When female subordinates get along with male bosses, they all say that "men and women are United and not tired". This psychological effect is more obvious in men, which can stimulate men's enthusiasm for work. As a result, the company privately banned corporate romance and prevented men and women from getting too close. What should female subordinates pay attention to when they get along with male bosses?
Female subordinates get along with male bosses 1 0 1, and colleagues of the opposite sex are close, which is easy to generate criticism and leave a handle.
Where there are many people, there are rumors, and the office is where rumors spread everywhere. That little thing between men and women, when they get a little closer, people on the sidelines begin to associate it. Especially people with families, in this complicated world, how can people not think much? Even if the relationship between the two is pure, but the relationship is close, it will be unclear in the eyes of you. As a netizen put it, "I don't think there is a pure relationship between men and women in the world. After all, there is a relationship between men and women What purity can we talk about? "
Leaders get too close to subordinates of the opposite sex and are easily mistaken for harassment. Colleagues of the opposite sex get too close and are easily gossiped. People will always be criticized and damage their professional influence. It is also easy to be used as a handle by others and create troubles behind the scenes. If there is a scandal at the crucial moment of promotion, they will miss the opportunity and can only watch others climb up. Therefore, even if you meet the opposite sex you like in the company, you can't get too close in the office. There can only be an underground romance and online romance at most, and it must not affect the work.
02. It is difficult to control the degree of getting along with the opposite sex, which affects the objectivity of the work and the consequences are impossible to prevent.
As we all know, when the opposite sex comes too close, the longer it takes, the more difficult it is to control their emotions and desires. Never challenge the temperament between men and women. When your head is hot, no one knows how low your bottom line can be and how many extramarital affairs have been caused in the office. On the other hand, if you are rational enough, you won't get too close to the opposite sex in the first place.
Even if you think you are honest and don't have so many messy thoughts, once you get close, your work performance will inevitably be biased and you can't look at it objectively, which will affect the efficiency and achievements of yourself and the team. If you deal with each other's work, men will inevitably think about taking care of women; When coordinating team disputes, always stand in the other side's position first, and so on. The worse consequence is that once colleagues of the opposite sex get too close, many things will become natural, and once this relationship is not handled well in the future, it is easy to become enemies.
03, the workplace don't talk about love, communication and cooperation are measured, to ensure the completion of the work.
No feelings, no feelings, no friendship in the workplace. Everyone is here to work and earn money to support their families. If you really want to talk about interests, it is best never to talk about friendship when your feelings are hurt. This does not mean that everyone should be indifferent to each other. Colleagues themselves are better friends than strangers. They respect each other and get along moderately, just like the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, which is enough.
There will be a lot of cooperation between colleagues of the opposite sex at work. There is no need to avoid suspicion at this time. This work must be finished. For the purpose of producing results, communicate and cooperate more, and grasp the discretion by yourself. Don't talk about things after work, and don't talk much in private. Thank each other after the work is completed. If something goes wrong at work, reason and the other party analyze the mistakes and share the responsibility. Don't be a hero. To do this, you don't have to stay away from colleagues of the opposite sex.
How do female subordinates get along with male bosses in the office?
The first trick: learn to refuse.
Fan Ye sells in a large pharmaceutical company. This is a challenging job, which will experience an unusual test in communicating with people, mastering professional knowledge, grasping the market and controlling physical strength. Fan Ye often talks to customers on the phone a few hours ago and flies to other cities a few hours later-in the company, everyone's sales performance is open, and when you always fail to meet the company quota, you will feel an invisible pressure. When you can't bear the pressure, that is, when you leave the company-so Fan Ye has been working hard and his performance has been rising, so he is very popular with Rorschach, his immediate supervisor and sales manager.
When Fan Ye first entered the company, he met a big foreign customer who was very important to the company. At the beginning of the negotiation, the other party brought her some international practices to talk about. Due to the differences in cultural background, mode of thinking and operation methods, the negotiations quickly reached an impasse. But Fan Ye will never give up easily. She studied each other's information over and over again, explored each other's weaknesses, and influenced each other with her seriousness and persistence. A week later, the negotiation finally succeeded. Fan Ye also readily accepted Rorschach's invitation to go out for dinner: "I was really happy at that time. I don't mind holding back from my boss. After dinner, he invited me to dance, and I agreed without hesitation. "
After Rorschach, Fan Ye is often invited to eat, go to bars, play bowling, table tennis and squash. Most of them are excuses to celebrate Fan Ye's outstanding performance and achievements. Sometimes Fan Ye doesn't want to go, but seeing his sincere eyes and thinking that he is his superior, Fan Ye is embarrassed to refuse. Rorschach will bring her back some unique small gifts every time she goes on a business trip, but of course she can't escape the eyes of outsiders.
In the long run, it is inevitable that some people will talk about Fan Ye and her boss behind her back, and many people will be jealous of Fan Ye's outstanding performance. Rorschach smiled faintly, but Fan Ye felt distressed: her boyfriend who had been in love for two years actually believed it (because Fan Ye often came home late and stood me up). He guessed that such a powerful Fan Ye must have used his boss to achieve such impressive results. He didn't want to listen to Fan Ye's explanation. The ambiguity in Rorschach's eyes is also Fan Ye's worry when he thinks of it.
Tip: When your boss invites you out frequently, even if he really doesn't have wild desires, you should be careful, because this is often a prelude to unusual relationships in the future. You should have your own principles at all times, learn to obey the arrangement of your boss in your work, but learn to be honest and humble in other aspects. Rejecting your boss is not necessarily a bad thing. Many times, it will help your boss to discover your maturity and personal dignity, and make him respect you, which will help to enhance your position in his heart.
If you really don't have the courage to refuse his invitation, there is another trick: bring friends, colleagues and even the boss's wife.
The second trick: dress appropriately
Cenqing is a lively and cheerful girl who studies very well. When she graduated, she beat many competitors and was hired by a publishing house that has always been "patriarchal". Half a year ago, she loved to try new things and jumped to a medium-sized Internet company. Of course, the enviable high salary is also a reason why she came here. Unexpectedly, everything is not as beautiful as I thought. Because she soon found out that she had a grumpy old-fashioned male boss.
Cenqing, who usually likes to read fashion magazines, is naturally fashionable and avant-garde: tulle dresses, pleated skirts with small broken lines, improved Chinese cheongsam, chiffon printed dresses, military trousers and bags, and leather shoes without heels ... Her style has always been romantic and changeable. In this regard, the female boss of the publishing house used to be her bosom friend, but now this serious male boss has shown disgust from the beginning and repeatedly reminded her to pay attention to her image. CenQing didn't take it to heart at all. She thought it was not a bank, an institution or a court. What's the point of dressing so brightly? Because they don't appreciate each other, she shows indifference and alienation to her boss in many ways: anyone who can call for instructions will not contact him directly. The boss told her about her work, and when she finished, she turned away, with no expression and no superfluous words.
After that, the boss seemed to have a particularly bad impression on Cenqing, and her little mistake made him furious. Obviously, the fax number he told me was wrong, but he blamed CenQing for sending it in the wrong place. When the weekend arrived, Cenqing had made an appointment with his friends to have a good time, but as soon as he got off work, the boss hurried over and said, "It's urgent. We must add a class." CenQingGang gave him the report that he had been busy for several days, and arranged the papers on his desk excitedly. He was about to eat when he saw his boss come out of the office angrily, threw the report back on the table, pointed out the mistakes in public and asked her to correct them immediately. She was surprised and angry at the boss's scolding, and even wanted to have a big fight with him to vent her resentment. ...
Tip: You know, male bosses tend to go to extremes in their views on female subordinates, and they either particularly appreciate, dislike or even hate them. Among them, clothing also has a great influence.
Outside of work, you can dress as pure, gorgeous or sexy as possible, but in the office, it's different. Try to dress up your personality and cater to the boss's taste. It's a bit difficult, but you will get unexpected praise and goodwill, and you can calm down and start working calmly as soon as you enter the office without unnecessary trouble.
Originally, I don't like people who can alienate him, but if I alienate my boss, there will be more and more distrust between them, and it will also make my situation more and more difficult.
The third measure: don't be friends.
Four years ago, I worked in a small advertising company. Her boss was Qu-in fact, she was the only one under him. Jia Pei's education is not high, but she only graduated from the College of Decoration and Design, but she is very aura. With intuition and inspiration, she designed many excellent works. At that time, the company was short of manpower, and she and Qu were responsible for planning and design, as well as some market liaison work. They work six days a week and often work overtime, so that they can fall asleep standing on a bus with handrails. I made several household surveys in the evening, but I was still hungry after 10. It is common for two people to make do in a street shop and then go back to the office to sort out the results. In the joys and sorrows, there is an extraordinary friendship with Qu. She never called him "Manager Qu", but called him "Yu Zi". When she encounters grievances and troubles, even trivial matters at home, she is willing to tell Qu.
In her eyes, Qu, who is eight years older than her, is like her brother and a very friendly friend. She has never really been afraid of this boss. Her writing level is not good enough, so those jobs that require "writing", such as convincing planning books, amazing and catchy copywriting, well-organized reports that can summarize their work results in detail, are all from the hands of Qu. Jia Pei felt at ease, she thought, friend, isn't that what she should do? Besides, in other aspects, I have never been lazy. Qu sometimes reminds her to pay more attention to "charging" at ordinary times, especially to exercise her writing ability. Jia Pei often smiles without taking it to heart. Her subconscious is: What are you afraid of, Yu Zi, a friend boss?
The scale of the company has gradually expanded, and many newcomers have entered Jia Pei's departments, but in all fairness, their thinking is more rational (perhaps influenced by formal education). Later, Qu was appointed as the supervisor by the department manager, but instead of suggesting to fill her vacancy, she promoted another young man who was only 24 years old and had just joined the company for one year. Jia Pei finds it hard to accept: she thinks she should be the most suitable person, even if others don't know her. Don't you know your ability after working together for so long? On impulse, she wanted to resign.
Tip: Many people want to get along with their boss as friends. This is often a misunderstanding. Because the boss is the boss, even if your relationship is very unusual, it doesn't mean that there is no respect and compliment for him. It is also necessary to keep a proper distance-especially between female subordinates and male bosses. No matter how good a person is, he is also an ordinary person. They have a bright side and a dull side. Distance can make you look more perfect in the eyes of your boss.
In fact, if you think about it objectively, what Qu did is also reasonable. 1, because he is too familiar with Jia Pei, he loses his objective judgment and thinks that what the other party knows and does is nothing;
2. Jia Pei, who often confides in him, was clearly seen by him for his low education, lack of rational thinking, sentimentality and other weaknesses in his personality. He inevitably thinks that she is too frank and naive; Moreover, a man and a woman have worked closely together for so long that he will not easily support her to avoid suspicion.