First, children who grow up under happy education will achieve nothing in the end. Colleague Xiaomei's concept of parenting is very advanced. She hates cramming education, who is putting a lot of pressure on her children at present. Xiaomei believes that such education suppresses children's nature and makes them have no happy childhood. Xiaomei has been raising children with happy education since she had a son. Xiaomei's aim is to cultivate children's interest, let them study happily and reduce the burden of exam-oriented education.
We can see that Xiaomei's son is very happy every day, so Xiaomei's son will soon be promoted to junior high school. At first, we all thought that Xiaomei didn't care about her son going to junior high school, but when her son's exam results came out, Xiaomei found that none of the better middle schools had accepted his son, and his son could only choose private colleges with more expensive tuition fees and invest the money. This suddenly made Xiaomei panic. After chatting with the teacher, Xiaomei realized that it was because Xiaomei didn't pay attention to her son's study and his son didn't study hard at school. His son didn't care when other students were preparing for the junior high school exam. That's why this is happening.
Second, although happy education makes children grow up happily, it is also not conducive to their development.
Nowadays, many children are under great pressure to study, so we can often hear voices calling for decompression for children on the Internet. The appearance of this kind of voice has promoted the development of happy education, but when parents really implement happy education, they will find that although their children have reduced their learning pressure, their studies have not developed, but they will regress. The purpose of children going to school is to get into a good university. Obviously, happy education will only slow down children's learning.
2. Let children lose self-motivation.
Happy education for children, although it can reduce the learning burden and let children develop other talents, will make some children lose their self-motivation over time. Every child is lazy, and happy education will indirectly encourage children's bad habit of laziness. Many children are lazy when they grow up. If strict education is replaced by happy education, it will inevitably have a bad influence on their growth.
3. Make it harder for children to succeed.
In life, we will find that the more elite families have stricter requirements for their children. If they want their children to succeed in the end, they must strive for it through their own efforts. Happy education, although its purpose is to relieve children's stress, greatly reduces their self-motivation, makes them not want to work hard and will not bring success to their future.
Third, although cramming education is rigid, it also has many advantages. 1. It promotes the development of children's learning.
With the increasing academic burden of children, cramming education has been pushed to the forefront by people. Many people are criticizing cramming education, thinking that cramming education inhibits the development of children's nature, which is not conducive to children becoming excellent talents. But in fact, we should understand that children must study and practice day after day if they want to get academic development, and they can't do anything without it.
2. Help children to restrain their own behavior.
Every child is lazy. If happy education is used to recognize children's free growth, it will definitely make children more and more lazy. No one will restrain his behavior, and children will only grow like weeds in the field. Cramming education seems to bring great pressure to children, but it is precisely because of these pressures that children's behavior has been better restrained and he has motivation.
3. Let the children realize the counterattack in life.
Although many parents really want to reduce their children's burden, we should know that children study for the final college entrance examination, which can change a person's fate for families of different classes. For elite families, they have the capital to educate their children happily, but for ordinary families, if they want their children to live better in the future, they must change their lives through the college entrance examination.
Fourth, reduce the burden on children 1, pay attention to their psychological development, and talk to them more.
Children are not only bitter but also confused when faced with the burden of schoolwork. Many children study hard under the arrangement of their parents and teachers, but they don't understand the purpose of doing so. We just told him verbally that he could have a bright future by studying hard, but they were still at a loss. Therefore, when children are faced with the academic burden, they are more likely to have psychological problems. At this time, parents need to talk to their children more and help them relieve their depression.
2. Don't ask children to do their best, just ask them not to regret it.
Many parents force their children to study just to get the first place. Every child has different abilities. As parents, we should not always force our children to be the first in the exam. In the process of children's learning, it is enough as long as they do their best. Parents should support their children behind their backs and should not force them, so that children will not regret being students.
3. Don't give children external pressure and stimulate their internal motivation.
Some parents always put too much pressure on their children when educating them, and even pin their parents' joys and sorrows on their children's academic performance, which is an unavoidable problem for children. Many parents think that this will make their children work harder, but in fact such pressure will only make their children collapse. What parents should do is to stimulate their children's internal motivation and make them want to work hard, rather than force them to work hard.
Summary:
It is not easy to educate children to become talents, especially ordinary families, which can't give them rich learning resources and can only make them study hard. At this time, as parents, the first thing to do is to pay attention to the development of children's mental health. Don't force children, then let them study hard and realize the counterattack of life.