Puppy love education narrative 1 I am the head teacher of a special class. I say special because my class is a combination class, and they are all rural students, with the lowest grades in the whole school year.
Among the girls in our class, Xiao Chen is my favorite. She is smart, diligent and has good grades. When joking with colleagues, I often say: This is my favorite disciple.
This semester, Zhou Xiao, a repeater, came to my class. Obviously, he can't fit into our group well, from sitting posture to grades. He doesn't look like a student at all. He rarely wears school uniforms and his hair style is too popular. He doesn't like to talk, but he always has the charm to attract the opposite sex. I talked to him several times and established a United front with my parents. Gradually, the failed student showed signs of adapting to my class. I struck while the iron was hot, and used both hard and soft methods to "force" him to "sign" the letter of guarantee: at the end of this semester, his English score reached 80 (English is his weakness), and his total score ranked first 10. With the goal, this little Zhou really worked hard and became the backbone of the class. The head teacher looked at him with new eyes, and so did his classmates. Even my head teacher will be impressed. His cleverness is beyond my expectation. I really regret why the goal at that time was not set to the top five.
Just when I was complacent about my transformation work, new problems appeared, which caught me off guard. My favorite disciple Xiao Chen's grades plummeted, which really annoyed me. After communicating with parents, I didn't find any clues. Just when I was at a loss, I found a detail. One day, I invigilated the Chinese exam of the class. While everyone was seriously answering questions, I found that Xiao Chen glanced at Zhou Xiao subconsciously, and Zhou Xiao smiled knowingly. An idea flashed through my mind, "Will ...? No, no, I like both students so much. How can it be? "
I watched them subconsciously for the next few days, but things got worse and worse. In class, I ask one of them, and the other one will watch with great concern, as if afraid that he might answer the wrong question. When school is over, they will walk out of school together. Kerwin Chen Jr. is no longer so cheerful and doesn't care about his grades. Seeing that my proud disciple is in poor condition, I am really anxious, but I dare not act rashly for fear of hurting my child's heart and not being able to handle it properly. Zhou Xiao's grades have just improved. If he breaks his heart in this matter, he may return to the original point, and all the previous work will be in vain.
Just when I was in a dilemma, fortunately, the school organized the class teacher to listen to a lecture by a professor from Harbin Institute of Technology, which included a paragraph about puppy love among students. Teacher Ge's words are deeply branded in my heart: "Existence does not pose a threat." Yes, if I tell those two students that you are in puppy love at this time, it is absolutely impossible and must be stopped immediately. What would they think? Teachers don't understand them. The teacher thinks we are bad students. How can they bear such stimulation? Why don't I use Professor Ge's method?
I called Xiao Chen first, and our teacher-student relationship has always been deep. I talked to her about my thoughts: the teacher was once young, and he can understand your feelings very well, but he "went his own way" and found his own focus in life at this stage. It's normal to feel that way. Don't deny, don't be afraid, don't try to give up, and don't try to forget. Now let's put that feeling there and don't let it affect your center of gravity. Eight or ten years later, maybe you are already a strong man in life, and you can go back and pick up the feelings you put there again. If it's still there, it's worth it. If it's long gone. Now that it exists, all you have to do is not to let it threaten you.
My theory may be absurd, but my proud disciple accepted it. She said, "Teacher, I appreciate you saying this to me. I really appreciate your understanding. I thought you would think I was not a good student when you knew this. " I immediately took it: "No, you will always be my favorite disciple."
After talking with Xiao Chen, I found that Zhou Xiao and Zhou Xiao can accept the same theory. I am distressed by their understanding, gratified by their efforts and surprised by their achievements.
One year, my class is still the penultimate class, but my mentality is completely different from that of a year ago. I like our class and my disciples, especially my two proud disciples. By the way, I tell you, our class is the second from the bottom!
Puppy love education narrative 2 teacher love is the eternal theme of the class teacher's work. Teaching and educating people can't be without love, and the education of love can't be without the wisdom of art and education. Only the teacher's love with educational wisdom is the true love for students.
The work of a class teacher is trivial, and some are rich and happy. As a post-80 s student, I have some contradictions and contrasts with a post-90 s student group in thought, consciousness and behavior, and I feel confused and contradictory. After a period of exploration and the careful guidance of the old teacher, my head teacher's work can be carried out smoothly and I have a little experience.
The content of this poem is as follows: "There are many fish in the sea, why do you need to find them in Class 9?" The quantity is small and the quality is not high. Here's the story. One afternoon at the beginning of this semester, all the students are studying quietly and seriously. Only Zhang XX stared at another classmate with his head held high. I walked up to my classmate and found him absorbed in a poem. I whispered a sentence. Can you show it to the teacher? This classmate reluctantly gave me the poem, and then the two classmates looked at each other, and Zhang Xx lay prone on the table. In his own words: "This is over", the teacher will definitely criticize in class. " I went to the lecture desk, looked at the content of the poem, pondered for a while, then put it in my pocket and continued to observe the students' self-study. But Zhang XX's classmates can't sit still. He sometimes looks up at me secretly, as if waiting for the teacher's criticism. After reading it several times, he found that I was indifferent and began to do my homework.
The bell rang, and I invited Zhang XX to my office. He looked down at me out of the corner of his eye. I asked him to sit down, but he cried and said, "teacher, I was wrong." I shouldn't have written this poem. I shouldn't upload a note in the self-study class and beg the teacher not to criticize me in class. " I said that if the teacher wanted to criticize you among his classmates, he wouldn't invite you. He nodded knowingly. I said, can you tell the teacher the truth about why you wrote this poem? He thought about it and described in detail how he got along well with a female classmate in our class until there was a contradiction. It turned out that this poem was written to vent his inner pain after his "lovelorn". I took advantage of the situation and treated him honestly, and gave him patient and meticulous education and guidance.
Finally, I took out this poem and said to him, "The teacher wants to exchange this poem with you. What do you think? " ? He answered "yes" hesitantly, and I said, "The teacher changes the first two sentences, and you change the last two sentences". He nodded in agreement. I just need to change one word in the first sentence from "where there is a lot of grass in the sea" to "when there is a lot of grass in the sea", and the second sentence to "why do you have to look for it now?" Then he changed the last two sentences: "I am very tight at school and I am very young." Reading this poem, he smiled happily, so relaxed and confident. Then I said, "After ten years, if you can't find a girlfriend, how about the teacher help you find one?" He repeatedly said "thank you, teacher".
Faced with the common problem of puppy love among middle school students on campus today, many colleagues adopt "exposure method" and "legislation", and some students find it unattractive not to fall in love. To tell the truth, when I first joined the work, I also encountered such a situation, which hurt students' self-esteem because of improper handling. Later, I thought: As a normal person, there is nothing wrong with this idea. It is determined by the characteristics of middle school students themselves, including physiology and psychology. Dealing with such things, the focus is not on the nature, but on making students understand that it is premature and premature to do such things. Now we should bury this immature "feeling" in our hearts and devote all our energy to our study. This attempt of hidden education has avoided and eliminated the opposition and vigilance with the educated. Calm the inner waves and learn to advance and retreat emotionally. Make the educated receive education in a subtle way, and finally achieve the goal of transformation. Let my relationship with students be more harmonious, further improve my position in the eyes of students, and take a step forward to the excellent class teacher.
I remember a few days ago, it was a self-study class, and the students were making exercise books. Found Lei Junshuai and Guo Ran playing tricks. After I approached, Guo Ran was hiding a note. I told them to take it out, but no one moved. I stared at them, no way, Guo Ran had to take it out. It says: Do you know who Liu likes? I don't know. I know Liu likes it. I was particularly surprised. I didn't expect the fourth grade children to grow up. I asked calmly, "Who wrote it?" Guo Ran said she wrote it. I didn't know what to say at the moment, so I sat her down and put the note away.
Who knows, things are not as simple as I thought. After school, Liu Shuai said angrily, "Teacher, Zheng Wang said I like Zhang." Zheng Wang quickly denied it. I scolded him and ran out of school.
After returning to China, I have been thinking about how to deal with this matter. In fact, these children are very simple, not so-called "puppy love", but a kind of goodwill. We don't need to make a fuss, as long as we guide in time.
The next morning, I occupied the time of math class and held a short class meeting.
I said, "The students are talking about who likes who in private. Do you think it's wrong to like someone? " The classroom was quiet. I went on to say, "There must be a reason to like someone. Maybe he (she) studies well, is beautiful, humorous, caring and helpful. In a word, one of his (her) advantages attracts us; If a person is dirty, poor in study, full of dirty words and so on. And full of shortcomings, will we still like him? Definitely not. Only when a person has advantages can we like him. If you like him, you should keep up with him, learn his advantages and correct your own shortcomings. If we don't like anyone, we will be in trouble. Explain that we will not appreciate others and discover the advantages of others; At the same time, I can't find my own shortcomings, because I can't see my own shortcomings. Therefore, it is normal to like others. We should also try to make others like us. Right? " The students nodded yes. I'm relieved. A storm finally disappeared.
As a primary school teacher, he is not only the organizer and collaborator of students' learning, but also the instructor of students' mental health. When students are confused and hesitant, give them directions and make their lives less detours.
Puppy love education narrative 4 inadvertently chatted with students and learned that two students in the class always go home after school every day, and there are often male students waiting for female students at the intersection, which is obviously a tendency of "puppy love". As a result, I began to talk and investigate with individual students in my class. Who knows, the seemingly "calm" classroom is actually "choppy", and many truths have surfaced: boys and girls have confessed themselves in person, handed notes, sent small gifts, and left messages in the guest book ... On weekends, they even went out to play and chat together. ...
In order to get a deeper and more specific understanding of the situation, I always ask a few classmates after class every day, and everyone in the class panics. Students are afraid that the teacher will ask them, and the students who are asked will "give up" themselves, and even some students will take the initiative to talk to me. ...
After investigation, I found the following problems:
None of the students in 1. class are "two-in-one", which is very helpful to solve this problem.
What male students like and admire is some lively and active female students in the class who have excellent academic performance. I think this is more appreciation than envy.
3. It is found that the most serious problem is that one or two female students in the class "fanned the flames", "bridged the gap" for their classmates, and even organized some boys and girls "flirting" games, and false things spread like models. This is all because girls develop earlier in adolescence than boys.
This unhealthy trend must be curbed. I immediately talked to the "leaders" of these female students, criticized and educated their wrong practices and the adverse effects they brought, and immediately stopped the continuation of this behavior and improper "messaging". Then feedback the students' performance in school with parents in time, and the family and school will work together to educate the students. At the same time, the seats of individual students were adjusted. Studies have proved that the most direct and effective way to solve "puppy love" is to stay away from each other.
Then, I held a squadron meeting in the whole class to let the students discuss what kind of girls are the most attractive. The students all say that they like girls who are quiet, stable and cheerful and have excellent academic performance, and they don't like girls who make irresponsible remarks. Then I educate the students in adolescence, teach them to correctly handle the relationship between boys and girls, and establish a normal and good classmate relationship. Also praised several boys and girls in the class who have a harmonious relationship. Finally, tell your classmates solemnly: keep your feelings deep in your heart. A few years later, when you have achieved something in your studies and career, if you still like him or her, you can tell him or her again. Many students nodded heavily after hearing this.
The one-week "puppy love" survey ended, but it left me with more thoughts: the sixth-grade students have "puppy love" because they enter adolescence, and their academic burden is not heavy, and their classmates know each other very well. Secondly, the family environment has a great influence on students. Children from single parents and divorced families are more prone to problems and need more attention and guidance from teachers.
The vigorous "puppy love" incident came to an end. ...
Puppy love education narrative 5 he actually came to see her again. I was all smiles, and my mood fell to the bottom.
Just the day before yesterday, I just warned him not to come to Xiao Xin again, a girl in my class. Because cuddling openly at the door of the classroom, being very much in love with each other has aroused the dissatisfaction of many students and teachers.
In a rage, I took his arm to find his class teacher. He followed me with a cold expression. Unfortunately, his head teacher was not in the office, so I had to go back to class first, thinking, I'd better scare him first.
Unexpectedly, in less than two minutes, he took the initiative to find the classroom and loudly and defiantly said to me, "Come on, my head teacher is back. Don't you want to trouble me? " The cold expression is really irritating. I fought back my anger and followed him to his class teacher.
Before I could explain it to his class teacher, he shouted, "What's wrong with me? What the hell did I do today? Didn't I just go to Xiao Xin and buy a loaf of bread? Xiao Xin and I have been together since the third grade, and our parents can't control it. What do you want? Do you still want my father's phone number? I will give it to you! " I was angry and stupid at once, and immediately threw out a sentence: "Well, as long as your parents have no opinion, I have nothing to say!" During my conversation with him, he didn't look me in the eye and was very disdainful to me. I haven't met such a "cow" student for many years, and I feel very wronged. Is it worth it? For a puppy love girl, I am in my thirties and still angry with a teenager! Later, the teacher in the office comforted me: "He is such a person. When I was a freshman, I was punished for contradicting my teacher in class. " I see. It seems that this bone is really hard to chew.
I was in a bad mood all weekend and couldn't sleep at night. I keep reflecting: how can students turn a deaf ear to their own enlightenment and education? Are they really hopeless? Impossible, there are no stupid students, there must be other reasons. When I calmed down a little, I quickly called Xiao Xin's mother to make sure that, as the boy said, "our parents don't care." To my surprise, Xiao Xin's mother was very surprised. She said she never knew about her daughter's puppy love, and then she said she didn't know what to do. I suggested that she talk to the children first, and never play hardball and avoid Romeo and Juliet. Then I thought hard, what should I do? ...
On Sunday evening, the students went back to school. When I walked into the classroom, Xiao Xin looked as if nothing had happened. I called her to a dark place outside the classroom, put my arm around her shoulder, cleared my throat and began to talk to her in a gentle voice.
"Xiao Xin, let's talk it over today. I hope you can open up, too. Think of the teacher as a big sister and a person who has experienced it. Let's talk about our feelings, ok? "
"hmm." She nodded.
"First of all, the teacher wants to know, do you really have a good relationship with Xiaorong?" I asked.
"hmm."
"Then can you tell the teacher what advantages you like about him?"
Xiao Xin hesitated for a moment and said, "He is very kind to me. And he is very filial. "
I listened patiently and then said, "Indeed, people in love see each other's strengths. But from the teacher's point of view, Xiaorong's temper is very violent and impulsive. " Xiaoxin nodded, indicating the default. I went on to say, "You said he was filial, and filial children should be considerate of their parents and not give them any trouble, but Xiaorong often asked the teacher to call him dad. Is this the embodiment of filial piety? " Xiao Xin stopped talking.
I said, "Xiao Xin, the teacher interferes in your affairs because she loves you and your grades are good. The teacher doesn't want your study to be affected. I don't want you to get hurt. Girls must lead a totally clean life, learn to love and protect themselves. Do you understand what I mean? "
"Teacher, I won't affect my study and I won't mess around." Xiao Xin said.
"Well, this is the basic guarantee I want," I went on to say, "Xiao Xin, the teacher understands your feelings. Goethe said that it is normal for boys and girls not to fall in love and have a good impression on the opposite sex. But according to the teacher's observation, it is often children who lack care. Your mother loves you very much, and you are so kind. You shouldn't be with such a boy! "
Before I finished, Xiao Xin began to choke: "Teacher, my parents are divorced, and so are his parents!" "When my eyes are sore, the softest thing in my heart is touched. I held her in my arms, just like holding my own daughter, patting her back and whispering, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry ..."
After Xiao Xin's mood calmed down a little, I gently said to her, "Xiao Xin, the misfortune of parents' marriage has done great harm to the children. "I believe you hope you will have a happy marriage and family in the future. The teacher once read a data: the success rate of puppy love among middle school students is less than 3%. The deeper you get, the more you get hurt when you break up. "
"The teacher doesn't want you to separate at once. But can we try the words "jump", "cold" and "separate" first? Jump out first, observe Xiao Rong from a bystander's point of view, and think rationally whether you are suitable for being together. Then, let's cool this relationship down, cool it down, and then separate and reduce contact and contact. Let's take it step by step. "
"ok". Xiao Xin readily agreed.
Finally, I said, "Xiao Xin, freeze this relationship for a year and a half. If you still think that the other person is the most suitable person for you after the college entrance examination, the teacher will bless you, ok? " He may have loved you for two years, but your mother loves you more than him 16 years. Can we not let her worry about herself for a while? "
"Teacher, it's my fault!" Xiao Xin suddenly raised her low head and interrupted me. "Xiao Rong was too impulsive yesterday, please forgive the teacher!" As she spoke, she bent down, like a salute and a bow. "I'm sorry!" "
I smiled, smiling comfortably and calmly. Because this incident made me understand the meaning of "mentor" more. If you want to be a qualified teacher, you must first be a qualified friend and know more about students' personality and growth environment. Only in this way can you take the pulse of prospective students and then prescribe the right medicine, otherwise it will be counterproductive and counterproductive. Confucius said: Teach students in accordance with their aptitude. Seriously!
After lunch, I was correcting my homework in the office when there was a light knock at the door, and then my head stuck in and looked around. I saw it and said with a smile, "Hai Qiang, come in. What can I do for you? "
Hearing this, Hai Qiang quickly flashed in and closed the door gently, which seemed mysterious.
"Teacher, I want to discuss something with you, can I?" He said nervously. "Go ahead." I answered casually. In fact, there are many conjectures in my heart. Seeing that I was not very serious, he relaxed a little, swallowed, and then solemnly said, "Teacher, I beg you to change my seat. With anyone. " "oh! Why? " I pretended to be noncommittal Hai Qiang was a little worried when he saw my suspicious appearance. "Really, teacher. I know you all have some opinions about me, and I also know the reason why you arranged for me to sit with Xiaoxue. Please believe me, teacher, that's all in the past. Really! " Say that finish, look at me seriously. I opened my eyes, pretended to doubt, and didn't speak, but my thoughts had already flown to the past.
This semester, I am still the head teacher of Class One, Grade Two. One day, several class cadres asked me to report the situation, saying that Haiqiang and Xiaoxue in our class were in love. And reckless. The expression is very intimate, the action is exaggerated, and notes are often passed in class, which also drives some restless people. The students talked about it one after another, some were annoyed, some were envious, and some were booing. They are worried that the situation will get worse. I wasn't surprised at first. Puppy love is nothing serious. This is a normal phenomenon. Pretend to know the situation carefully with your classmates and discuss countermeasures. In the next few days, I received feedback from several parents and teachers. I think this matter really needs to be solved.
I know the students in our class very well. Hai Qiang is a very delicate boy, stronger and more straightforward. Xiaoxue is quiet and inarticulate. But they have one thing in common, that is, they don't study very well, and their home is far from school, which is basically out of the control of their parents. This has caused their inner emptiness and boredom. As we all know, when a person is bored, he is most likely to make mistakes. Because at that time, the control room of people's analysis and behavior of things was the most vague. Moreover, they are all ignorant middle school students, and they are more susceptible to bad social atmosphere.
It seems that things are getting worse. What should I do? There are several ways for teachers to deal with students' puppy love: the first way is to have a heart-to-heart talk, analyze the pros and cons, and reason with emotion; The second way is to inform parents, let them deal with it directly, and the teacher will watch; The third method is to order it to stop in a simple way. In fact, these methods have disadvantages. The way of speaking is too old-fashioned and easy to be platitudes, but it arouses rebellious psychology: parents are more troublesome to handle, not easy to coordinate, and cannot guarantee quality; As for the third one, it's even worse. Paper can't cover fire. I have been whispering in my heart. Whether to talk to them directly or in the most direct and rude way. I hesitated.
Nowadays, puppy love is becoming more and more common among students, and even many students are proud of puppy love. In fact, puppy love is not a big deal, it is an inevitable stage of life development. From the psychological point of view, puppy love is a way for students to know their id and show themselves. Puppy love, also known as adolescent love, refers to the relationship between underage men and women or their interest, infatuation or secret love for the opposite sex. In China, the word "puppy love" has the negative emotional color of elders, and generally refers to the love between teenagers under 18 years old, especially between primary and secondary school students. After twenty years' investigation in China, it is found that few people have never had feelings in middle school. Most of them are unrequited love and unrequited love. Only when you have a good impression on each other can you develop into puppy love. Puppy love behavior is based on the sexual and physical development of teenagers, and it is also the practice of transforming psychology into behavior.
It is generally believed that teenage love will bring many problems, such as affecting teenagers' physical and mental health and academic performance, especially for girls, but generally it will not have too serious impact. Puppy love often ends in failure, and few of them can be together for a lifetime; Others think that puppy love is teenagers' exploration and study of the relationship between men and women, preparing for future love and marriage, and should not be excessively prohibited and suppressed.
After thinking about it, I decided to adopt a channel and a semi-confidential way. First of all, I found a time to call Hai Qiang and Xiao Xue to the office respectively and had a conversation. I went to Haiqiang first. That afternoon, I called him to the office, and he still looked indifferent. But I know that such children are often "bully is always coward". I said unhurriedly, "Hai Qiang, there is no other meaning in calling you here today. I just want to know your views on learning and your own personality. " After listening to my words, his mouth turned up and his eyes blinked several times. "It doesn't matter. I'm sure I'll keep it a secret And I know that you are a very simple student, and teachers like students like you best. " He hesitated for a moment, gritted his teeth and said, "Teacher, I know my performance is not very good, but I also want to do better." Teacher, you are so kind to me. I see. At home, my parents will only ask me how my grades are. If they are bad, they will scold me and sometimes hit me. Teacher, in fact, I am still very depressed. ""Besides, I didn't behave well at school. My grades are not ideal, and I don't get along well with my classmates. I always look like I don't care. Actually, teacher, I really don't want this. I also know the importance of learning for students, and I also want to get on well with my classmates and finally get into a good high school. Make everyone happy. It's just that I tried and failed. I don't know what to do. Just focus on other places. I can't help feeling. "As soon as the chatterbox was opened, he kept talking. I didn't interrupt him either. I just listened with a smile. Suddenly found that being a listener is actually very happy. ,
I'm not surprised at what he said. Most junior high school students will have such self-knowledge. I smiled and said, "Oh! Yes, I have seen everything you have tried; Your parents are very demanding of you, I understand. It's just that I don't understand why you are vulnerable. Learning itself cannot be rushed, but one thing is eternal, and that is perseverance. I still have great confidence in you. " In the following communication, I told many examples, and he seemed to be greatly inspired by me. We have also formulated more appropriate measures. But I insisted on one thing-I arranged the seat, and he did not raise any objection and absolutely obeyed.
Later, I found Xiaoxue, and the content was basically the same. The two conversations did not involve the issue of puppy love, because I knew that saying too many cliches to them would be counterproductive.
At first, so did i. It's just that I often call them in class, check their homework and learn from many places. After a while, I found that it did improve, but the signs of puppy love were still obvious. So, after a monthly exam, I arranged their seats together and became a real "neighbor". When the decision was first announced, there was a sigh and then a laugh. Their reaction was first stupefied, then incredible, and then they wanted to stand up and fight back. I made full preparations at that time and immediately said loudly, "Some of our classmates have already agreed." Then keep an eye on them. They stopped talking when they saw that I was so serious. Things are still as I expected.
In the first few days, everyone was not used to it, and many students looked at them unconsciously. They didn't prepare anything, and they felt uncomfortable. They dare not get too close to the self-study class, which is full of the taste of Chu River and Han River. As if nothing had happened, I greeted several teachers and paid close attention to them. Gradually, I found that the class cadres came to report to me less, the teacher's reaction was less, and I heard a few words of praise. The trace of their puppy love is obviously gone. I don't even talk much. But it's not the cold war, it's the feeling that talking is already the taste between classmates. At the same time, their academic performance has improved. Both students and teachers are surprised.
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Three months later, the conversation began.
"Teacher, did you promise me? I know puppy love is not good, and students should focus on their studies. At first, I didn't understand why you arranged your seats like this. I thought you were giving me a hard time. Later, I found out that our relationship is really bad. And when you really get in touch, you will find that it is nothing but a child's play house. I totally understand. Don't worry, teacher, I will study hard. " He said eagerly. "all right! I am very satisfied with your performance. I will go to the class and announce it now. " Say that finish, happily walked into the classroom. ……
Testimony: It is said that the friendship between boys and girls is not pure, and our teacher is particularly afraid of puppy love. As soon as it appears, it will be like an enemy, preventing and blocking. In fact, the best way is to divert students' attention according to their individual characteristics, and at the same time, with the method of reverse thinking, it will receive unexpected results. I once saw an excellent class teacher in Yunnan on a TV program. This is how she handled the puppy love of students, and the effect can be said to be tried and tested.