How do parents be their children's first teachers? The premise of educating children well is to pay attention to them. The intelligence level of babies is reflected in these aspects. Clearing the obstacles on the road to growth is conducive to children's better growth. Children's world is pure. Let's share with you how parents can be their children's first teachers.
How do parents become their children's first teachers 1 1? Creating an atmosphere, communicating with each other and creating an equal, relaxed, harmonious and warm family atmosphere are the keys to the healthy growth of children.
Parents should have a sense of humor.
At home, children often see the bright side of things. Parents should not always be serious, because laughter can make children love life more. For example, you can watch humorous books and comedy movies with your children at home. Parents should show appreciation when children try some humorous behaviors. Laughter can close the distance between people and make children willing to communicate with you happily.
Parents should establish a democratic and equal relationship with their children.
Don't think that you are an elder, always condescending, either yelling at your children at will or ignoring them. At home, you should get along with your children on an equal footing and be good at crouching down and listening to their words. In our family, it is a tradition to have dinner together and take a walk after dinner, which is an excellent exchange opportunity. At this time, we talk about work, study and our own ideas on an equal footing. We can catch the subtle changes in children's thoughts in time, and we can also take this opportunity to guide them skillfully. In addition, we regularly take our children to play in nature, so that we can not only enjoy the beautiful scenery of nature, but also communicate with our children further.
Parents should think of their children everywhere.
My husband and wife sometimes have some contradictions, but we never quarrel at home for the sake of the children. As parents, we should not only make our home warm, but also be gentle and rational. We should also think of our children and help them set correct ideal goals and solve ideological problems.
Second, lead by example, lead by example.
Educating children is a special form of parents' social responsibility. Therefore, as parents, we should set an example for our children in our daily life.
1, learn knowledge and constantly improve their own quality.
As parents, we should constantly learn new knowledge, master new technologies and gain insight into new information. Personal quality and cultural level have improved. It is necessary to understand new educational concepts and methods, especially in developing children's potential and how to motivate children and give full play to their imagination and creativity. So as to establish a correct concept of family education, master scientific methods of family education, and improve the ability of scientifically educating children.
2. Parents should establish a good image.
In daily family life and social occasions, we should pay attention to our own image, words and deeds and habits, and establish a good image and a positive image of our parents. Only in this way can we instill in our children the concept of hard work, modesty and eagerness to learn, and will take root in their hearts over time and become a spiritual force to motivate their children to move forward.
3. Parents should pay attention to the role of "example".
Words speak louder than examples. A large number of facts have proved that the education children receive at home is often the "role model" of their parents. This "leading by example" has played a "subtle" role. Good family education is like this. On the contrary, the low morality of family members will also have a negative impact on children's growth. Parents use their own words and deeds and their own good image education to guide their children, which is many times better than making great efforts to preach.
Third, the combination of strict love and cultivation habits.
Gorky said that "whoever loves children will love them, and only those who love children can educate them". From the moment we intend to give her life, our hearts are full of love and hope. Although we are not rich and cannot provide her with a richer material life, we have never lacked love. A phone call, a smile, a look, an action, in the ocean of love, we accompanied him along the way and grew up happily. In a family that always embodies love, children will feel safe and show deep trust in their parents. In this way, he will also show confidence and learn to love others. In love, we have principles. For some good habits, we implement:
1, strict requirements, once put forward, we must resolutely implement them, without exception.
In the process of cultivating children's good habits, parents' exemplary role is very important. The so-called "whose children are like who" is the truth. This sentence is perfect for the cultivation of good habits.
3, repeated reinforcement: the formation of habits is not a one-off event, it needs repeated practice. When children do what they are asked to do, parents should give them timely affirmation; If you don't do as required, you will be strictly urged. Good habits are easy to form when children are interested and have pleasant experiences.
Fourth, correctly guide and cultivate interest.
Nowadays, parents want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed, and they like to enroll their children in various classes and interest classes. They want their children to be proficient in everything, but they don't consider whether they like it or not, and some even just want to complete their unfinished dreams. The result of doing so is often counterproductive. Not only may you learn nothing well, but you may also dampen your child's interest in learning. From then on, you are afraid of learning and hate learning.
How do parents be their children's first teachers? 2. Give children a sense of psychological security.
We live in an era of material abundance. Few parents are willing to treat their children badly and always give them too much material satisfaction, while we ignore their inner feelings.
Parents should not pass on their bad feelings to their children, or vent them on their children. No amount of toys and gifts can compare with the warm hugs and caring smiles that parents give their children.
Let children truly feel the love and attention of their parents, so that children will have confidence.
Stop your nagging
I find that when people around me talk about their children, they will talk endlessly. Children are useless and have no advantage in their eyes.
I recall that when my child was young, I called him that. Although the child didn't talk back to me, he was young and timid at that time, but now when the child chats with me, he will talk about that time, and I scold him, making him feel extremely inferior. I'm ashamed.
Fortunately, I am not particularly authoritarian when I treat my children. Fortunately, my child is still psychologically healthy, otherwise I will regret it now!
Praise the children more.
Some parents like to crack down on education and always dampen their children's enthusiasm. This is a serious mistake.
We shouldn't be afraid that children will be proud. A good boy must be praised.
Trust your children, fully trust your children, and what you believe can make things develop in the direction you want.
It should be noted that you must praise your child from the heart and don't pretend to be perfunctory. The child's heart is extremely sensitive. However, if you can't fully grasp the sincere praise before, lying to praise your child is a good start compared with the tone of your previous complaint.
Learn to understand and accept certain things that children do.
For example, children are generally lively and often make noise in public places. We parents must not scold our children stiffly, but think about whether the children really want to be happy.
Maybe children really don't want to do those annoying things, but they just don't know how to let their parents know their inner thoughts. It is necessary for parents to ask their children, do you really like this?
In fact, children sometimes deliberately do some inexplicable things to attract their parents' attention. At this time, children are vulnerable and need the help and trust of their parents.
When communicating with children, you should have a sense of ceremony.
Parents should make up their minds to change their previous attitude towards their children and want them to change, so they need to communicate well with their children, but they must not say it on the way after school or at the dinner table as usual, which will not have good results.
Parents can choose their children's favorite restaurant, order their children's favorite food, and then try to maintain an equal and relaxed communication atmosphere. You can try this. I believe the result of communication will be pleasant.
Communicating in such a situation, children will think that they are respected, give themselves a sense of mission, gradually increase their sense of responsibility and give themselves confidence in self-growth.
Learn to control your emotions and don't conflict with your children.
Each of us is an independent individual, and it is completely normal for people to have different ideas. Parents should learn to accept their children's ideas and not get angry because their children have different ideas.
Let's think about it. When we leave home, we often meet people who disagree with us. Most of us just laugh it off and ignore him at most. Why do we lose our temper and get angry when we come to the children?
We should learn to accept children's personality, leave the best mentality to children, raise children well, and establish a good parent-child relationship is more important than anything else.
When children take the initiative to find their parents, don't use busyness as an excuse to miss it.
I remember when my children were young, they would call me every day after school and tell me what happened at school. I sometimes interrupt him impatiently. Now that I think about it, I really shouldn't.
Children take the initiative to talk to us about things, which is their dependence and trust on their parents. They think their parents are the most important people to them, and chatting with them makes them feel very interesting. Smart parents will also take this opportunity to learn more about their children's situation at school and unconsciously give them guidance on their growth.