In the 18th episode of A Dream of Red Mansions, Jia Zheng leads the people to visit the Grand View Garden, which is about to be completed, and orders Baoyu to name and oppose all places.

Baoyu said several things, such as Qin Fang, Von Lion, and a winding path leading to a secluded place. The guests applauded unanimously, and Jia Zheng was very happy. He called "beast" in his mouth, and you only blamed others for their mistakes. You are short-sighted and full of nonsense. "

This is what we call "duplicity". In fact, in family education, many parents are hypocritical.

For example, Mao Mao, the son of my colleague Li Jie, sings very well. At lunch, everyone asked her to perform a program. The little guy stood calmly in the middle of the crowd, opened his mouth and sang a song "Harry Potter flies on a broom/I'm sorry/but my broom/can only clean up the garbage".

Everyone laughed and applauded. Li Jie couldn't hide his pride, but scolded his son, "Boy, you are shameless." "

Mao Mao looked blankly at her mother when she heard this.

Like Jia Zheng, Li Jie also has different views. In the eyes of adults, she thinks this is a modest quality. Isn't it that children don't know what to do? If there is a similar situation, they will hold back and dare not fight.

This result actually affects the growth of children and runs counter to the inner expectations of adults.

Therefore, under such circumstances, children can be encouraged to give full play, and then privately tell them that they are not doing well enough and need improvement, so that children can grow faster and better.