In the United States, when children are seven or eight months old, they can sit in special chairs and grab their own food. Parents never worry about how dirty their clothes will be. Parents will not blame their children when they see them scribbling on the wall or scribbling on books, clothes and other items with scissors, because they are glad that their children have learned some skills. They won't scold the children loudly because they regret that something was destroyed by them. More often, it is patiently telling them some operational skills and knowledge.

In China, on the contrary, parents will severely scold their children for their destructive behavior, ask them to stop touching this and that, and even set many rules for their children.

2. Pay attention to cultivate children's sense of equality.

Walking into American families, you will find children's works hanging on the walls; All kinds of toys and reading materials will be placed where children can get them; Children always call their elders by their first names like partners; Parents always squat when talking to their children; They always provide opportunities for children to participate and perform in peacetime, and give them recognition and praise.

In China, elders are always elders, and what adults say must be right. Children must do what adults say. It is our traditional virtue to respect the old and love the young.

3. Pay attention to cultivating children's independent ability.

American parents cultivate their children's sense of independence from an early age, and let their children sleep in a small bed from an early age, and let them sleep in a room alone when they are older; For daily affairs, children can never help, and parents only help some things that children can't do yet; /kloc-Most children above 0/8 earn their own money to study. So American cleaners or waiters may be students receiving higher education.

In China, parents take care of everything for their children from an early age. Children have to wear clothes, and their hands and mouths are full of food. As long as the children have fun and study hard, nothing at home is necessary. Many college students, even teenagers who come out to work in society, have to ask for money from their families.

4. Pay attention to cultivating children's sense of responsibility

American parents attach great importance to children's responsibility education, starting from childhood and starting from small things. Parents attach great importance to their children's high school graduation ceremony, because they think it is the symbol and starting point for their children to become adults and go to society, so the graduation ceremony is very grand. Each student has about a dozen relatives and friends, including parents, who will attend the graduation ceremony. After the school graduation ceremony, every family will organize a family gathering to celebrate their children's graduation from high school and adulthood, and send memorable adult gifts. The purpose is to let children understand and remember that they are adults and should be fully responsible for themselves.