I love parenting education deeply, and I am the initiator of parent-child creative players, the practitioner of "nourishing children with art", the creator of gesture dance in China's ancient poems, and the advocate of practice and children's lifelong growth.
I'm glad to let you know me in words.
Every day now makes me feel full, happy, happy and grateful. Not because I have gained something, but because I keep practicing and become a lifelong learner and giver.
Every step of life will not go in vain, and every pit will not be trampled in vain. So, today's me, it is accumulated from those more than 15 thousand days.
I was born in Jiaxing, the birthplace of the Party, where I had a happy childhood. When I was a child, I liked singing and dancing. I once saw a group of children dancing beautiful ballet in ballet skirts on the program of Shanghai Oriental TV, let alone envy them.
Therefore, whenever I see planes flying in the sky, I will make a beautiful wish and want to be them.
Unexpectedly, when I graduated from the fifth grade of primary school, one of my father's tutors recommended me to go to an art school, thinking that I was strange-looking and slender. In this way, my little wish came true. I started the road of professional dance learning, and my life has been different since then.
12 years old, there are songs of "Meet 1998" in every street and alley. My parents sent me to Hangzhou Art School to learn dance. A girl, a backpack, a dream, starting from here.
A person's campus life is not beautiful. When I first left home, I had to do all the daily life by myself. The process of dance learning is not as glamorous as what you see on TV. Every day, you just practice and read. Daily soft practice, skill training and learning. At that time, I didn't know what I was learning this for.
It's lonely when you don't have your parents as your backer. Save coins every day, call my parents in tears, then hang up and continue dancing in the dance room with a smile. It is also this experience of art study that makes me independent, strong and not afraid of hardship.
Graduated from art school and entered the university. Still a person, carrying a backpack, took a hard-seat train to Beijing for more than ten hours to take the exam. I was 16 years old that year.
Finally, I chose to study dance in beautiful Hangzhou and start my college life. College life is still practiced in class every day, and I usually perform with stage experience. The difference is that the head teacher graduated from Beijing Dance Academy majoring in modern dance choreography.
What is the difference? Modern dance is different from ballet and China dance, which emphasizes truth and inner feelings. The head teacher had a great influence on me, which made me see a different world and have a different understanding of art. Until now, it is still influenced by his thoughts.
In an art school, it belongs to basic learning, and the university is the stage of emancipating the body and artistic thinking. It was the class teacher who conveyed to us that there is no right or wrong in art, and we should look for something different. Art has no beauty and ugliness, and we should find our inner voice.
It turns out that only people with good image and figure can learn to dance. Dance is a way to know yourself and talk to yourself. This gave me a new feeling about dance and art and attracted me.
In 2006, when I was a senior in high school, I had the opportunity to visit Broadway in the United States. It was this opportunity to see the world that planted a small seed of love and pursuit of art in my heart.
It's the first time I've been to such a far place. We went to Broadway, visited the campuses of Harvard and MIT, and went to Juilliard. Feel the different cultures of different countries and the campus environment and learning atmosphere of the world's top universities. I still remember it.
Not long after I returned to China, I graduated from college and became a dance teacher. My life is full and beautiful. I was twenty years old that year.
Although I graduated, I still want to study and see the world. So I made a bold decision to study at Beijing Dance Academy, the highest institution of dance in China.
I use the fastest speed to search the online enrollment brochure and carefully screen the information that suits me. Finally, I decided the majors I can apply for and the classes I like, and immediately went out to the bank to remit tuition fees. I began to regret it with the remittance receipt. The house I rented is going to be returned? I'm giving my dance lessons to my friends? I want to say goodbye to my familiar cities and friends? When I called my parents to tell them my worries and disappointments, my parents said, Go ahead and start when you come back. You are young, the world is so big, and you will gain a lot.
Also with the support of my parents, I walked out of my comfort zone, dragging a box full of belongings and set off for the north!
Another man, a suitcase, let's go!
In the carriage, because my box is too big, I can't put it under the bed and in the aisle. A big brother in Northeast China said loudly in a joking tone: Whose box is so big? Get in the way ~ I know eldest brother is a harmless joke, but at that moment all my grievances can no longer be controlled. I regret why I didn't stay in Hangzhou and continue my previous life. I regret why I have to torment myself.
I was in tears in the carriage, crying that Brother Northeast apologized again and again and called the conductor. Finally, the conductor educated Big Brother Northeast and put my luggage in her lounge. I looked at the lights outside the window, knowing that this has become a reality, and my mood slowly calmed down.
The closest place to a dream
In Beijing and Beiwu, the process was not so smooth. I rented a house nearby, met new roommates and classmates, and started a new life.
Dancing in the north is an eye-opener. I saw the top actors and teachers in China. The duet I saw in the dance studio yesterday was seen in the CCTV TV Dance Competition today. At the gate of the Dance Academy, I also met Mr. Pan Zhitao, a leading figure in the dance field, and took a group photo with him shyly. In the elevator of Dance Academy, I met my head teacher, Mr. Wang Mei. Listening to her and another teacher talking about the current dance circle made me nervous and excited. I had my hair cut not far from the Dance Academy and met Mr. Zhang Jigang. It can be said that cattle people can be seen everywhere.
All this made me realize that the platform is really too important. The resources here are first-class in China. Your classmates, your teachers, your activities and so on.
During my stay in Beijing, I studied hard, got many certificates related to dance, and met many teachers and friends.
A year later, I returned to Hangzhou, entered the examination system and continued to be a dance teacher. Life seems to be on track.
new hand
I gave birth to a changed child again. I was 28 years old.
I'm very calm about having children. The pain and suffering of learning dance for many years did not overwhelm me, and nothing else mattered. So feel good about yourself and take it one step at a time. But the reality is not optimistic.
Breastfeeding torments me because of the lack of feeding knowledge. I can accept physical discomfort, but the disapproval and incomprehension of people around me make me collapse. I take it for granted that if the child wants to drink milk, I can have it when I feed it. I didn't expect the child to suck it out and cry. I want to try breast milk hard, but my family around me has been urging me to give my children milk powder, so I had a quarrel with my husband.
I know we should breastfeed, but that's not the case. And the little sister's children can breastfeed smoothly. Why can't I? I began to reflect on myself, what went wrong.
After leaving the hospital, I searched the internet for information and invited a local lactation guide to guide me to breastfeed. Fortunately, this teacher is very professional, gentle and patient. A parenting lesson was given to our whole family, which corrected the wrong parenting knowledge under the old concept. At the same time, she also gave me unlimited self-confidence and encouragement, allowing me to re-establish the parent-child relationship with my children and realize exclusive breastfeeding.
It is through this incident and study that I understand that parents need to keep learning in order to become qualified parents. Parents need to study ahead of time to cope with the different problems encountered in their children's growth.
decline
So I started the road of parenting learning. Read books every day. I thought it was too fragmentary and unsystematic, so I took part in Montessori concept study for three years. In this systematic study of Montessori's educational thought and practice, in addition to day and night practice, writing papers, internships and so on. I have a deeper knowledge and understanding of children's growth and human growth, and also ignited my enthusiasm for children's education.
In the interaction with children, I found that my children and I were particularly happy and enjoyed it. Besides knowing her, understanding her, supporting her and singing and dancing with her, I will make use of the present environment and play some creative and unconstrained games. For example, when the child is knocking on the washbasin, I will play with her and explore the sounds of different parts. Then the washbasin became a mirror, hat, steering wheel, rice bowl, frisbee and so on, which surprised everyone and made them reluctant to end. So when people around me are complaining about taking care of children, I can't wait to play with them.
I have countless ways to play with children. So I want to share it with people around me. But I found that I had an idea, but I didn't know how to do it, and my game was not systematic. Fortunately, I joined Uncle Cat's community and started a one-year research.
For a year, I read books, output and practice punching cards every day. From time to time, I was accompanied by a group of excellent old irons to share and exchange experiences. I have made many breakthroughs this year. It turns out that my persistence can also make me a schoolmaster. This year, I read the book 100+, repeated it every day, started to make plans, rediscovered my life dreams, started to get up early, started to form good habits, started to eat healthily and started to exercise.
Two years later, I still insist on reading every day, outputting practical notes, getting up early, recovering every week and month, managing time, living efficiently, lighting a skill every year and so on. It is these good habits that have given me a very stable and confident growth.
Now I can do anything I say and act 100%. For example, 180 days of English study, 100 days of yoga practice, 100 days of meditation, in addition to returning tuition fees, they also got scholarships. The video number insisted on 100 days, from small white to learned, and became a dance blogger through official certification. It is also the accumulation in the early stage, which makes me do one thing more persistently and continue with love.
I am a teacher and a role model for students. I am working hard to pursue my dream. Why not?
I am a mother and the best teacher for my children. I can't read books, play the piano, get up early and exercise every day. Why should I ask you?
Now, I will still maintain such an efficient and fulfilling life. Share your knowledge through the video Hao (the growth of candy mother) and the output of bean sound every day. Communicate and share with Xiaoshan by phone every week. Record your monthly and annual reopening through dou flap and witness your growth. Share the beautiful things worth experiencing through da public comment.
finally
Of course, more importantly, I am constantly practicing and working hard to advance towards my dreams. I hope that on the way forward, we can join hands and cheer together.