If the child sometimes asks his mother some strange questions that parents think, at this time, the child's mother can only casually perfunctory the child and make a careless eye to stop the child from asking questions. I don't care if I don't take it to heart, or just do whatever I want as usual. What mothers didn't expect was that they changed clothes and bathed in front of their children in this way, which was precisely affecting their physical and mental health development. This practice will hinder the development of sex education for children.
Some time ago, there was news that 13-year-old girl Xiao Jia, a child of a single-parent family, has been living with her mother. Because my mother didn't expect so much and didn't pay special attention to it, mother and daughter often change clothes and take a bath in front of each other. After a long time, Xiao Jia feels that taking off clothes, changing clothes and taking a bath in front of others is as simple as eating and drinking water.
In the summer vacation, Xiao Jia and her classmates went camping. She changed her clothes directly in front of other students without any consideration. At that time, several boys were older than Xiao Jia. Because they have reached the age of puberty, the result can be imagined. One boy left because of cowardice, the other two boys were sent to juvie, and Xiao Jia never went to class again. In this way, the child's life has an indelible mark. This is true news, and the result is regrettable, but it is also worthy of our vigilance.
Do some parents really think about their behavior when they see it? Do they often change clothes and take a bath in front of their children without anyone taking care of them? On the surface, it seems that it has no influence and induction on children, but after a long time, it is easy for children to feel that it is normal to change clothes in front of others, and naturally it is considered that such a thing is a very common phenomenon, so tragedies will happen again and again.
Therefore, parents should cultivate their children's awareness from an early age and tell them that body parts are everyone's secrets and cannot be shared with others. No one can give it to others at any time, no matter what time period. Only when children look at their physical problems from the heart can they subconsciously protect their bodies. The process of children growing up is to imitate their parents. Only when parents pay attention to cultivating children's awareness of protecting their bodies can children pay more attention to this matter in front of others. Incorrect cultivation of concept consciousness can easily lead to precocity of children. Many parents may have found that children will gradually pay more attention to the differences between men and women at the age of three to six. This is because when the child is about three years old, the gender distinction between men and women begins to form, and the child will distinguish from the surrounding parents, such as physical differences between parents, and at the same time, he will have considerable curiosity during this period.
At this time, I always ask my parents some "personal" questions, such as: "Mom, how did I come?" "Why doesn't dad have a mother?" "Why are boys and girls different?" Generally, asking such questions will make parents feel that they can't answer, and they are very shy. Answering children's questions is always intermittent, so there are various reasons for the online hot words "you paid for it", "I found it in the garbage" and "someone gave it to us in the hospital".
Because parents always think about such things, children will always understand later. When the children grow up, they will understand these problems. In fact, if parents don't pay attention to cultivating the differences between men and women in their children and carry out relevant education, then the children will have qualitative changes in their psychology after they enter adolescence in the future. For example: desire for the opposite sex, voyeurism or other "cross-border" behaviors, as well as the sense of shame or other psychological pressure caused by these.
If parents always choose to change clothes or take a bath in front of their children at this time, it will definitely increase their curiosity and desire to explore. Some children are straightforward, and may directly ask their parents what the reason is or directly seek answers from their families. As soon as parents explain to their children, they will understand. However, some children are more euphemistic and don't ask their parents directly, so that children can't get the answer for a while and will choose to explore directly by themselves. But if the method and behavior are improper, it is likely to lead to disaster.