Some time ago, I took my children to a small park nearby. Several children were skipping rope, and my children took part in it when they saw that they were having fun. Before long, I heard a child shouting:
"I didn't lose, just didn't lose! Not this time! "
Then the child began to roll and cheat. Anyway, he just won't accept the fact that he lost, and several children are entangled in it. Parents are worried that skipping rope will hurt their children and quickly pull them away.
The mother of the child quickly took the child home, and the rest of the children kept saying, "I can't afford to lose. Don't play with him in the future."
Although it's no big deal, it makes me realize how important it is to cultivate children's ability to resist setbacks.
On the other hand, Japan, whose education has always been among the best in the world, is obviously too cruel in anti-frustration education.
Their anti-frustration education began in kindergarten, which is a dual education for children's physical and psychological quality.
Japanese education was called "abnormal education" for a time, named after their cold-resistant education.
We can often see that Japan wears shorts and short skirts in winter and summer from cartoons and TV plays, which is actually a very common phenomenon in Japan. Japanese children have been required to wear shorts and short skirts since kindergarten.
Even in the freezing season, just wear a pair of warm pants.
Japanese education believes that this is to cultivate children's strong will and tough physique.
China's education has always been to prevent failure, but I always think that failure cannot be completely avoided, and children always have to avoid it. If you always prevent failure, children will be easily knocked down in the face of failure. Japanese education has done a good job in this respect. They encourage children to try and face failure.
There is a well-known example in Japanese kindergartens. A little boy named Ling had to graduate early for special reasons. At the graduation ceremony, the teacher prepared a vault for Ling that he had never jumped.
At the graduation ceremony, Ling jumped many times without jumping. If it is placed in a domestic kindergarten and fails for the third time, the teacher may let the child give up. However, when Ling was ready to give up, the Japanese teacher continued to encourage him and asked other children to cheer for him.
This time, when Ling jumped into the box again, she jumped up at once, and all the children cheered for Ling.
I want to have such anti-frustration education, so that the little boy can stick to it no matter what difficulties he meets in the future.
If you want to ask what is the core of Japanese education, it must be independence.
It seems that the Japanese are born with a character that they don't want to get into trouble with others. This is because Japanese education has attached importance to cultivating children's independence since childhood. I have never seen a child's schoolbag taken away by his parents in kindergarten. Even two or three-year-old children, no matter how heavy they are, bring them by themselves.
Change shoes, clean up toys, eat, and clean up used bowls. On the other hand, in domestic education, if a two-year-old child is allowed to dress himself, parents may ask, "Why are you so cruel to let such a small child dress himself?"
But Japanese education is so cruel, so Japanese children are very independent from childhood.
In the aspect of anti-frustration education, although we are not as cruel as Japanese education, we can learn from its advantages and cultivate children's anti-frustration ability.
In this way, children can withstand failure and face success calmly in the future.