Jiang Wen, for example, always does the heavy work at home. He has to wash dishes, cook and even do housework. If he does something wrong, he will be beaten, and his brother Wu Jiang seems to be treated completely differently from him. Wujiang is a favored child at home. When he does something wrong or fails, his mother will encourage him to continue to refuel. This kind of treatment has never been seen in Jiang Wen. Therefore, Jiang Wen has always said that he has always been a very insecure person in his heart, because he has never been affirmed by his mother, and he is still worried about being beaten every day.
Jiang Wen is a very sensible child. He didn't oppose his mother because of her behavior, but wanted to please her everywhere. For example, he must have told his mother what great things he had done. He was also the first to tell his mother when he was admitted to Beijing Film Academy. As a result, the latter directly threw cold water on him, regardless of how Jiang Wenkao did. He threw the admission notice on the ground and let him work. Jiang Wen was very sad because of his mother's cold violence against him again and again.
Even after Jiang Wen became a big director and made a lot of money, he wanted to emulate his friends and buy a suite for his mother. As a result, he was greeted by his mother's indifferent response, and Jiang Wen was completely helpless. If a stick makes the dutiful son and loving mother lose more children, then Jiang Wen's mother should be strict with him for so many years. She has never seen Jiang Wen for decades, leaving her son in anxiety and self-doubt for most of his life. Is this what a mother should do?
To tell the truth, I sympathize with Jiang Wen, not to mention him. I don't think anyone can handle such a mother.
There is no reconciliation, because the relationship between Jiang Wen and his mother is not stiff. It's just that Jiang Wen said unilaterally in the program, "The biggest failure in my life is that I can't get along well with my mother. She always looks unhappy, and nothing I can do can make her happy. " And these "unhappy" mothers are more like an expectation of "hating iron and not producing steel".
Jiang Wen's mother married Jiang Hongwu after having Jiang Wen. Before marrying Jiang Hongwu, Jiang Wen's mother was definitely unhappy emotionally. However, Jiang Mu kept this secret and never revealed it, and Jiang Wen has no memory, because she is still young. Visible, for Jiang Mu, Jiang Wen came to this world, itself may be a wrong thing, because see Jiang Wen, I will definitely think of bad memories.
On the other hand, after Jiang Mu remarried, she had other children, but she also bossed around Jiang Wen, with a little abuse and abuse. Obviously, she took Jiang Wen as the object of venting her emotions. Even though Jiang Wen was admitted to the university and bought a house, it was a good thing for Jiang Wen, but it was not recognized by Jiang Mu. It can also be seen that in Jiang Mu's psychology, the most difficult thing to let go is the relationship with Jiang Wen's biological father, which is a pain engraved in my heart.
What Jiang Mu hates is not Jiang Wen, but the memories with Jiang Wen's biological father-unforgettable painful memories.
In the last two years of her life, she gave Jiang a red envelope, and it was the biggest one.
In my opinion, this red envelope is a recognition of Jiang Wen, but Jiang Mu may be inarticulate. As a rural woman, she still stands from the perspective of a mother. Although she is not very clever, she also knows that Jiang is innocent, otherwise she wouldn't have worked so hard to bring her up. Just in the face of painful memories of the past, she can't give Jiang Wen, nor can she gently face Jiang Wen. But Jiang Wen's performance she knows, just don't want to say it. In the end, she gave Jiang Wen the best recognition with this red envelope.
Xu Zhiyuan: "You have lived for so many years, and your life is full of these things. Will it cause you a sense of failure? "
Jiang Wen: "Failure is too much. Failure, for example, I often see others hugging her mother .........................................................................................................................................
Digging a grave, the director meets his mother, which is actually not reconciliation with his mother, but reconciliation with himself.
Just like I know how to let go, but when it comes to expressing myself, I still can't let go.
Jiang Wen is the eldest in the family, followed by his younger brother Wujiang and his younger sister Jiang Huan. My father, Jiang Hongqi, is a soldier, usually taciturn and upright. My mother, Levin, used to be a music teacher.
(There are rumors on the Internet that Jiang Wen's mother later remarried to Jiang Hongqi and looked up some information. This statement is not supported by relevant interviews, so the discussion of the Jiang family here will not involve remarriage. )
Since ancient times, in China's family education, mother is actually a kind and gentle spokesperson. However, in modern times, with the accelerated pace of life and the psychological distress of expecting children and women to succeed, more and more mothers subvert the image of kindness, break through the traditional cage and educate their children in an almost harsh way.
Jiang Wen's mother, Levin, is also the spokesperson of strict mother. She firmly believes that loving mothers often fail their children. Jiang Wen once talked about such a trivial matter in an interview.
1. The tableware must be washed after meals, and it must be cleaned. If anything is dirty, let Jiang Wen wash it again.
Mom doesn't often beat him, but she will be scolded, and sometimes even pulled up by her mother in the middle of the night.
When Jiang Wen was admitted to Chinese opera, his mother didn't show much happiness, but asked Jiang Wen to do the laundry.
4. A friend suggested that buying a house would make my mother happy. As a result, Jiang Wen's mother didn't want to live there, but loved the street of the Ministry of Internal Affairs.
Jiang Wen said that he is actually a person with low self-esteem. Indeed, how can the eldest son who grew up in such an environment not feel inferior?
In this year's phenomenal TV series "Everything is Fine", Su Mingzhe seems to be loved by his mother and is the center of the whole family, but in fact it is not. He is actually carrying the same things as Jiang Wen. Su Mingzhe always comes first in the exam, and his ultimate dream is to study abroad. But is this what he wants? He is just moving closer to the goal that his mother wants to cultivate a high-quality eldest son. He loves face and is a big head, which is just another manifestation of inferiority.
Naughty children courted their mothers by knocking over pickle jars; The way for a sensible child to ask his mother for love is to be the best child constantly.
Dong Qing said: "My father's harshness and harshness to me are beyond many people's imagination. The problem with this kind of education is that I often feel inferior ... I have to do much better than others before I feel practical. "
Isn't it the same in Jiang Wen? It is hard for me to imagine that someone like Jiang Wen would say "I have always felt inferior", and it is hard for me to imagine that Dong Qing would feel the same way as Jiang Wenyou.
The bad family education environment completely devours a child's innocence, but how can a good flower bear the bad consequences?
I don't agree with the statement that Jiang Wen's mother doesn't love Jiang Wen. Two years before the old man died, Jiang Wen's mother pulled Jiang Wen aside and took an envelope out of her pocket. Jiang Wen said that the envelope was almost full and even burst, and most of the money in it was red.
The old man's dark face shone in the dim light, and his rough hands had to spread out the money he had saved. Sometimes they are so wrinkled that she even puts them under the bed. The eldest son sent money again today. What money can the old man use? I saved it and stuffed it into the envelope that had been touched countless times. People can always foresee something. The old man breathed a sigh of relief when he handed the thick money to his eldest son. The eldest son has got it himself, and the old man has nothing to give except this envelope.
Whether admitted to a Chinese opera or won prizes at various film festivals, Jiang Wen never made his mother laugh at several proud moments. He said, "My mother and I have always had a bad relationship and always wanted to get along."
But at the same time, Jiang Wen also said that her mother has been protecting the calf unprincipled, and she actually loves him.
In fact, the film "New Big Head Son" also focuses on this social hotspot, discussing whether children should grow up or become talents. Mother apron, like mother Jiang Wen, advocates "elite education mode", while father with little head chooses "happy learning rule". Which of these two ways is better? We have no way to prove that the formula of love is mixed and everything is right. Whether it is Dong Qing's father or Jiang Wen's mother, we can hardly blame them. There is no right or wrong way of education.
In fact, the older generation has a special desire for control in their hearts. In the eyes of young people now, we are all independent individuals. Radish and cabbage have their own love, but our harmony but difference is the great love in the world. But in the eyes of the older generation of parents, this is actually intolerable. Eating bitter gourd has always been a problem between my family and me. They always say that eating bitter gourd is healthy, and I always say with a smile that I understand, but chopsticks will never extend to bitter gourd. If you don't eat such a simple thing, it is intolerable in the eyes of my family, because in their eyes, you must eat for your own good. In the end, I won the battle of bitter gourd by throwing up when I ate seven meats and eight vegetables.
The question is not whether bitter gourd is good or not, because bitter gourd is good, I know, I just don't want to eat it. This kind of thing actually happens many times in the family, and the refined point of view is "Did you do what I said? I don't care whether you will achieve anything, I only care that you do as I say. "
However, it is too harsh to reconcile the contradictions arising from such views, because no one knows whether Levin laughed when watching his son's movies. Perhaps one night before going to bed, Levin once smiled sweetly, and she knew that even if her son didn't do what he said now, he was actually living a very good life.
Just like when shooting Sunny Days, Levin also read the book sent by Jiang Wen, gave Jiang Wen his own views and opinions, and recommended Yu Xia. Jiang Wen decided to let Yu Xia play the leading role only after listening to his mother's evaluation of Xia. Maybe at some point, she has reconciled with herself, put down her expectations and accepted Jiang Wen's own pursuit, but Jiang Wen didn't know it.
There is no great contradiction between the two. This problem is just a microcosm of our millions of families.
Jiang Wen's mother has left. The complex around them has been broken. What about us? What about our complex? As Shi Dongpo told Su Mingyu in Everything is Fine, you and your mother can't make up. You can choose not to forgive or let go.
It is meaningful to discuss others when we have to gain something.
Bo Huang said, "When I was young, I didn't understand my father. Later, I wanted to understand my father, who was already confused. If I can go back, I just want to stay with him quietly. "
I always feel that this question is wrong, but I can't say what is wrong. There is indeed a problem between Jiang Wen and his mother, which comes from the education of the family. Maybe Jiang Wen's mother didn't think there was anything wrong with her education, but she left a huge psychological shadow on Jiang Wen, which will accompany Jiang Wen all her life.
Seeing this, many people will think that there is a deep hatred between Jiang Wen and his mother, or why they treat their children like this, but it is not.
Jiang Wen, 1963, was born in the era of "a dutiful son is born under a stick". Jiang Wen is the boss of the family. He lived with his grandmother at the age of 10, and was later taken over by his parents. When I was a child, Jiang Wen's character was very naughty, which worried my parents. At that time, the only way for parents to educate their children was to fight. Jiang Wen once recalled that "his mother 12 woke him up one day" just to beat him up, but Jiang Wen Jr. didn't know where he was wrong, and adults never communicated with children. She thought he knew why he was beaten, but he didn't.
It says that Jiang Wen has three children, and his younger brother, Wu Jiang, is also very naughty, but he is very smart and doesn't let his mother know when he makes mistakes, but Jiang Wen is a straightforward person, so he is easily beaten by his mother. Jiang Wen once mentioned in an interview that because he is the eldest in the family, in the mother's mind, only by disciplining the eldest can other children be better disciplined, which is the most intuitive reason why Jiang Wen is often beaten.
In fact, Jiang Wen, who was often beaten, was also very naughty when he was a child, but he always wanted his mother's approval. Everyone has this kind of psychology. Everyone wants to be recognized when he is alive, and the first person who wants to be recognized in life is his parents. Although Jiang Wen is excellent now, he has never been praised by his parents. This is his pain and the driving force of his constant efforts.
But in the eyes of Jiang Wen's mother, happiness is invisible. Jiang Wen said that she was admitted to Chinese opera, and her mother was not very happy. This expression also implicitly reveals that although her mother is not very happy, she is also happy, but it is not so obvious. When buying a house for her mother, Jiang Wen directly said that she didn't like it, but the sentence "I don't like it" was a bit childish, disappointed, complaining and lost. I don't want to find out why my mother doesn't live, but she must be happy inside, but she hasn't shown it yet.
At that time, such parents were everywhere. They're worried. I'm afraid he will be proud if I praise him. Only strictness can make him better. It can't be said that this theory is completely wrong, and Jiang Wen does make constant efforts to make his mother feel good. But she won't think about the psychological impact on Jiang Wen, or what impact it will have. As long as he is good enough to have food and clothes, that's enough.
The fact is, psychological shadow is the most deadly. Nowadays, our hot topic is still the influence of family background, which shows how important the education of parents is. After so many years of development, this problem still exists. Therefore, the education of parents is worthy of every parent's attention and warning, and mental health is the foundation of people.
Jiang Wen said that two years before his mother died, he called himself home and wrapped himself in a big envelope. The envelope was so bulging that he didn't even have to think about it. It was his mother who gave his savings to herself.
Jiang Wen has been worried about her mother's attitude towards herself. She feels that no matter how good she is, how hard she works, and how much she has achieved, she always seems unhappy and never even says a word of praise or praise. Jiang Wen don't understand, mother why.
It is a happy event for ordinary families to get the admission notice, make a movie and win an award. But it's not worth being happy with Jiang Wen's mother. Why? Mother never said anything, so Jiang Wen had to guess. Even buying a house for mom can't make her happy.
Why did mom do this to Jiang Wen? Is it because mom saw something in Jiang Wen?
Jiang Wen is not Wujiang's brother. For Jiang Wen, his biological father left his mother long ago, and he almost never said his biological father in front of the camera. If it were me, I wouldn't say that I had no memory until I was three years old, and Wujiang was only four years younger than him.
This shows that Jiang Wen's biological father left this house before he was 3 years old, and abandoned Jiang Wen and his mother. Is it that Jiang Mu saw a person's appearance in Jiang Wen, or that Jiang Wen's birth brought something bad, so Jiang Mu didn't like Jiang Wen so much?
In everything, Su Mingyu's mother had to give birth to Su Mingyu. From then on, Su Mingyu is the most annoying person in this family, even a mediocre star. When Su Mingyu's mother was alive, no matter what Su Mingyu did, she felt that Su Mingyu was wrong. Even being born is wrong.
There are also such examples in reality. The little dragon girl and her mother hate her father, even her father, so they take it out on the little dragon girl and scold her if they don't fight. The little dragon girl's later deviance is inseparable from this experience.
It is said that children are the efforts of parents. Why impose personal hatred on your children? If you can't be good to your child, if you can't be responsible, then don't have a baby! Jiang Mu may really be irresponsible in doing so.
No one in this world owes anyone, even if they owe each other, they are willing. Only parents and children, parents gave birth to children without their consent, and later they said that children came to ask for debts. This statement is irresponsible.
Jiang Wen's ingratiation is also a child's respect and filial piety to his mother. Only Jiang Wen's mother knows what she is hiding.
I watched Jiang Wen's talk show.
Compere: What is the biggest failure in your life?
Jiang Wen: My mother and I have never got along, and I have made a lot of efforts. I don't know how to make her happy for what I have done. She always looks unhappy.
In previous interviews, when talking about movies and life, Jiang Wen was laughing and laughing. Just when it comes to this topic, Jiang Wen has a low tone and a silent expression. In Jiang Wen's mind, the relationship with his mother is the biggest failure in his life. Mother is in Jiangwen, and her influence is not small. Jiang Wen, who is over 500 years old, remembers the dribs and drabs of getting along with her mother, and many things are still hard to let go.
In fact, if we look at Jiang Wen's mother's experience, it is not difficult to understand that the treatment of Jiang Wen and Wujiang is very different.
Jiang Wen's grandfather is a famous local miner. He went to my mine himself in the early 1950s, but he was sentenced for going the wrong way. The influence of this sentence of the father on his daughter can be imagined. It was not as good as it is now. In the early 1950s, people were drowned by their neighbors' spitballs. Later, Jiang Wen's father married his mother regardless of all difficulties. This soldier who participated in the Liberation War and the Korean War was demoted by the army because of his wife's composition (this can refer to his parents' love). The influence of these two events on Jiang Wen's mother can be imagined. Even optimistic and sunny girls will be depressed when they encounter such a thing.
Later, for various reasons, Jiang Wen's mother remarried. Married to Wujiang's father.
In the sitcom "Family with Children", many netizens feel aggrieved about Liu Xing's treatment in this reorganized family. Xiao Yu and Xiao Xue did the same thing, but Liu Xing was always criticized by his mother Liu Mei. I'm afraid this is a common problem in reorganizing families.
Jiang Wen's treatment in this reorganized family is similar to that of Liu Xing. The same thing, Jiang Wen is always beaten, on the contrary, Wujiang and Jiang Huan are all right. In these matters, Jiang Mu's handling method also has its own difficulties, because in this family, Jiang Wen is like a drag bottle. It doesn't sound good, but it's true. Fu Jiang is bound to have an opinion against Wujiang. In addition, he was sickly when he was a child, so he chose the word "Wu" in the hope of good health. Only by beating Jiang Wen can this family be at peace.
Jiang Wen also revealed in some programs that his mother once said, "I've got the boss, and the second one will be fine." . This statement is also a common way for many families to educate their children. The eldest brother was beaten more than the second.
Finally, there is another reason that Jiang Wen probably didn't realize.
Among the three brothers, Jiang Wen, the eldest brother, is the most honest and frank. Everything is straight and there are no detours. On the other hand, Wujiang is good at playing dumb in front of his parents. Sometimes even if he is wrong, his parents are embarrassed to beat him and scold him again. From this point of view, personality determines the fate of the two brothers.
In fact, it is biased to say that mom didn't make up with Jiang Wen. Mothers may express their love in different ways.
When Jiang Wengang started filming, he was once short of money, but every time he went home, his mother would give him a stack of money. This shows that the mother is well aware of her son's situation. I'm just not good at expressing.
Later, Jiang Wen saw a friend give his mother a suite, and her mother was very happy. In order to please her mother, Jiang Wen gave her a suite according to the gourd painting gourd ladle. Her mother was ungrateful and scolded Jiang Wen. For the mother, it may be difficult to see Jiang Wen make money, and it costs a lot of money to buy a house, so she can't bear to see her son please her and spend money indiscriminately. For Yu, buying a house is to make my mother happy. In fact, both are true, but there are problems in expression and communication.
In Jiang Wen's mind, it seems that her mother has never praised herself, which is her disapproval. But over the years, Jiang Mu has never opposed Jiang Wen's career, which shows that Jiang Mu recognizes this son, but she is just not good at expressing her feelings. Moreover, among the three sons, there is always one son who is wronged, and it is difficult for parents to even have a bowl of water.
Many of us may have met the relationship between Jiang Wen and his mother. Only now that Jiang Mu is gone, Jiang Wen is left with endless melancholy and unsolved problems.
"Once it was midnight 12, and my mother woke me up just to hit me and asked me,' Do you know what you did wrong?' To be honest, I don't even know what I did wrong, but my mother must have dialed the wrong number when she hit me. "
Jiang Wen, who is like a duck to water in the film industry, has always had an insurmountable gap with her mother. He once said gloomily: since childhood, everyone has been trying to please his mother, but never succeeded.
It's hard to imagine what kind of mother-child relationship and get along with each other. I still remember that when Jiang Wen was a guest in Thirteen Invitations, he talked about his relationship with his mother, which once caused a heated discussion.
Jiang Wen said in the program that he was an unconfident person, but he did very well in acting and directing. What happened to him? It's all because of his mother.
In the program, Xu Zhiyuan asked him, what is your biggest failure over the years?
Jiang Wen replied that there are too many things, such as the relationship between himself and his mother. Even if he has made a lot of efforts, he can't get along well for so many years.
I don't know how to make her happy to see what I have done. She always looks unhappy. In fact, Jiang Wen is not only thinking about how to make her mother happy recently, but also thinking about how to please her since she was a child.
"This movie is like a duck to water. When you don't make movies, you will return to reality and face the same dilemma as when you were a teenager. "
Growing up, Jiang Wen's mother was very strict with him, and it was common to beat him, just as Jiang Wen recalled at first. Sometimes, he doesn't even know what he did wrong, and he will suddenly be woken up by his mother in the middle of the night and beaten.
This had a great psychological impact on Jiang Wen. Even after so many years, every time I think of these things, Jiang Wen can't hide his loss and heavy expression. Nevertheless, he expressed great understanding for his mother. "When I was a child, my mother was very strict with me. Because I am the eldest son, she thinks I can manage it, and the rest will be easy. "
Jiang Wen was so happy when he was admitted to Chinese opera, but when he rushed home with the admission notice and gave it to his mother, he didn't see her happy expression and praise words.
On the contrary, his mother didn't react at first after reading it. Then his mother slammed it aside and urged him to say, you still have a basin of clothes to wash, so go and wash them!
Jiang Wen was admitted to Chinese opera, and she didn't seem happy at all. For her, washing clothes seems to be more important than her son's future.
At that time, Jiang Wen was so disappointed and sad that he even had deep doubts about himself: Is it meaningful to work so hard to get into Chinese opera?
Later, Jiang Wen got ahead and gradually got mixed up. He thought the house where his mother lived was very old, so he bought her a house. But her mother still has a bad face and doesn't even want to live.
Jiang Wen said he was confused: "I don't know how to make her happy."
His mother is as cold as ever to him. In spite of this, Jiang Wen's heart still didn't hate her. More is a desire, a desire for mother's love, a desire for mother's approval, and a desire for reconciliation with mother.
However, the death of his mother made him realize sadly that he had lost the opportunity to reconcile with his mother forever.
Jiang Wen once said in an interview with He Jiong that 10 For many years, he always watched a movie-Angry Bull. He felt that he was not an American movie or a movie about boxers, but talking about his home.
"I also like Robert De Niro, because in that movie, he reminds me of my mother. His attitude reminds me of my mother. "
The boxer played by Robert De Niro in this film is self-abased, suspicious and full of aggression. He will slap his wife and rush to his brother's house to fight. It is full of pain, but it creates more pain.
Yes, Jiang Wen's mother is an independent woman, but she is too independent. She always knows what kind of person Jiang Wen needs to be, but seldom cares about Jiang Wen's feelings.
Her attitude towards Jiang Wen was not because she hated the son, but because she never showed any intimacy.
Jiang Wen later filmed the prototype of Gaowa Siqin in Sunny Days, that is, mother, who always beats children and has some bad tastes. Although it seems a bit exaggerated, there is a shadow of my mother.
In fact, no mother doesn't love her children, but can you let him know your love?
The source of this problem is that "Thirteen Invitations to Xu Zhiyuan" interviewed the famous filmmaker Jiang Wen, which was gradually known by people.
The special growth experience has shaped his unique personality, and his honest and frank domineering and sensitive shyness are all in one. Scenes and details, reality and ideals, prosperity and texture are intricately presented in his films. He looks very free and easy and cheerful, and the world is cold, but he is a little nostalgic in his emotional fragility. Now he seems to have nothing to worry about, just talking about his mother, still looking confused, and bluntly saying that he can't get along with his mother all his life.
Jiang Wen's mother died on 20 18. Two months before her death, she gave Jiang Wen a bursting envelope containing money. Jiang Wen said that since childhood, the relationship between mother and child has been rather stiff, and he was always blamed.
Jiang Wen once portrayed a rough mother in the autobiographical film Sunny Days. It is said that his mother was depressed for a long time after watching the movie. Jiang Wen remembers that when he finally showed his mother the admission notice for Chinese opera, he told her: Mom, I was admitted to Chinese opera. Mom just looked at it and said, your dirty clothes haven't been washed yet. Go and wash up. After Jiang Wen became famous, she bought a new house for her mother, but the old lady didn't want to live in it, so she lived in an apartment. Until the old lady died, what puzzled Jiang Wen was that no matter what he did, he could not get his mother's approval and happiness. He felt depressed and helpless.
The word "reconciliation" is not appropriate for Jiang Wen and her mother, because like other mothers and children, Jiang Wen has always loved her mother deeply, and her mother loves Jiang Wen very much. The two are not contradictory!
Jiang Wen said in the interview program, "My relationship with my mother has never been good, but I always want to get along." . It may be such a sentence that the audience misunderstood the relationship between him and his mother, so that they thought that their relationship needed to be eased.
However, Jiang Wen did have a problem with her mother, that is, she tried to please her mother since she was a child, but she never succeeded. Jiang Wen said in an interview, "I don't know how to make her happy to see what I did. She always looks unhappy. " . When I was a child, my mother was very strict with Jiang Wen, even to the point of harshness, so that even if Jiang Wen worked hard, it was hard to make her happy.
Even though Jiang Wen was admitted to the Chinese opera and gave the admission notice to her mother, her mother said coldly, "Your clothes haven't been washed yet, so I won't tell you this." When Jiang Wen grew up, she became an actress and a famous director. She bought a big house for her mother, but she still can't feel her happiness. Now that her mother has passed away, Jiang Wen has no chance to do "one thing that makes her happy".
In fact, this kind of situation can be seen everywhere in domestic families, and it is normal for Jiang Wen. On the one hand, Jiang Wen is the elder brother of the family, and this is Wujiang. Parents are often strict with their older brother and tend to spoil their younger brother. There is an old saying that "the eldest son and grandson are the lifeblood of the elderly", which is also the same phenomenon. Coincidentally, Jiang Wen was naughty since childhood, but Wujiang was "clever", which made his mother more strict with him.
On the other hand, China people have different educational concepts. Many parents have an idea, "As long as their children can succeed, it doesn't matter even if they misunderstand their parents", "It is natural for children to be filial when they grow up, and there is nothing to be excited about". I think Jiang Wen's mother is also such a parent. She only wanted Jiang Wen to succeed, but ignored Jiang Wen's own feelings.
Actually Jiang Wen don't have to care too much about these things. As a son, Jiang Wen is filial enough and excellent enough. My mother must be happy in her heart, but not in her face. Moreover, for the mother, the happiest thing is of course that the child is healthy, happy and promising. As long as Jiang Wen does this now, the mothers in the sky will be happy!