But this is really a big misunderstanding. In recent years, both psychologists and psychologists, including educators, are strongly calling for attention to children's mental health.
I think mental health is only one aspect, and as parents and teachers, how to make children have a sound personality is the ultimate meaning of educating children, and personality certainly includes mental health.
Of course, as I said in my last article (How to Cultivate Children's Sound Personality II), in the current educational environment of China society, under the great pressure of further education and employment, even if parents realize the importance of personality cultivation, it is very likely that part of their children's sound personality will be sacrificed for their children's further education, so as to satisfy their views on educational success.
Here, let's talk about what personality is. Psychologically, personality, also called personality, is the sum of individual's tendentious, essential and relatively stable psychological characteristics (such as interests, hobbies, abilities, temperament, personality, etc.). ).
The formation of personality is related to congenital inheritance and acquired environment. There is no need to discuss congenital genetic factors here, because it is meaningless. Let's talk about the environmental impact first. Environmental factors mainly refer to the influence of family, school and society on a person's personality formation, such as family's economic and political status, parents' cultural literacy, words and deeds, and the relationship between family members. These factors have a great influence on the formation and development of a person's personality.
And what kind of personality is formed is very important to a person's life.
Cai Yuanpei, president of Peking University, once expounded the importance of "sound personality cultivation". He said that you can't just look at your grades, but your inner personality is actually the key to your life.
Adler, a famous psychologist, also said in Psychology of Children's Education: Cultivating children's sound personality is the primary purpose of educating children.
Because the achievement is dominant, it is only the external achievement of that stage in that field. The intangible, but enough to affect a person's life's character needs more attention.
In recent years, more and more attention has been paid to the psychological problems of teenagers and children.
In an article, there is such a case: Xiao Yang is a Grade 13 junior two student. Because his parents were busy with business, he was raised by his grandmother. Grandma took Xiao Yang as her sweetheart and gave him a lot of pocket money. Xiao Yang, who eats snacks all day, has developed a bad habit of spending money. In primary school, he often got into the habit of petty theft because he didn't have enough money to spend. After entering junior high school, Xiao Yang began to lie frequently, lost his temper easily, refused to accept criticism from his parents and teachers, became more and more self-centered, liked to dominate and accuse his classmates, and lacked sympathy. During a class cleaning, he deliberately spilled water on the cleaned floor and laughed. To this end, the students are far away from him.
What the hell is going on here? The psychologist told Xiao Yang's parents that Xiao Yang's current situation belongs to "conduct disorder", which can easily lead to personality abnormality and crime in adulthood.
We also saw many such cases on the Internet, such as the Ma Jiajue incident, and all kinds of cases in which students committed suicide, killed their parents and injured their classmates, all of which belong to this reason.
Psychologists point out that all adult personality disorders and criminal tendencies stem from childhood, and from the fact that we didn't give our children an environment to cultivate a sound personality in childhood.
China has implemented quality education for several decades, but on the surface, we understand quality education as a combination of classroom learning and extracurricular art and sports learning, but we really don't pay attention to the cultivation of sound personality. Therefore, how can we cultivate children to have a correct outlook on life and values, good emotional management, broad mind and perseverance in solving problems or contradictions. This is the most fundamental purpose of education.