Investigation report on the concept of marriage and love 1 This report is divided into two parts: qualitative research and quantitative research. More than 20 forums for singles have been held in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, Shenzhen, Xi, Suzhou, Xiamen, Shenyang and other cities to conduct qualitative research. Typical representatives of single men and women from all over the country were invited to learn more about their lifestyle, attitude and experience in choosing a spouse. At the same time, the first intelligent matching system for marriage and love in China was jointly developed by Jiayuan and psychologists of Chinese Academy of Sciences? Understand your intelligent matching system for marriage and love and make quantitative analysis. Up to 20 14 12 3 1, a total of 16052 14 people participated in the test. After strict examination, a total of 128982 samples were finally selected for analysis.
After 90? Pseudo-unrestrained? After 70? Pseudoconservative?
? Nonmainstream? 、? Willful? 、? The beat generation? 、? Bold and unrestrained, these are all posted? After 90? The label on your body, talking about love after 90, many people may blurt it out? Precocious? 、? Irresponsible? However, according to Jiayuan's survey, compared with the post-70s and post-80s, the post-90s love concept is the most conservative, and the post-90s unrestrained belongs to? Pseudo-unrestrained? .
In the group that can accept flash marriage, the largest proportion is not? Willful? 、? Bold and unrestrained? Known as the post-90 s, but mainly in the post-70 s and pre-70 s age groups, do single men and women after 70 accept it? Flash marriage? The proportion of men and women is the largest, reaching 63% and 55% respectively, followed by 58% and 47% before 70, and the third is after 80. After 90, the proportion of people who agree to flash marriage is the smallest, and only 29% of single men and 18% of single women can accept it? Flash marriage? .
Not only treat? Flash marriage? The post-90s generation is also the most conservative group, with cautious questions and the same attitude towards sex. Jiayuan's survey of single men and women's sexual views shows that the older men are, the more open they are to sex, and the more they want their spouses to have sex? Experienced? Among them, after 90? Want your spouse to be good at sexual openness? The proportion of questions and answers is the smallest, especially single men only account for 17%. There are great differences between men and women in their views on premarital sex. The proportion of men in favor of premarital sex is generally higher than that of women, and nearly 80% of men agree with premarital sex. In terms of age groups, the older men and women are, the more open they are, and the more they recognize premarital sex. Among them, the proportion of premarital sex after 90 is the smallest. Compared with nearly 50% of single women after 70, only 28% of single women after 90 approve of premarital sex, and the proportion of men after 90 is much lower than that after 70 and 80.
Seemingly? Willful? 、? Rebellion? After 90, treat? Flash marriage? And sex is the most cautious. Zhang Jiarui, an emotional expert in jiayuan, said that the post-90s love concept is the most conservative, not so much the post-90s. Bold and unrestrained? 、? Willful? It is better to say that it is mature after 90. The post-90s generation is a tagged group, and most of the comments on the Internet are superficial and cannot represent the true spirit of the post-90s generation? Jeffrey Chang said,? The waywardness of the post-90 s lies in daring to love and hate. Compared with post-70s and post-80s, post-90s are indeed more open, but they also have their own bottom line and principles, which can be proved by their views on flash marriage and premarital sex. The post-90s generation has a more conservative view of love, because their love is purer and more casual? .
? House? Being single is the culprit. The lower your income, the more you love it. House?
? Otaku? 、? House girl? It is a popular online vocabulary in recent years. What is this? House? The latest explanation on the Internet is that except for work, people basically stay at home, their life circle is very narrow, and they rarely communicate with people face to face. Generally speaking, people who eat, drink and play Lazar at home. Online otaku and otaku are mostly single men and women, but the survey report of jiayuan shows that? House? It is the main reason why most single men and women are left out.
The report shows that about 50% of singles are? Stay at home on weekends? Generally speaking, women love more than men? House? Single women like weekends? House? The proportion at home is as high as 5 1%, and the proportion of men is 45%. Not only do women love it more than men? House? The report also found that the older you get, the less sociable you are, the lower your education, the lower your income and the more you love? House? Among them, single men and women earning less than 2000 yuan? Stay at home on your day off? The proportion is as high as 53% and 64% respectively, and the income is 20,000? Fifty thousand people? Stay at home? The proportion of men is only 36% and that of women is 44%. According to education, the lower the education, the more love there is. House? What do you like among single men and women with technical secondary school education? House? 5 1% and 60%, while only 42% and 48% have a master's degree or above, which shows that education and income are related to? House? With what? Not staying at home? This also has a lot to do with it.
The lower the income, the lower the education, and the more love? House? Mainly due to economic reasons, socializing requires a certain fee, and the lower the income, the less social expenses will be borne, which will also lead to people with low income and low education? House? At home.
Xiao Li from Beijing is 29 years old and has no girlfriend. She was called by a colleague? Technical house? Xiao Li is engaged in software development. He usually writes code on the computer when he goes to work every day. After work, he has no hobbies and few friends. He can only stay at home and surf the Internet. Last year, during the week-long National Day holiday, I never stepped out of the house except for going out for dinner with my family. I am envious of seeing photos of my colleagues showing their travels in a circle of friends, but I seem to be used to this kind of life, and I won't change it for a while? Talk about yourself? House? Life, Xiao Li said.
In this regard, Jeffrey Chang said, like the house? It is not a patent for technical men, but most single men and women have this feature: dead house? On weekends or holidays, I stay at home alone and surf the Internet. I don't want to go out for any activities. I even ordered takeout for dinner and didn't take the initiative to make friends. Stay at home because you're single? This is an excuse for many otaku otaku girls. House? Is the main reason for being single? In order to get rid of the bills, otaku and otaku should first go out to bask in the sun, take more outdoor activities and make more new friends, so as to meet the right people. This is the first step to get rid of the bill? Jeffrey Chang said.
Men don't love strong women. A new portrait of the goddess of goddess is released.
People will inevitably shout when they see their favorite object? Male (female) god? , but? God? What is the image? Is it a cute girl with long hair and charming smile, or is it a graceful and gentle long-legged Ouba? In the emotional world, even if you are out of line, you can't be self-styled, can you? Male god? Goddess? , jiayuan's survey data is? Male god? 、? Goddess? Painted a new portrait, subverting tradition? The image of male (female) gods.
According to the survey report, 52% of men like straightforward opposite sex, 32% of men like quiet girls, 65% of men hope their spouses can cook, and 64% of men expect women to get along well. Active? Meanwhile, nearly 50% of men want a spouse? A little personality? Lovely girl, 49% of men want to find it? Can you come out of the kitchen under the hall? Perfect wife, 28% of men want to find a gentle, virtuous and family-oriented wife. The higher their income, the more they want to find a family-oriented wife. For the type of strong woman who is capable and enterprising, most men say? Don't like it? . Data analysis shows that most men like cute women who are straightforward, quiet and have a little personality, but they don't pay as much attention to their looks and figure as they thought. In marriage, high face value does not represent a goddess, and the most important thing is good character.
The portrait of the male god is also different from the previous image. This time? A man that girls like? Among the options, men who are straightforward, athletic and can cook are named? Male god? Among them, 80% women like men with straightforward personality, 70% women hope that the other half can cook, 80% women hope to find a perfect man who values career and family, can get a high salary when going out and change diapers when going home, and 7% women hope to find a good man at home, but those handsome long-legged Oba are not so popular in real marriage. ? When you get married, you still pay more attention to each other's personality. After all, their height and appearance are just external things. You may have a crush on handsome guys when you are young, but when you get married, you still need to find someone who can live a down-to-earth life. Miss Xu from Jiangsu said.
Jeffrey Chang said that marriage is far from two people's business, but the combination of two families. Marriage is not like love, it needs to face the plain life of daily necessities. Appearance does not play a decisive role in marriage. Men and women don't look for vases as partners, and the same woman doesn't need vases as husbands. In marriage, no matter what she looks like, as long as she meets her own conditions, she is a goddess? .
The divorce rate is increasing year by year. Isn't it good after 80 years? Mend the marriage?
According to the statistics of China Civil Affairs Bureau in 20 13, 20134,700 couples got married and 3.5 million divorced, with a crude divorce rate of 2.59? The crude marriage rate is 9.9? The number of divorces is increasing year by year, and the growth momentum exceeds the growth of the number of marriages. It is estimated that the number of marriages of 20 13170,000 couples and the number of divorces of 20 14 will be lower than that of 2013, but the number of divorces will increase linearly, with the post-80s generation being the worst. Mend the marriage? .
From 20 13 to 20 14, for life? People's wishes and expectations for longevity are pinned on buzzwords, but the number of divorces is increasing year by year. According to the survey report of jiayuan, the post-80s generation has become the main force among divorced people. Now, the post-80s are gradually entering their thirties and heading for the marriage hall, but their attitude towards marriage is different from that of the older generation. They are self-reliant and have distinct personalities. They are unique in dealing with work pressure and daily housework. Because of this, some? After 80? The reasons for divorce are also shocking: the woman can't do housework; The man is excessively addicted to online games; ? Flash marriage? And find out you don't know each other well enough? Jeffrey Chang, an emotional expert in jiayuan, analyzed that with the acceleration of urbanization and the improvement of economic development level, people have higher and higher requirements for the quality of marriage. Emotional breakdown, personality disharmony and the involvement of a third party have become the three major reasons for divorce.
? Nowadays, young people do not solve problems in marriage, but escape. It's completely different from our generation. Marriage problems should be repaired, not thrown away. ? Mr. Liu, who just celebrated his 30th wedding anniversary with his wife, said that young people nowadays should take marriage more seriously? .
As for the decline of marriage rate, Jeffrey Chang said that this is mainly related to the change of people's views on marriage and love. Due to the progress of society, people's comprehensive quality has improved and their minds have become more open. Late marriage? 、? Double income and no children? It is increasing gradually, especially among young people nowadays. Most of them entered the society in their twenties. Under the pressure of cars and houses, they will choose to marry late and have children late. 20 15 the first batch of post-90s families have gradually entered the family of late marriage and late childbearing. The concept of late marriage and late childbearing will also affect the overall marriage rate to some extent? Jeffrey Chang said.
Liang Xiao from Hubei is a young man born in 1990. Now he is working hard in Beijing alone and still single. When asked about marriage, Liang Xiao appeared very calm. I am 25 years old, and my family will be forced to get married, but I have my own plans. Just graduated for two years, and my job is still unstable. I don't have the ability and capital to get married. I hope to get married around the age of 30, and then I can give each other a happy and stable home? .
Beijing single diaosi male PK high-quality female Xiamen single petty bourgeoisie? Face? Traditional heart?
The survey found that the concept of marriage and love in different regions has distinct characteristics and great regional differences. Among the single people in Beijing, diaosi men and high-quality women are the majority. Xiamen seems to have a strong petty bourgeoisie, but the concept of marriage and love is the most traditional. Under the influence of fast food culture in Shenzhen, women are generally insecure, and men and women in Xi 'an attach the most importance to marriage.
Beijing, a rapidly developing city, the pressure of work and life makes the proportion of leftover men and women increase year by year. In a big city like Beijing, it is a common phenomenon to marry late and have children late. However, according to jiayuan's survey, the quality of single men and women in Beijing is quite different: at present, most single men in Beijing live a monotonous and comfortable life, and although they have time, they have no money. Diaosi? ,? Break, either go outside alone or play computer at home? It is a true portrayal of most single men in Beijing. Relatively speaking, the quality of single women in Beijing is relatively high. Most of them are white-collar workers with high academic qualifications and independent economic ability. They have a wide range of interests and make careful arrangements for their lives. Single men and women are very different.
At present, the biggest expectation of single men in Beijing is to enrich their lives by making friends. After a busy day, I can have dinner with someone when I go home, and I can go out to play and travel when I have time, instead of playing games with my computer all the time? Xiao Lei, a 28-year-old single man from Beijing said. Single women in Beijing are not dissatisfied with their present living conditions, although they have superior conditions. They just have more concerns about their parents, childbirth and spiritual pursuit than men when considering the future. Pursuing a quiet and elegant life, enjoying the enjoyment, and working hard, but now I feel that every step is similar. Miss Liu, who works in a large listed company in Beijing, said that the future is full of worries.
Xiamen, also a developed city on the eastern coast, has an unexpected view of marriage and love. The life of single men and women in Xiamen seems fashionable with petty bourgeoisie, but it is still quite traditional in essence, and the concept of marriage and love is relatively conservative. The analysis of survey data in Xiamen shows that the concept of starting a family before starting a career is very strong. Both men and women said that they usually began to urge and force marriage at home as soon as they left school. Especially in southern Fujian, after graduation, families will basically rush to get married? Therefore, the marriageable age is significantly lower than other cities, and single men and women in Xiamen are also younger. In this regard, Jeffrey Chang said that although the economy in southern Fujian is developed, family values are relatively strong, and traditional wedding customs are well maintained. From engagement to marriage, the man has to give a lot of bride price, and the current situation of high consumption and high housing prices in Xiamen puts great pressure on the man. Therefore, in a city with more women than men, although there are many petty bourgeoisie elegant women around, most single men still have no sense of superiority.
Investigation report on the concept of marriage and love 2 1. What are the reasons why love types and success indexes are all over the university campus? In other words, what is the motivation of college students to fall in love? According to the survey, the love relationships of contemporary college students can be classified into the following five types: like-minded, ideal or career, which are based on common ideals, beliefs and careers. In order to maintain the development of love and not disappoint each other, both sides often demand more from themselves and study and work harder. According to the survey, this type of love accounts for about 17%, but the success rate is very high, and often they can walk out of the campus hand in hand after graduation.
Love is congenial, and it can also be called sensibility. This type of love is mainly based on common interests. Generally, they are single-minded, respectful and caring, and can share weal and woe. They are often seen walking together in pairs on campus to discuss the joys and sorrows of life together. This kind of love is about 19%, and the success rate is relatively high, reaching 86%. Young college students who try to enter the university campus gradually have the desire to approach the opposite sex and pursue love because of their physical maturity. In addition, public opinion, especially the mass media's exaggeration of men and women's affairs, marriage and love, triggered their strong sexual experience and drove them to have rights? Heterosexual intercourse? The mystery, coupled with the free and relaxed objective conditions of the university, makes them have the need and behavior to understand and try love. Experimental college students, due to the lack of a correct view of love, are easily rejected by the other party and appear? Unrequited love? Or pessimistic, affecting school. Even if they occasionally attract each other's attention, they often end in failure, because they lack emotional communication, common hobbies and common life goals. This kind of love accounts for more than 37%, but in the end there are not many people together, often only about 20% ~ 30%.
Compensatory, some college students feel empty, lonely and depressed because of the boring study in college and the lack of cultural activities in classes and schools, so they seek love to make up for it. This kind of college students, because they are inseparable, are unwilling to participate in group activities and are easily discussed and dissatisfied by their classmates. Because the basis of his love is only the compensation of spiritual emptiness, the relationship is easy to break up after graduation. This proportion is very small, only about 15%, and the success rate is also very low.
Vanity type, some college students, especially male college students, think that falling in love, having friends, or being pursued by the opposite sex are all capable, and vice versa. Under this psychological pressure, some people are eager to find the so-called vanity? Confidante? . Love with strong vanity, because it only pursues temporary emotional satisfaction and happiness, lacks a clear love foundation and goal, and is easy to collapse and go astray. This type of college students are even more reluctant to make progress in their studies, with poor self-control and poor academic performance. It can be said that this kind of psychological love has the lowest success rate, because they are only for a certain purpose, so it is difficult to succeed!
To sum up, these five kinds of love account for more than 95% of college students' love, but their success rate is often less than 35%, which shows that the failure of college students' love is as easy to burst as a bubble!
Second, the confusion of college students? Adult topic
Let's look at the following two pieces of information:
Related information 1:? Sexual contact during college? Status Kissing: 39.5% of boys and 45.5% of girls caress: 25.6% of boys and 28.9% of girls have sex: 10.9% of boys and 8.4% of girls are taken from the national survey of heterosexual communication among college students presided over by the famous sexologist Professor Pan Suiming.
Related information 2: The survey results of adolescent sexual health in China are worrying. China Social Workers Association, Economic and Family Science Center and other units have learned from the survey of middle school students in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou that teenagers now far exceed their parents? Avantgarde? . Among them, do you agree? Love is single-minded, and you can only have one true love object in your life? Only 28.8% of the respondents think that modern marriage should be? Grow old together, forever? Only 20% people are in favor of dating someone who already has a lover, and more than 30% people are in favor of dating someone who already has a lover. In this respect, girls seem to be more open than boys. More than 45% people have a positive attitude towards premarital sex, among which 34% people think? This can consolidate love? . Another survey from Beijing can better confirm the young people's? Bold? Among the 3034 young people who received premarital check-ups, 46% of the young men and 45% of the young women admitted to having premarital sex, which worried China STD/AIDS prevention and control experts.
Many surveys show that the sexual maturity of teenagers in China tends to be earlier than the 1950s and 1960s. The forward tilt of sexual maturity brings about the early appearance of sexual psychology. Cognitive psychology believes that the information about sex has greatly increased, and people's sexual concepts have also changed greatly. All these frequently stimulate teenagers' brains and gonads, promote the germination of sexual physiology early, and inevitably promote the development of sexual psychology. However, the development of social productive forces and the increasing complexity of social life have delayed the maturity of teenagers' social psychology. Under the condition of immature social psychology, they lack scientific understanding of physical development, and their sexual psychology germinates because of physical development, which is easy to fall into blindness.
Therefore, teenagers, especially college students, have contradictory psychology about sex. On the one hand, physical maturity makes them get involved in sex prematurely; On the other hand, psychological immaturity makes them confused about sex. Faced with this situation, many colleges and universities have taken some measures to educate college students about sex. But it has little effect, because the school has taken a cautious approach and dare not overemphasize sex education.
Therefore, many teenagers, especially boys and girls in love, are prone to confusion, and there will be two bad tendencies: First, driven by sexual instinct and psychology, out of ignorance and curiosity, they have sexual experiences and sexual attempts prematurely. At the beginning of adolescent sexual intercourse, two situations can occur. First, influenced by the feudal concept of chastity, they thought they were unfaithful and unclean, and since then they have been burdened with heavy regrets, unable to lift their heads or can be broken. Second, sexual desire starts prematurely, which leads to a violent increase in sexual desire and sexual excitement and falls into a state of pursuing sexual pleasure. This is the way for some teenagers to go from sexual experience to sexual crime. Sexual crimes can easily form dynamic stereotypes and become stubborn sexual habits, which are difficult to change.
The maturity of human sexual psychology depends on the maturity of sexual physiology, and the maturity of sexual physiology does not mean the maturity of sexual psychology. The sign of sexual psychological maturity is that the occurrence of sexual behavior is based on sex, and it is the combination of spirit and body, sex and love. Therefore, the maturity of sexual psychology is closely related to the maturity of social psychology. In our society, human sexual behavior is not only natural, but also social and spiritual. What kind of person you have sex with and how to behave in sexual behavior all reflect a person's sense of society, responsibility and personality characteristics. The maturity of sexual psychology needs a process, which requires constant adjustment and adaptation between the two sexes, especially the constant sublimation of emotions, in order to achieve a perfect state.
The third part of the survey report on the concept of marriage and love, through the survey of 77,045 people in China, shows that women born after 90, 80 and 70 in China? The starting price of love? Most of them exceed 5000 yuan. The situation is slightly different from place to place, Shenzhen and Beijing? The starting price of love? As high as 8437 yuan and 8 149 yuan respectively, both exceeding 8000 yuan. The biggest demand is Shanghai, and the starting price of love has approached 10,000 yuan, reaching 9964 yuan.
This report made many male netizens feel pressure to call? Can't afford to love? .
Love without bread always lacks stamina and will die. What are those people saying? Life is precious, but love is more expensive? Some people are either literary dandies who don't worry about food and clothing, or classmates and teenagers who are parasitic on their parents. In the name of love, they push the responsibility of marriage, regardless of the present, and their passion comes quickly but is fragile. Once met? Survival? Many challenges, it is easy to appear a series of emotional crisis.
So on the face? Love and bread? When women take the lead in thinking that bread should not be condemned and given up? Survival? , chasing? Life? Our actions violate the laws of nature. Make a decision about men? The starting price of love? In a way, it is a woman's performance of being responsible for both sides' lives. If a relationship starts in a hurry and the marriage has to be terminated because of material factors, nothing will be gained except wasting two people's time and energy.
The choice between bread and love is not necessarily so absolute. No money is not a problem now. After marriage, men will naturally add enough horsepower to their families, and the life of the rich generation is just around the corner! So expensive? The starting price of love? It will make people miss many good men.
There is some truth in this statement. Add one? Part? Because there are always some situations that are different from the general law, but if women hold this idea and expect to fall in love with poor boys and enter marriage, they will inevitably find themselves crushed by life.
If you are only seventeen or eighteen years old, there is indeed the possibility of rewriting in the future; But if a man in his twenties takes 3,000 yuan a month and takes you from Shaxian snack A branch to Shaxian snack B branch all day, and a woman still dreams of becoming a queen, it is that her IQ has fallen to infinity.
Maybe someone will refute me and say, "You see how many people are late bloomers and have a long career.". For example, Darwin and Lincoln, but the key question is, even if a person is a late bloomer, how can he spend long decades to become a successful late bloomer?
If you don't have a sharp eye for people, women should hold on to life events such as love and marriage? Would rather miss 3 thousand than trust someone wrongly? Attitude, do a solid job in the investigation. For a moment, people who think that men can give you love and care even if they don't have money always dissipate their passion, only to find that men who can't provide certain material conditions can't give you a sense of security, which is not worth entrusting for a lifetime.
Raising the starting price of love is not to add value to women. Because in the final analysis, marriage is a process of self-depreciation, whether it is a rich family or a family. The starting price of love determines the speed of depreciation.
Marriage with good material conditions can give women good enough equipment and enough oil, so they can better bear the loss of appearance and mentality caused by daily necessities. On the contrary, the lower the starting price of love, the faster the depreciation of women. If the marriage comes to an abrupt end in the middle, then the woman who loses less obviously has more opportunities to meet the second spring of life than the woman who loses more.
At this level, check before choosing a man? The starting price of love? It is not only the best plan for the present life, but also a way out for your future.
A clever woman will not be superstitious about how infatuated a man's love is. It's never just angel lee and Chen Shimei who are treacherous or abandoned from beginning to end. They always remain loyal to a relationship, either because they are not tempted enough or because they are not completely destroyed by life.
Making a comprehensive plan for yourself is not only the premise of fighting a protracted war, but also the secret of staying away from harm.