Both parents want their children to be smart and don't want their children to be "stupid". If they want their children to be smart, they must first know how the children become "stupid", so as to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and let the baby move in a smart direction. Three reasons why children become stupid 1. A game that can never be won. If we let children play a game, the difficulty of the game is beyond their existing understanding ability, but we don't give him any explanation. As a result, children always don't know how to play, and every attempt fails, and children will become more and more uncomfortable. No one else said that they would feel stupid. If you rarely get the feeling of "winning" in your child's life. In the end, he may become a clumsy and timid child. 2. Premature knowledge transfer Some parents who are keen on so-called "intellectual development" actively train their children in reading, writing and arithmetic. Those academic knowledge does not conform to children's cognitive characteristics. Although children can learn by rote by parroting, they don't understand, so they often can't promote their intellectual development. On the contrary, it will bring great learning pressure to children, reduce their interest in learning and dampen their self-confidence. 3. Many negative hints have a fairy tale full of implications: there was a beautiful princess who was locked in a high tower by a witch since she was a child, and she could only see witches every day. The witch says to her every day, "You are so ugly that everyone who sees you will be afraid." The princess believed the witch and was afraid of being laughed at by others. Until one day, a prince passed under the tower and saw the fairy-like beauty of the princess, which surprised him and saved her. The princess realized in the mirror that she was so beautiful. In fact, many parents may inadvertently act as "witches". Saying that children are "stupid" is the mantra of some parents, even with love. However, children receive "stupid" information; Sometimes, parents who want their children to succeed will compare their children with others consciously or unconsciously. "Look how smart Tintin is!" "Aunt Li's daughter can talk to foreigners in English. She is younger than you. " ...... Sometimes, parents are modest in front of friends and outsiders, "My son is no good, he is stupid." "This child is very brainless." Being submerged in so many negative hints all day, how can a child not really believe that he is really stupid? When children are convinced that they are stupid and have poor learning ability because of the above reasons, they will have a serious sense of inferiority and self-doubt, and the subconscious will have a "protective effect" and refuse new information to enter the memory bank to protect their master's beliefs. The result is really a silly child who can't learn anything If you don't want your child to be stupid, let him experience the joy of success. When a child succeeds and experiences happiness, the brain will release "morphine in the brain" and drive the child to repeat this experience. Therefore, from this perspective, we can say that "success is the mother of success". In playing games, toys, handicrafts, participating in competitions, doing housework and other activities, children are encouraged to try boldly and give appropriate guidance so that they can taste the joy of victory through certain efforts. For example, when a child is eager to help his mother wash the dishes, don't disturb him or refuse him for fear that he will break the bowl. You might as well move a stool with a moderate height, put an apron and sleeves on him, and tell him how to handle it gently and how to rinse it clean. When the child washes the dishes, loudly praise him for doing a great job, and the child will be very happy and confident in his ability! For children, all kinds of exploration are opportunities for learning. Then, let's "find a dwarf apple tree for our children and let them stand on tiptoe to reach for the apple". Successful experiences again and again will give children confidence and motivation to move forward to a higher goal. 2, interest is always the first Ling Zhijun told a story in the best-selling book "Microsoft Boy". Juliet's son Warren is smart, only 14 years old. He has finished high school and can go to college. In this case, most parents in China will proudly describe their children's success, but Juliet doesn't want her son to go to college now, because she wants him to enjoy his childhood more and let him do what he likes. She has the following question and answer with the author: "As a teacher, what do you think is the most important thing for students in terms of" grades, interests, happy childhood and morality "?" "Interest is always the first. No interest, nothing. With interest, great achievements will follow. " "So, as a mother, what do you think is the most important thing for your children?" "Interest, or interest. I hope he has a very happy childhood. However, interest comes first. You will be happy if you are interested. " The mother's belief is similar to that of an educator in the former Soviet Union. Once, an educator gave a lesson to preschool children. He prepared a "talking ball", saying "2+3=" and throwing it from the podium. The children who catch the ball will tell the answer, and the children are very happy to learn. Some teachers don't understand, saying that you are not reinventing the wheel? Why not just ask questions? What do you want "talking ball"? He replied that there is no "talking ball", of course, you can ask questions, but the child has no interest in talking. "Interest is the best teacher" has become a cliche, but it is still ignored by many parents. If you want to make your children smarter and more interested in learning, put stimulating, caring and improving their interest in learning activities on the daily agenda. 3. Tell your child that it doesn't matter if you fail. There are always winners and losers in learning and activities. How to evaluate children is an art. Because children themselves have no ability to evaluate themselves, most of them rely on others' attitudes towards themselves to realize themselves. When children are sad about "failure", parents should not treat their children with pity, or sigh in front of them, or even scold them. The correct way is to let children know that failure and mistakes are no big deal, and everyone may encounter them. Brave and smart people will learn from their failures and continue to work hard. Allowing children to fail is also a kind of trust that children can succeed. Finally, let's think about the criteria used by the International 2 1 Century Committee to judge whether "enlightenment education" is successful: whether it "provides the motivation and foundation for lifelong continuous learning". If so, this kind of education can be said to be successful; Otherwise it will fail.