In the history of Chinese and foreign education, some educational theorists put forward some valuable principles of family education on the basis of summing up their own and others' family education experience. For example, Yan Zhitui, an ancient scholar in China, put forward the principles of family education, such as early education, majesty, kindness, leading by example, and environmental edification. Suhomlinski, a famous educator in the former Soviet Union, put forward family education principles such as all-round development, respect for children and rational love. The principle of family education comes from the practice of family education, and it is constantly enriched and improved with the accumulation of practical experience of family education. According to China's national conditions and the current situation of family education, modern family education should follow the following main principles.

First, the combination of all-round development and training expertise.

This principle is that parents must cultivate their children's all-round development and guide them to develop their specialties.

The talents needed by modern society should be all-round development of morality, intelligence, physique, beauty and labor. Morality, intelligence, physique, beauty and labor are interrelated and mutually restricted. The development of one aspect may drive the development of other aspects; Similarly, the lag of one aspect may also hinder the development of other aspects. Therefore, parents must establish an all-round view of success, care for and promote the all-round development of their children's moral, intellectual, physical, aesthetic and labor qualities, and never value wisdom over morality, study over labor, nutrition over exercise.

Of course, all-round development is by no means equal to average development. Due to the differences in genetic factors and living environment, the level of physical and mental development of each child is different. Parents should not only face up to the differences between their children, but also be good at discovering their characteristics (such as certain interests, hobbies, skills, personality, etc.). ), and guide and encourage children to use this feature to develop into a specialty.

People with all-round development can cope with various social needs freely, so they have more opportunities to obtain social choices; People with special skills can stand out from the competition by virtue of their special skills, thus realizing self-selection and self-development. The principle of developing and cultivating special skills in an all-round way, no matter what the country needs. Or family development, is the directional principle that should be put in the first place to achieve the training goal.

Second, the combination of family standard and social standard.

This principle means that when determining the goal of child-rearing, it should not only meet the actual situation of the family, but also meet the requirements of the state to train qualified citizens and talents for the society.

Man is the sum of social relations, and family is the basic organization of society. The existence and development of individuals and families are closely related to society. Therefore, parents must establish the concept of "being a godchild", incorporate family interests and children's development prospects into national interests, and set serving the society as the direction of cultivating children. If we blindly consider family interests, regardless of national interests and social needs, it is bound to be divorced from reality, it is difficult to train children into qualified talents needed by society, and even fall into the mud pit of individualism, delaying the future.

Of course, the situation of each family is different. Family education is mainly carried out in the family, which is restricted by parents' quality, family living conditions and children's quality factors. Therefore, the design of children's development goals and the choice of educational content and methods must proceed from the reality of the family. Only in this way can the expected effect be achieved.