of mothers is very similar to that of children. In other words, most of the children raised by a mother who is passionate about life are also passionate about life.
This is the case with the mother of the entrepreneur Mr. kazuo inamori! Talking about his mother, kazuo inamori is very grateful to his gentle and enthusiastic mother. He can always think of foot bath water and red bean porridge prepared by his mother when he was a child.
I always think of my mother smiling at him. No matter how busy she is, her mother can always remember the time and habits of each child after school. It is because of this loving environment that kazuo inamori has become a gentle entrepreneur who always cares about people around him!
Third, there is a mother model.
A gentle, warm and decent mother can cultivate a successful child, but a well-structured mother will cultivate a pillar talent of a country!
Qian Xuesen's mother, Zhang Lanjuan, is such a mother. She taught Qian Xuesen to learn the traditional culture of China from an early age and told Qian Xuesen the story of loyalty to the country. In these stories, Qian Xuesen met Zhuge Liang who was loyal to Hanye.
Knowing that Du Fu was concerned about his country and people, these stories stirred his heart. Therefore, Qian Xuesen had a strong sense of patriotism and national pride when he was a child.
It is also the deep love for the country that contributed to Mr. Qian Xuesen's great contribution. When we praise Qian Xuesen, don't forget his mother with a big pattern behind him!
Fourth, a mother who likes reading.
Big data shows that teachers' families are easy to raise schoolmasters! In fact, this data is not too surprising. A woman who loves learning can naturally influence her children all the time.
The mother of former US President Barack Obama is this type. Although Obama was born in a single-parent family, his mother attached great importance to education.
Every morning at 4 o'clock, he will wake up Obama and personally educate Obama. She also often reads books and listens to lectures. It was under this influence that Obama finally became president.
It can be seen that a mother who can keep learning affects not only her own life, but also her children's life. But on the other hand, how many parents do we have now, can we open our books and have a look?
We always yell at our children and let them read books, while we are brushing our mobile phones. When we encounter the problem of child-rearing, we never think about what is the scientific solution, either shouting or being silent.
How can mothers like us expect their children to be excellent? Japanese novelist Kotaro Isaka once said: "It's terrible to think that parents don't have to take exams!" !
Finally, I want to say that there must be excellent parents behind excellent children. When you think your children are not good enough, you should reflect on yourself and encourage all parents!