Do parents know to use A Xin in the wrong way of education? Educating children is the first thing our parents do, because only by educating children well can we give them a healthy foundation, but some parents use the wrong method. Below I will share with you the wrong educational methods.

Wrong way of education 1 1. nagging

Many children say that they are bored when their parents nag. Parents may wish to consider it. Does it bother you if the other spouse is always nagging? Nagging about education is one of the stupid ways of tutoring.

Second, the reduction formula.

Some parents always scold their children: Why don't you study hard? How are you? Always criticizing there. Criticism is more vicious than nagging because it often has the nature of condemnation. Dictation counseling often destroys children's learning state and suppresses their enthusiasm for learning.

Third, the reprimand type

Scolding and beating may make children rebel. In this way, children will not only listen to their parents, but also stimulate their rebellious psychology and turn them against their parents.

Fourth, the standard type

Some parents make rules for their children in all aspects, so that they can reach certain standards or learn from someone. This is called reaching the standard. Reaching the standard is also a way of tutoring that hurts children's enthusiasm. First, set a standard for children, making them particularly nervous and worried that they will not meet the standard. Children are often more worried about not reaching the standard, because psychological pressure makes it difficult for him to play freely and play to his due level.

Five, fatigue type

Parents are as busy as a "top" in order to keep their children from losing at the starting line and let them learn all kinds of knowledge and talents. This is fatigue education. Children's energy is limited. Overloaded study will bring harm to children's physical and mental health, and in the end it can only be haste makes waste.

Six, it's arranged

For children's study and life, parents worry about him in every detail and ask questions endlessly, which makes children's abilities in all aspects more and more degraded. This is also the wrong way.

Seven, urging type

"Hurry up, it's time for you to learn English" and "You should practice the piano quickly" ... If the child is tired of this urging, he may feel impatient and even have rebellious psychology, thinking: I originally wanted to learn, but I don't want to learn as soon as you urge him.

Eight, melancholy style

Parents' expressions and behaviors have a great influence on their children. When children come home, if they are faced with a face that criticizes themselves, a nagging face, a scolding face, a sad face, a long face and a urging face, they will fundamentally lose the fun of studying at home.

The wrong way of education 2 the way of good parents' education

1, know what children need.

Every parent wants their children to be good, but few people know how their children can be "good". If "good" means success and happiness, what qualities do children need to have to win their own success and happiness?

Many parents set the educational goal as "going to college". In fact, you don't have to go to college to have a chance, and you don't have to go to college to have a chance. Only paying attention to the pursuit of academic qualifications is actually turning a blind eye and not seeing Mount Tai!

2. Know what your words and deeds mean to your children.

Children feel too much about us, without deliberate observation, imitating too many attitudes, without deliberate imitation. It doesn't matter what we want, what children see from our behavior and what they learn are important! In front of children, we should not live and do things without thinking. We must be careful and consider what this means to children.

3. Do you know how to do it

Knowing what to do is called having a direction; Knowing how to do it is called having the ability; Without direction, effort and speed are meaningless; Only direction, no method, direction itself is meaningless.

Parents are not easy to be, but they must be good. There is a solution to everything. We should not give up because of difficulties. We must explore how to solve it. Please refer to the section "What to do when there is no other choice".

To know how to be a man is to be a parent.

Since education is to make children live better in the future, then life is the direction of education. What we need in life is what our children need in the future; What tests us now will test our children in the future. All the troubles, challenges and opportunities we face will be faced by our children in the future. Although the climate of the times is constantly changing, the basic problems such as getting along with people, digesting pressure, resisting inertia and weakness, restraining desire, self-improvement, opening up the situation and grasping opportunities are eternal. We handle our own affairs well and do ourselves well, which not only provides children with experience worth learning, but also conveys a positive attitude to them. Therefore, when we are human beings, we are also parents, and the process of our life is always to educate our children.

5. Have a "sense of growth"

From the moment the child was born, our life began to change because of the child. Some people become unexpectedly good, while others become unexpectedly bad. Children lead the whole family to grow up together. The direction of children's growth is to grow up, and the direction of adults' growth is to parents. We expect our children to grow up healthily, and we should also have a sense of "growth". Parents are "learning" and doing it. It is impossible to learn at first, and it is impossible to learn quickly. Parents' skills should be gradually cultivated. With this sense of growth, there will be no loss and self-pity.

6. Know the necessity of self-doubt.

The actual situation of children in our eyes is often very different from that of children. Our understanding of children is not always reliable because of our own experiences and ways of understanding.

Knowing self-doubt, preventing opinionated opinions, holding the attitude that there is no right to speak without investigation, always being cautious and perceiving children in a more diversified way will open up a brand-new parent-child relationship and educational realm.

7. Education is helping, not shaping.

Education is to help a child become what he could have been. Smart parents know how to observe and discover their children's nature with their children. If the child is more scheming and ambitious, then the child may become an outstanding talent in a certain field, but it is also easy to bear pressure and suffer setbacks because of too much concern; Then, while helping him achieve his goal, he should pay attention to persuading his children not to be dragged down by his own ambitions. Life can't be perfect. Learn to choose and let go. If the child is an optimist and doesn't care about anything, then such a child will be happy easily, without worrying about falling into a dead end. Instead, he will be enterprising, unlearned and live in a lower social level in the future. At this time, it is necessary to help children establish a certain degree of enterprise.

8. Understand the boundaries of education.

Everyone has their own limitations, so everyone's education for children must also have their own limitations. Therefore, we should give children room to absorb new ideas.

The significance of family education is very crucial and far-reaching, but family education is not the whole of a child's growth path. In addition, it is also influenced by peers and schools. A child's real maturity needs to be explored in an independent life after leaving home.