Many parents do not shy away from occasions when educating their children, especially like to educate their children in front of others. They think that if a child does something wrong, he should be scolded in front of everyone to make him lose face and feel ashamed, so that he can remember the lesson.

However, when you criticize your child in front of everyone, he doesn't really realize what's wrong with him, but he feels even more humiliated. Every child has an independent personality and self-esteem. If the child is at fault, parents openly publicize that treating the child as a fool in public will only deepen the impression that the child is reprimanded and produce rebellious psychology, which will not do any harm to the healthy growth of the child! Therefore, at any time, no matter how young the child is, we need to give the child enough face in front of outsiders.

For example, if your boss wants you to improve the shortcomings in your work, there are two ways. One is to say "Xiao Li, your design is really not so good" in front of all the staff. Can you make it worse? " The second is to call you into the conference room secretly and say, "Although your design is poor this time, I believe your level will be shown in the next bid.". Come on, I believe you! "

There are two ways, one is to make children feel ashamed, and the other is to make them feel grateful and make them progress. Is the answer obvious?