In the process of people's life development, there are four age stages, and they will automatically think about who I am, what my life should be like, sense of purpose, and career development direction. They are 13 to 16 years old, 22 to 25 years old, 30 to 33 years old and 40 to 45 years old respectively.
Early adulthood, before the college entrance examination, career planning. 13~ 16, this is the first time I have this kind of thinking. Career planning and family education at this stage can also be divided into several key age groups. The age before 16 is divided into a critical age stage of family education with career planning and guidance.
The first stage is from 9 years old to 12 years old.
At this time, it is necessary to find the child's personality talent, but also to find the child's personality weakness. Personality talent refers to the deep desire in personality. Regarding the question of sense of purpose, the ultimate relationship is to answer why, why do I like this question? What does this have to do with me? Why can't I do it without doing it?
Every child's personality talent has basically produced a very critical prototype in the three years from the age of 9 to the age of 12. Once the prototype is formed, this general direction remains basically the same.
People's talent also hides the weakness of character. Personality weakness orientation is the core factor of children's potential frustration and failure in the process of sustainable life growth. In fact, the factors that lead to the real failure of human beings in the process of struggle and growth are all caused by the weakness of personality.
The talent of personality points to the direction of future academic career and career development, while the weakness of personality indicates the potential setbacks and risks in our future academic and career development.
If the child's talent and personality weakness can be found through effective family supplementary education when he is 9 to 12 years old, he can predict his achievement direction and potential development obstacles and risks in advance and make preparations in advance. This is a very important first-stage education preparation for career planning.
The second stage is from 13 to 16.
When children enter middle school, they have more interpersonal relationships. Because of the development of adolescence, some profound thoughts point to the lifestyle and life field of adults.
We can help children find the direction of their academic career and career development from 9 years old to 12 years old, and help children anchor their interests, development direction and goals by observing their profound adult thinking consciousness in daily life.
Effective interest is the internal motivation to never give up studying hard, so help them to anchor this interest goal.
At the same time, it is also necessary to help children evaluate their ability and quality, and determine their foreign careers through the anchoring of their interest goals in the previous step. Foreign career reference labels and annual income targets. For example, I want to be a famous painter, and I want to be the CEO of a famous enterprise. The interest goal will definitely point to a certain major, even the future adult career development field, which is a very clear foreign career orientation. At this time, we can help children understand the requirements of internal occupation according to the external occupation orientation, and build and analyze the quality model of children's internal occupation ability.
We should define our goals, such as what kind of abilities, experiences and qualities you need to become a famous engineer with an annual income of 8 million. This is a description of objective ability and quality, which is your inner career. Evaluate the child's current ability and quality, so as to find the gap between the child's current ability and the ability required by the external career goal he wants to develop. This gap helps children to understand their own learning and development direction.
To sum up, help children to anchor their interest goals, clarify their external career goals, and help children to clarify their internal career goals through external career goals. Then implement and formulate specific action strategies for children's daily learning to achieve their inherent career goals and ensure the achievement of career goals.
In the process of implementation, there are three things to do:
The first is the ability to adapt to learning anxiety.
Help children sort out the boredom in the whole career development process, especially those related to learning. Interest is actually the imagination of a better life after a successful career, but the process of achieving this goal after struggle is full of boredom, so it is necessary to help children constantly sort out boredom and help them face boredom. This is a weakness that they must face in their character, and their parents should help them overcome it.
The second is the ability of this link to point to the confusion of future career development.
From 13 years old to 16 years old, through effective family education, help our children cultivate their strong psychological adaptability. Psychological adaptation mainly points to three aspects, one is the adaptation to study anxiety, and the other is the adaptation to future career development confusion.
The third is the psychological adjustment ability to adjust self-loneliness and inferiority complex.
Help children develop effective social skills, emotional intelligence development and self-emotional management skills, as well as effective social skills to get along with people around them. These are the core tasks of family education from 13 to 16 years old to help children realize their career development.
I hope parents and friends can understand these contents and master relevant methods. The most important thing is to help children explore their talents, clarify their personality weaknesses, anchor their interest development goals, outline their ability and quality models, and make effective concrete action plans for children's learning and development from 9 years old to 12, 13 to 16.
In the process of implementing the action plan, we will continue to help children cultivate their psychological quality, overcome the anxiety and boredom encountered in the learning process, and finally achieve their career goals.
The appearance of the whole career planning result is actually the process of helping children to do, do, write, speak and talk about such a set of career development logic from willingness to do.
Willing to do means that we should cultivate our children and make them have the will to be a person and do something. After that, we help them master the ability to do it through learning, and become such a person, never willing to do it.
Knowing how to do it means that they can really use what they have learned to do these things and really put themselves on the road to becoming this person through struggle.
Being able to write refers to their own life wisdom summed up from the experiences and lessons gained in the struggle.
It can be said that it is imperative expression. Through their wisdom, they can effectively express and socialize with people around them.
Being able to talk means that after they get married and have children, they pass on their wisdom of life and career development to the next generation in a narrative way.
From being willing to do it, attending the meeting, doing it again, writing at the meeting, speaking and speaking, it also depicts the psychological logic of a person's complete career development.
In the joint research of developmental psychology and cognitive psychology, I think that the earlier I think about who I am and what my life should be like, the easier it will be for me to make achievements in my academic career and career development.
If you are 40~45 years old, think about this problem again. If you want to understand it, there is little time and space left for you to take action and strive for success, so the sooner you realize it, the more important it is.
For the majority of senior three candidates, it happens to be 13 to 16 years old. For the first time, human beings have a critical period of consciousness about who I am, what my life should be like, and the issue of career development. During this period, it is necessary for parents and students to actively position and plan their external and internal career.
The sooner we have a sense of career development and anchor the direction of career development, the easier it will be for us to achieve success and career development through effective efforts and struggles in the next academic career and career development.
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