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In China, there are three kinds of education touted as paradise, namely, happy education, useless academic qualifications and "releasing children's nature".
These educational concepts hold that all the characteristics of children can be attributed to nature, and whether they are good or bad, they all have natural rationality, which cannot be refuted or suppressed.
Professor Tsinghua University said indignantly that these three kinds of junk education are pure scams.
Parents think this kind of love is great, but it is actually very cheap. This cheap love is gradually distorting the growth of children in China and abolishing our next generation.
1. Children have no rules.
In a hot pot restaurant in Wuxi, Jiangsu, adults are all sitting in their seats to eat, and only one child is running around in the aisle.
His mother followed slowly, without scolding or stopping.
When I ran to a corner, I happened to bump into the waiter who was turning. The waiter has a pot of grilled fish in his hand. The child's forehead just stuck to the hot grilled fish pot. Tragedy happened immediately, and the children were burned to death in many places.
After that, the parents of the child arrogantly demanded compensation of 390,000 yuan, without any evaluation or any legal proceedings: "It doesn't matter if the money was not stolen. Whose child was burned to death, so it is not worth 390,000? "
The responsibilities of children and parents are completely eliminated.
Why do children in China generally lack the awareness of rules? Because in the eyes of many parents, children's nature is higher than rules.
Children's nature is active, so they can run freely, make noise and make loud noises.
In China, more and more children ignore the rules, which leads to more and more tragedies.
2. Children have no sense of awe.
A few months ago, a murder case occurred in Longhui, Hunan. A 73-year-old grandmother was killed in front of her house. The police arrived at the scene. Within five hours, the case was solved:
The murderer is a child of 13 years old. On the afternoon of the incident, the child lived near his grandmother's house and was scolded by her grandmother.
Without saying anything, the child picked up a straight knife at the door and rushed straight at the old woman, stabbing the old man in the head with all his strength. The old man died on the spot. Later, the child asked the old man for 700 yuan's money and finally fled the scene.
A similar incident happened in Shaodong, Hunan Province, not far away:
On 20 15 10 18, three left-behind children discussed going to xinlian primary school. Because of the school holiday that day, the three of them broke through the fence and entered.
After entering the school, they pried open the canteen door and stole the bread, lollipops and other food inside. It happened to be discovered by the female teacher on duty. In order to avoid being caught, the three children directly held the female teacher with a wooden stick, and then they were killed and escaped.
The next day, three children were captured by the public security organs.
Left-behind children can be considered as the most thorough stocking. Nobody takes care of them, let alone nobody. Their nature can be considered as the most complete release. What is the final result? It ended in tragedy, and even the most normal growth could not be completed.
There is a devil hidden in every child's heart. Unconditional stocking, stocking without restraint and discipline will only make children lack the most basic sense of awe.
3. Children have no sense of self-discipline.
Writer Mao Nan met a mother, an ordinary family, ordinary parents and ordinary children. He said that after reading a famous expert's book, he decided to imitate his parenting style.
I get up and go to bed, and my mother never cares, because she thinks that children have a sense of responsibility for themselves. As for academic performance, interest is the most important thing, so don't ask for anything.
And the result? Three years later, the tragedy happened and the results were basically the lowest. Other children have one or two majors. Where are her children? No professional knowledge.
Playing games is good. I play mobile games for more than eight hours every day. Often late for school, the game quietly charged 2000 yuan. ...
Doesn't she understand why such a good educational method can produce such a result? In fact, the children released are far beyond this range.
I have no doubt that children have a sense of self-management. I suspect that children's sense of self-discipline is not as strong as expected, but many parents are exaggerating this point infinitely.
Perhaps in the end, it is not the children who control their fate, but the mobile phone.
A child without self-discipline will never have a future. Stocking and stocking will only make children lose the most basic control.
Such children will not be competitive in the future.
4. Children have no education.
I saw a joke on the Internet. A girl is waiting in line to buy milk tea. She did a good job. Then a child ran directly in front of her, followed by his mother.
The girls can't stand it. They are still young and must be so in the future. They asked their mother how you discipline your children. Mom said rudely, the children are like this, please leave me alone.
The girl suddenly said, "Why do you want him? He is ugly! " His mother turned blue with anger and took the child away.
I met a stranger again a few days ago.
At about noon on March 27th 1, two children were sitting in the elevator of a residential area in Zhengzhou, Henan province. One of the children had a whim and tried to stretch in the elevator. He supported the wall with his hands and pressed his feet against the elevator door. Then push.
Unexpectedly, the security door in the elevator suddenly flew out and the main control panel of the elevator popped up from the wall. If it were not for the protection of the external wall, the consequences would be unimaginable.
Unexpectedly, after the incident, Xiong's mother forwarded the surveillance video to the owners, causing unreasonable harassment: "Is this elevator made of paper?" "Is it necessary to thank my son for his property?"
Behind every born child, there must be innocent parents.
For children's willfulness and ignorance, they choose to close their eyes and give up their responsibilities as parents.
They must have never thought that there must be bears behind the stocking, and they must be arbitrary, without exception.
5. The weakest education: stocking
In recent years, stocking has been well received by many parents. Children need happiness and freedom, release their perfect nature and let them grow up independently and freely.
It looks beautiful, but it's actually terrible.
Many parents have no "stocking" at all. In their eyes, stockings are actually giving up, indulging, and finally breaking the precepts and even breaking the law.
The book Unequal Childhood points out:
At least to a certain extent, American elites usually carry out cooperative training, which can be roughly understood as "captivity", while the working class and the poor practice natural growth, which is what we call "socks".
You see, the "stockings" you tout are the helpless choice of the bottom people in the United States. Like most people in China, they don't have enough time and money to educate their children.
The more serious reality behind it is that children without goods can't compete with children from elite families. The price of inventory may be that you will lose the rising channel forever.
The famous educator Ushchinski said, "If you form good habits, you will not be able to enjoy the benefits that life brings you, but if you form bad habits, you will pay off endless debts for life.
In fact, it is the same in any country. Elite education has never happened!
6. Don't cross the border.
Educator Ding Lin once told such a story. Some time ago, an American guest came to her house-a third-grade girl. Like all children, this little girl has no resistance to sweets. After eating the first one, she wants to eat the second one.
She asked her mother if she was all right. Mom clearly said, no, the little girl must accept it frankly.
Many people like to talk about how foreign free, advanced and respected education can satisfy children's wishes, but they ignore this point intentionally or unintentionally. Before freedom, there is a clearly visible boundary. Some things can be done, and some things must not be done.
Obama is the president of the United States and the winner of the Nobel Peace Prize, but he is more proud of his identity (the father of two children). Obama's education of children is a model of American elite education.
Obama has two daughters. When they were 10 and 7 years old, he made nine family rules. The content is not complicated, but it has high operability and significance:
Family rules 1: no unreasonable complaints, no quarrels, no annoying teasing;
Family Rule 2: Make sure the bed is clean, not just clean.
Rule 3: Do your own thing, such as making grains or pouring milk, folding the quilt, setting the alarm clock, getting up and dressing yourself;
Family rule 4: keep the toy room clean;
Family rule 5: help parents share housework, weekly 1 USD;
Family rule 6: birthday or Christmas, no luxurious gifts and gorgeous parties;
Rule 7: Turn off the lights at 8: 30 every night.
Family rule 8: arrange a full extracurricular life: dancing, rehearsal, piano, tennis and football;
Rule 9: No, idolize.
In this way, you will find that what Obama values most is the formulation of rules, which are practical things in life.
Parents should give their children freedom, but this kind of freedom is not infinite, unruly, intolerant, not to mention indulgence and inaction.
There is nothing wrong with certain release and tolerance, but before release, there must be clear boundaries. You can tolerate certain things, but you must not cross certain boundaries.