Girlfriend lived together before. Is this acceptable? It is not easy to meet and fall in love in the vast sea of people. Nowadays, people like to live together before marriage, so that they can better understand each other's personalities. Some people will care that their partners have lived with others, and it is acceptable to share their girlfriends before.

Is it acceptable for a girlfriend to live together before? 1 I once asked a male friend, "Do you mind the girl who lives with her ex?"

He said it doesn't matter if you live together before marriage, as long as you haven't had an abortion. I asked him why, after all, pregnancy is not a girl's fault.

"I don't care if she is a virgin, and I don't care who she lived with. But I refused to let her know that she had an abortion for her ex. If two people are getting married, be honest with each other. At the same time, I personally think that girls should love themselves and cherish their bodies. If you don't feel sorry for yourself, how can you expect a man to love you? "

What my friend said is also reasonable. In love, girls should know how to protect themselves. At the same time, if they have found out that the man they met is love rat, they should quickly stay away, instead of repeating their mistakes for the sake of so-called love.

Reader Aoyang (a pseudonym) told me about his troubles.

Emotional stories of readers in Australia and foreign countries

Aoyang and his girlfriend are getting married. They can chat with each other and meet their parents. Aoyang knows that his girlfriend has an ex-girlfriend, but he doesn't know what is going on between his girlfriend and his ex-girlfriend. Because he feels that the past has passed and should not be mentioned again.

One month before the wedding, my girlfriend confessed some "private affairs" to Aoyang one night.

It turns out that my girlfriend had a seven-year relationship with her ex. They were going to get married, but they never got married. Love for seven years, anxious to get married. Living together before marriage, of course. But what Aoyang can't accept is that his girlfriend has given birth to her predecessor twice, which makes him unacceptable. He felt embarrassed.

Aoyang was very kind to his girlfriend and regarded her as his own treasure, but when he learned the truth, he chickened out. He hates that his girlfriend didn't tell him in advance, and he hates that his girlfriend told him at this time, but he feels that it seems right and contradictory for his girlfriend to tell him.

"I don't know if I should accept it, but I think she is different from what I imagined. I don't care if she lived with her ex before marriage. But why twice? I have seen who it was the first time. Why is there a second time? This is unacceptable to me. I hate her for not protecting herself. "

After his girlfriend confessed to him, Aoyang didn't have much contact. Originally, the two were happily preparing for the wedding, but now everything has been postponed. When parents asked, Aoyang also said nothing. As for my girlfriend, I have always apologized to Aoyang, saying that I am still young, ignorant and deeply in love.

"With him for seven years, are you still attached to him? Are you sincere to me? "

My girlfriend talked with Aoyang for a year, and both of them felt that everything was suitable, and then they talked about marriage. But Aoyang is worried that his girlfriend is not sincere to him. After all, he has been in love for seven years. Is it that easy to break?

"My girlfriend and I are old and should get married. I am 30 years old and my girlfriend is 27 years old. Finally met a suitable one, and that's the result. She is not my first girlfriend, but I really like her. We are also very happy together, but the question is should I mind? "

Ipoh's Emotional Theory

A girl can tell you this before marriage. She has a lot of courage, which shows that she also values the feelings between you. She could have kept nothing from you, but out of respect, she told you and didn't want to lie to you. I don't think girls are sincere to you, but they are sincere.

Your girlfriend's last relationship still needs rational analysis. She talked with her predecessor for seven years. At that time, she was young and immature. At the beginning, I was in a hurry to get married, otherwise I wouldn't have talked for seven years, but I didn't get to the end. I can only say that two people are doomed to be unhappy.

I think what you care about is not necessarily that your girlfriend lives with her ex and has an abortion, but that your girlfriend is such a good person in your heart, but now it is unacceptable to you. Your girlfriend's honesty breaks your beautiful fantasy about her, and you will get yourself into a "difficult" predicament.

When it comes to feelings, none of us can guarantee that we will be the first when we meet, and we are not so lucky; We can't guarantee that we will end up with the first love. Everyone has a past, which is nothing.

Respect a person's past, don't mix her past with your feelings.

As for whether or not to stay with your girlfriend? I think you need to think it over. If you really can't accept it and don't care, then you'd better not get married.

If all aspects are analyzed comprehensively, you think your girlfriend is a good girl, kind, gentle, honest, virtuous and so on. You are very happy with her. She is sincere, mature and sensible to you. You can't be separated from each other.

At this time, you might as well forget everything in the past. Everyone has a past. She met someone before, but she has grown up. She is willing to give up her heart for you. Do you really mind thinking about it?

Of course, girls can tell you frankly because if you get married and get pregnant, some things can't be hidden completely.

But this belongs to her past. You know your emotional state very well. Don't force marriage if you can't get past the hurdle in your heart. You don't mind crossing the line. You will be well together, floating in the wind.

Is it acceptable for a girlfriend to live together before? 2 0 1

In this era, people are more open-minded, and many people pursue fast-food love. It is clear that two people have only known each other for a few months, and they have not fully understood each other, so they began to live together.

After living together for a period of time, I found that two people were not suitable and started the next relationship.

If so, I believe it is impossible to make a positive result.

In this respect, I also hope that girls will be more serious and practical emotionally. When you start to associate with a person, you must make sure that you know enough about him.

At a certain moment, you once fantasized that you wanted to grow old with him. These are all factors that push your relationship to the next step.

But if you are just a temporary novelty to him, or a temporary rise. Then this relationship won't last.

If your girlfriend lives with her ex, will you accept her? I once asked three boys, and this is their answer.

02

Mr. Wang: I don't accept it

To tell the truth, I am a very traditional person. If my girlfriend has lived with another opposite sex, I can't accept it. When I get along with her, I feel particularly uncomfortable.

Of course, I am not a double standard, because I have never been in love myself. I have always been strict with myself in the relationship between men and women. If I can't give each other a future, I'll never touch her again.

In this case, I also hope my future girlfriend is clean and pure.

In my impression, if girls are not married, they will live with other men. I will feel that such a girl is not reserved, and even after marriage, she will not feel at ease.

This is my attitude and my criteria for finding a girlfriend.

Mr. Li: I care

I once dated a girlfriend, and I loved her very much, but before dating me, she had a boyfriend of four years. Both of them even went to the point of buying a house and talking about marriage, but they broke down because of the bride price.

After breaking up, I met her by chance. When we first met, she didn't tell me about that emotional experience.

Later, after we dated for a while, she told me about her past, but at that time I already loved her to a certain extent.

Then she took the initiative to talk to me about this emotional experience. When she talked about it, although I didn't care on the surface, I was actually crazy with jealousy.

Because before that, a man completely owned her. I feel uncomfortable at the thought of these things.

In the process of getting along with each other later, we often get unhappy because of this matter. Every time we quarrel, I think about it in my heart.

The same is true, we have reached an embarrassing stage. I still love her, but I don't think I can go on with her, so our relationship came to an end after a year together.

After that, I have thought about what kind of person I am looking for.

Mr. Wu: I don't accept it.

In my heart, I am a very traditional woman, and I think some things must wait until marriage to be beautiful.

Some things start too early and will end too early.

In my impression, I always feel that girls should be reserved, because I have a female friend who has always been very open-minded emotionally. She had three boyfriends, each of whom had some close contact with her, but finally broke up for various reasons.

Of course, none of these three boyfriends is sincere, and most of them are out of a playful attitude.

Later, after breaking up, she met a man she particularly liked, and the other party dated her for a while, but finally broke up because of too many emotional experiences.

After this relationship broke up, she felt very painful, and even regretted why she was so casual before. Why didn't she save the best things for last?

After breaking up, she once cried and asked me: Do all men care about this?

As a man, I don't mind if it's fake. After all, every man wants his last wife to be a pure woman, hoping that he can belong to you completely.

If you finally marry a woman with rich emotional experience, your married life will be hard.