Talking about the disadvantages of current family education, the current education overemphasizes school education, but ignores the subtle influence of family education on children. It is said that parents are children's first teachers, which shows that family education is very important. Then let's talk about the disadvantages of family education now.
On the disadvantages of current family education: as a form of training, family education has emerged since the development of human society created the family. This kind of cultural education, together with school moral education and science education, constitutes all cultural education accepted by human beings.
Because family education is carried out among the main members of the family, it determines its primitiveness, inclusiveness and intimacy between teachers. Of course, the harm of family education to people is obvious.
Throughout history, good family education has benefited people for life, and poor family education is of course a miss of life. Today's family education, after summing up the work experience and lessons in the historical period, has made great progress and shaped a large number of qualified talents for the four modernizations, but it is also worrying, which is manifested in the following aspects:
First, the shadow of "exam-oriented education in China" hangs over family education, seriously endangering children's all-round development.
Nowadays, although moral education is finally understood and recognized by social development with the call and efforts of many people with lofty ideals, the shadow of "exam-oriented education in China" still hangs over family education. In many families, children's education attaches importance to exams from the beginning. Parents pay the most attention and discuss the most, that is to say, how much their children have achieved. Parents get together and often show off their children's top grades in the class.
So, of course, the upsurge of choosing schools, hiring tutors, buying exam materials and attending cram schools has evolved, so that children can not only do all kinds of homework assigned by teachers at home, but also do more exercises assigned by parents and sign up for after-school cram schools assigned by parents. Therefore, under the command of parents, children seem to run around for one achievement after another.
Parents have done all the housework, sports and all kinds of beautiful edification that children should do, so they can't sign up for necessary social practice activities.
The result is that this kind of children, besides mastering some learning knowledge, lack practical experience, have no ability to work in the process of operation, have low physique and weak self-control ability in food, clothing, housing and transportation. They usually can't adapt to the global and social development with intertwined information content, lack the ability to control and improvise, and can't cope with the development trend of the times.
Second, family education lacks consistency.
Everyone expects their children to have a bright future. With the improvement of species standards, parents have a lot of time and energy to educate their children, but in cultural education, it has caused a worrying situation, that is, when educating children, sometimes grandparents and ancestors, and sometimes parents.
Because their personal experiences are different, their mental states are different, and their thoughts and practices are inconsistent, it is difficult to achieve the excellent cultural and educational effect of family education.
One of my basin friends often stipulates that children should develop a good habit of thrift from an early age, and never give them pocket money except considering all the normal standards of food, clothing, housing and transportation. The child's grandfather said: "There are four adults in my family raising a child, so why are you so petty?" It's not without it, let others look down on it. "
Although the child told his father a lot of truth, his father just wouldn't listen, so he often had ten yuan and twenty yuan in his bag. Of course, the plan of basin friends to let their children cultivate frugal habits from an early age has come to nothing.
For example, there are all kinds of examples around people, which seriously endanger the actual effect of family education and hinder the happy growth of children.
Third, laissez-faire and lack of proper induction.
Nowadays, due to the influence of economic restructuring and innovation, many parents go out to work in order to do business after losing their jobs. Some parents spend a lot of time bargaining with others on the road, shopping, too busy to eat and sleep. In order to make a living, some parents go out to work for many years to earn money and have no leisure to educate their children.
Therefore, many parents replace the necessary family education by finding a nanny for their children or throwing them a lot of money at one time. Some parents even say that they don't know a few words, and they don't have time to teach them. They let their children go on their own and give up the obligation of family education.
However, such children do not grasp how much professional knowledge they have, can not properly distinguish right from wrong, and lack sufficient self-control ability. Now he has become a person who has no one to take care of and lacks proper induction. How can he not run around as easily as a headless lamb? It is also inevitable that some children will take the road of breaking the law and committing crimes.
Fourth, some parents' literacy is too low, which seriously endangers their children's happy growth.
Xu Shen in Han Dynasty commented in Shuo Wen Jie Zi that "teaching, practice and effect". "Education, seme makes good also". These two annotations accurately show the essence and function of education. However, in real life, some parents' literacy is extremely low, and their behavior not only fails to set a good example for their children, but casts a shadow on their growth path.
Some children's parents swear, and opening their mouths is swearing. So many children, even naive, will say: Confucius, your mother's son; When some parents educate their children, they add up their fists without saying three words. The method is simple and direct, so there are often scenes of beatings and bruises in children's theme activities.
Some parents are obsessed with "building the Great Wall" and "hitting tractors" all the time, so they can hear something like "My dad met two Tianyu yesterday and gave me ten yuan excitedly" and "What is that? My mother beat four little leopards and the whole family went to Telford for a meal. " I even met my parents who gamble for a living. Obviously, what parents like can bring to their children's growth.
From the four disadvantages of family education listed above, we can see that there are indeed many worrying problems in family education today. In order to transform and develop people's basic education and make my children grow up happily, people should get rid of the shortcomings mentioned above and rethink the ideas and ways of educating children.
On the disadvantages of current family education. 2. Pessimistic way of thinking leads to quick success and instant benefit.
Judging from today's deep-rooted hierarchical concept, parents think that as long as their children study well, nothing else is important; Blind comparison leads to psychological loss, which leads to hating iron and not turning into steel. Parents' mentality has changed, and children's self-confidence has also lost.
Second, pay more attention to nurturing than teaching, and pay more attention to material than spirit.
Nowadays, many parents only pay attention to their children's food, clothing, housing and transportation, but ignore their inner world, so that children are prone to psychological and moral problems. Parents dote on their children's personality defects. Deprived of the child's normal life experience, the child lost the ability to survive; However, parents' high expectations for their children's learning lead to excessive mental stress. This kind of education is very unreasonable and unscientific.
Third, treat children as private property.
China's parents love their children and face more. Parents like to show off their children to satisfy their vanity and earn face for themselves. They take it for granted that the child is theirs, so they have the right to control their behavior. When children disobey orders, some parents will use "dignified" domestic violence without knowing that their actions are illegal. They firmly believe in the "educational concept" of "filial sons are born under sticks" and "conquering the enemy without fighting".
Fourth, there is a lack of learning and family education atmosphere.
Parents' educational concepts and methods are too old, lacking correct educational methods, neither learning educational knowledge nor learning from others' experience, and the educational results will certainly be bad, and they will only treat their children in a way of beating and cursing, resulting in a tense family education atmosphere and lack of affection.
It is very important for parents to communicate with their children. In fact, the communication between parents and children is more nonverbal. Parents' manners, thoughts and habits are all in words and deeds, which have intangible influence and constitute the most direct and profound education for children.