The wrong way to educate children is provocative.
? Grandparents don't love you, so don't go to their house in the future. Only mom loves you the most! ? Your father is always on a business trip and doesn't even play with you. ?
Some parents like to introduce the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the contradiction between husband and wife to their children and speak ill of each other's family members. This will distort children's values. Children have an instinctive love and respect for both parents, which is also the basis for them to accept their parents' teaching. Parents should educate their children with a peaceful attitude and try their best to protect each other in front of their children.
Dependent type.
? Son, you are mom's support, and mom has been counting on you all her life. ?
Emotional overdependence on children, mostly because mothers are attached to their sons. Healthy attachment is the cornerstone of children's mental health. But if the mother is too attached to her son, the husband will become an outsider, which will make the children? Replace? The role of father has an influence on future marriage and friendship. Only by finding the right role can the family relationship be normal.
Unfortunately.
? Dad is incompetent and earns less money, so he can't buy you imported toys. ?
Some parents will show inferiority in front of their children to alleviate their guilt. So it's easy to put inferiority? Infection? Give it to the children and let them have it. Dad is incapable, so what can I do! ? Parents should make a big tree to shelter their children from the wind and rain. When the children found the big tree. Leaking rain? How can we be firm and confident? Parents must first stand up and believe that they can give their children the most suitable life.
Complain.
? If you don't listen to me when I wake you up in the morning, how can I be late for work! ? If I hadn't given birth to you, how could I be sick! ?
Parents' complaints are like a dose of poison, which will slowly erode children's body and mind and directly affect the way children look at problems. The most direct impact is that children also become complaining and shirk their responsibilities when things happen. Parents should first be themselves and learn to think from their children's standpoint.
Spoil.
? Say what you want, and dad will buy you anything. ? Baby, mom listens to you.
Children who are overindulged are thoughtless and selfish. Parents meet his unreasonable demands, and slowly the child will have it in his heart? I'm the boss? Thought, don't know how to compromise and tolerance, more can't stand injustice, arrogant personality, perverse and bossy behavior. Spoiling is harmful and useless. Such parents should reflect on their behavior as soon as possible.
Indifference
? Mom is tired and has no time to help you check your homework. ? I'm busy, play by yourself and leave me alone! ?
Four-year-old MengMeng ran out of the classroom as soon as school was over and couldn't wait to show her mother her handmade works. Mom took a look and said casually:? Yeah, it's good. Let's leave now. ? MengMeng said unhappily. Mom didn't even look! ? Mom's voice is also high: what are you reading? If you don't leave, you will block the road. My mother is still anxious to go home and cook! ? Some parents are indifferent, and raising children is like completing a task. Therefore, in addition to nursing and heating their children, parents must let their children feel your love.
Top view type
? You should take the top three as your eternal goal and be admitted to Tsinghua Peking University in the future.
Some parents set various grand blueprints for their children, pin their dreams on them and constantly put pressure on them. When children constantly cater to their parents' expectations, it is easy to lose themselves. Even if they're real? Excellent? But the heart may be full of holes. Children have their own growth trajectory and their own specialties. Let them develop freely and parents can grasp the moral direction.
The correct way to educate children 0 1 respect children? Sophistication? -Feedback effect
Whenever parents point out their children's mistakes, children always find many reasons to prove their innocence. At this time, parents usually angrily scold their children for this behavior? Sophistication? In fact, this is not sophistry, but a kind of feedback from children to their parents' education.
Education is a two-way street. Parents should not only teach, but also accept children's feedback, so that education can achieve the most perfect effect. However, many parents are not aware of this. They only care about themselves? Teaching? I don't care about children's feedback at all. Such education often fails to achieve the purpose that parents want.
Analyze and respect children's feedback.
When children give feedback on our education, we must first analyze this feedback. Of course, this analysis is not only aimed at children's language, but also includes children's movements and expressions.
But whether it is children's feedback or not, it deserves parents' attention. Sophistication? Be sure to respect your child's feedback.
It is conceivable that parents misunderstand and suppress their children's feedback. In the long run, children will never give positive feedback to their mothers' education. Without children's cooperation, parents can't educate their children.
03 For children's feedback, we should teach them purposefully.
When analyzing the problems of children's feedback, parents can carry out purposeful education on children's feedback. For example, if the child's feedback is that he doesn't know the importance of politeness, parents can tell the importance of politeness through examples and reasons, and guide the child to be a good boy who is polite; If the child's feedback is that he doesn't want to know the responsibility caused by his recent wrong words and deeds, parents should isolate the child and make him a person who knows his mistakes, corrects them and dares to do things?
In short, no matter what feedback children have on their parents' education, respecting and analyzing children's feedback is the primary prerequisite for achieving educational goals.
04 Family Education Can't Be Inconsistent-Watch Theorem