Educating children is a common concern of society, parents and schools, and mothers, as one of educators, have an innate advantage, that is, maternal love. "Concentrated efforts are education." Cao Xueqin, a writer in the Qing Dynasty, wrote in the fifth chapter of A Dream of Red Mansions that "everything is learned when it is clear, and people's understanding is an article." Russian educator ushinski once said: "Learning is labor, and it is labor full of thoughts." How to make ideological labor take root in the soil of the family, and make family education become labor education and scholarly education, and naturally integrate into the details of life like dressing and eating? Labor pride, happy education! Below I will combine my own educational experience and ideas to explain how to realize scholarly education in daily life from four aspects of family education:

First, how to praise children

Praising children is not only an incentive for their growth, but also a way to let them know what you care about. Modern parents know a lot about the role of praise through books and various media. I'll just talk about how I praised my children in my life. Every day before my child goes to school, I will definitely praise him. For example, if a child wants to take an exam, I'm afraid he will be careless, and I will tell him that you will be the most calm and calm in today's exam; For example, I think it is not ideal for a child to answer questions in class. I will tell him that you must answer the most questions in Chinese class today; For another example, as he grows taller, I pay more attention to his health. When you get up in the morning, the compliment will be: son, you are the most handsome with your chest out ... and so on. These are what I call circuitous compliments, as well as positive compliments and refractive compliments, so my son said in his letter to me that it is because of these compliments that he is full of confidence in himself, and even if he enters Dalian No.24 Middle School, he is a master like a cloud. Of course, praise and praise in life are more anytime and anywhere. Learning to praise is a very practical medicine for you without spending money. The process of praise is the process of making children stronger, and praise can make children grow up with advantages. Why not?

Second, talk about reading.

There is a poetic soul in the belly, which is the poem of Su Shi's Farewell to Dongchuan. This means that as long as you read enough poetry books and learn something, your temperament and talent are naturally brilliant, elegant and glorious. "As we all know, reading extracurricular books is the best channel for children to understand the world and broaden their horizons, but many parents are complaining that the utilization rate of books bought for their children is not high, and parents should not read them to him or put them on the bookshelf. But if a son doesn't study for two days, it's like lack of water. If he doesn't buy books for several days, he can't sleep. Now he is more than an ordinary children's book. He has read all the versions of world literature masterpieces that he can understand, especially the books that teach geography and astronomy. The reason why he has this habit is that he can read earlier and have a sense of intimacy with words; Second, if I haven't read the book after I buy it home, I will take the time to finish it so that I can discuss it with my son. If my son hasn't read it yet, I will draw this book very interesting in front of my son and arouse his interest; Also, he often writes to him according to life scenes, so that what he reads can be touched and seen. Slowly in this process, the son has a stage to show himself, and he also feels the concern of his parents, realizes the fun of reading, and gradually forms good habits. I remember when my son was three years old, he became interested in the introduction of various lenses. He kept asking: why is this called glasses, that called telescope, that called microscope, that called magnifying glass and reflector ... I couldn't explain it clearly, but I didn't put the problem aside, but took action and bought these "mirrors" for my son to see, compare and then give them to him. The process of children's growth is also the process of solving these problems, all the way to three-dimensional space, six-dimensional space and so on. " In the children's problems and why, we may not be able to solve all the problems, but we must let the children know that you are with him, so that their thirst for knowledge will naturally be stronger. "This is a passage from my book" Educating children to let the' heart' go first ".This article also won the first prize of the fourth family education essay in Dalian. Reading is a poetic living condition, a happy lifestyle and a warm life experience. With the growth of children, the story of reading has become a small detail of our family life, a chapter that is used to and full of fun. After my son went to high school, many parents were worried that their children would not study biology, geography and other subjects, which was different from junior high school, but I don't have to worry about these, because he was very willing to study, such as Oxford Youth Encyclopedia, Zoology, and just finished studying in college. He has read it several times, and some chapters can be memorized. And geography, because he likes watching sports games, so I follow the trend. Since the 2004 Olympic Games, he has wandered around the map for thousands of times, and now it is still his leisure way to test other countries' flags in his spare time.

Third, nagging knowledge.

When it comes to nagging, many mothers will invariably say: I'll do this! You really don't need to learn this. This is a woman's natural ability. Yes, this is a mother's natural wealth, so it is also a partner who grows up with her children. Knowing the knowledge of nagging will cultivate a partner who is beneficial to his life. In the process of children's education, nagging knowledge must first follow the principle of decreasing. Newborn children need to get these feelings from their parents because they don't know the outside world. At this time, mom can't be too nagging. The more the better, the better for children. I called myself a chatterbox at that stage. Children are growing up and their knowledge is increasing. Mother's status is gradually changing from a preacher to a listener and participant in the children's world. At this time, nagging should follow the principle of directionality, not only to guide nagging. My son and I nagged about his three national inventions. I am my son's most loyal audience because of his strange questions and irrelevant adventure stories. Any caring parents can understand their children's ideas by listening and help them realize their ideas by taking practical actions. Our son invented the game of honor and disgrace, the game of literacy and fun, and the convenient sheller, all of which we talked about together. When it comes to invention, people always think it is mysterious. Where does the idea come from, how to develop, and so on. In fact, my son's invention just turned his whimsy into reality. Capturing whimsy requires parents' listening, and turning it into reality requires parents' participation. Sometimes children are still young, and their ideas may not have any scientific content, but they must be allowed to think boldly. When a child tells you what he thinks, parents must listen carefully. Don't laugh at children even if it's illogical. I remember my son just learned math and chess at school in the second grade. When he came home, he said to me angrily, "Why do you have math chess but not literacy chess?" You don't pay much attention to Chinese characters I want to develop a literacy chess. " I found it very interesting, so I encouraged him to speak out his thoughts, and seriously studied and made it with him, named it "Literacy Fun Chess", and later made a game of honor and disgrace chess. In the experience and accumulation of life, I also developed a practical invention patent "convenient sheller". These results are not important to children. The process of participation is a kind of happiness and accumulation of knowledge, and it is also a further improvement of interest in science. Nagging, this time is to take dry goods, to constantly supplement their knowledge, to add momentum to the growth of children.

Fourth, persevere and be grateful for life.

If life is a Wang Yang, with countless water droplets, it is necessary to educate children that the water droplets are put in by themselves. Whether it is crystal clear or dirty depends on parents. If perseverance is a thread, we are talking about praise, reading, nagging and so on. Parents' persistence can make the points connect into a line. For this topic, I use the following life insights to sum it up:

1. When we are pregnant and have a baby, we promise to give him (her) eternal love and keep our original promise. Have we asked ourselves how much we have achieved? How long did it last?

2. Don't stifle the child's innocent and happy nature, take him out for a walk more often, and love nature can stimulate the potential of life and have fun with children. Exercise is a habit of lifelong benefit, and health is a wealth that is hard to buy. Play with children! Proper exercise and relaxation allow learning to give children wings of happiness and freedom.

3. Learning is not to read dead books or books, but to participate in social activities that are actively beneficial to the healthy development of body and mind, and to take root in positive energy in children's hearts. Knowledge needs to return to society. Participating in family reading competitions with children, participating in hands-on educational activities and helping younger brothers and sisters are all places where children can feel useful in learning, except for inventing and innovating.

4. Persistence and dedication will be rewarded, and we will harvest together on the road of children's growth.

Family education is the most important function for families to undertake social responsibilities. Nowadays, parents' demands for family education methods are no longer satisfied with the same educational forms and contents, but seek ways to maximize their educational potential and "tailor-made" personalized education services. Then you need to know your children, work out effective methods and stick to them.

Family education is a lifelong career, with a starting point and no end. To realize the scholarly society mentioned in Premier Li Keqiang's government report, every family needs scholarly education to brew the most beautiful and happiest life for their children. Only in this way can the whole society have abundant books and China continue to prosper.