1.？ Parents should learn to let their children "try and make mistakes". Hassell and Leto, evolutionary psychologists, once said that human beings adapt to the world by constantly making mistakes. Not allowing children to try and make mistakes means killing their vitality. Parents should not put all their energy into their children. Remember that children are independent individuals and make mistakes. The future road is rugged, and children must have the ability to get up after falling, so that children will not be crushed when facing the wind and rain.

2. No matter praise or criticism, it should be praised appropriately, and there should be a limit. What is right is right, and what is wrong is wrong. Some parents praise their children in strange ways. For example, when you see a child hitting a wall, you will say, "The baby is really amazing." This confusing behavior not only confuses me, but also confuses the children's view of right and wrong.

Be specific when praising, and don't say, "You are great, you are great." Instead, it is necessary to implement specific things: "You helped your mother do housework today. You are really a hard-working boy. " Or "Your good grades this time show that you study hard. Great, make persistent efforts. " Children should be encouraged, not perfunctory

When children make mistakes, they should also criticize and punish them. Tell the child: "Mom believes that you are a good child, but it is wrong to do so. I hope you will correct it next time. " It is better to let it develop than to let it go. Correct children's mistakes in time and let them have the courage to face setbacks. If you have been growing up in prosperity, once you encounter adversity, it is difficult for children to accept it and it is easy to have extreme ideas. Therefore, you must cultivate your child's psychological endurance.

3. Listen more and empathize with your children. Adele Faber said: "If parents can really listen to their children's stories, children can easily express their difficulties. Sometimes, children need us to feel the same way. "

Parents should learn to listen to their children's inner thoughts and accept their emotions. When parents can "empathize" with their children, the children will understand: "My parents can understand my feelings now, and they understand me." This means that we have gradually entered the child's heart. As long as children understand their emotions, they can calm down and think about problems. Then guide the children to deal with the problem correctly. Let your children know that your parents have always supported you, and no matter what happens, your parents will accompany you and understand you.