1, overprotected
Sometimes, because parents pay too much attention to their children's superficial needs and ignore their invisible psychological needs, even if their children are born with excellent conditions, they cannot get the development they deserve. When a child wants to run and play, some parents will ban him for fear of injury;
In this case, children will develop the habit of inactivity, become physically late, weak and sick, and their intellectual development will inevitably be hindered, and their personality will become timid, lack of self-confidence and unable to face difficulties. Parents must understand that caring is spiritual communication, not behavioral intervention. Too much intervention will hinder the development of children's potential.
2. Encourage the growth of seedlings.
Some parents, regardless of their children's development, force their children to learn to stand early, learn to walk and learn to write ... which leads to a serious imbalance between children's body and mind, leading to children's grumpy, anxious, indifferent and withdrawn problems, and may also have problems of refusing to learn and not knowing how to get along with others.
3. Excessive autocracy
Regularly regulating children's actions with a loud voice, restricting children's freedom and denying children's ideas will make children in a state of panic for a long time, unable to express themselves, and only know how to be passive in Nuo Nuo, which will make them lose their confidence and courage to try new things.
In addition, children will bully their younger children in order to vent their dissatisfaction. When children grow up, they are more likely to bear a grudge against their parents and vent their accumulated dissatisfaction back to their parents.
4. You look grim
Children can't feel the serious love of their parents. Putting on a stern face will only make children flinch from their parents. Parents should avoid blaming their children with harsh words, and even if their children are not doing well enough, they should give them gentle suggestions to make them easy to accept.
Many parents have high expectations for their children, but they are stingy in praising them. They often put on an elder face and blame their children, thinking that this is education, but in fact they ignore the wonderful educational effect brought by praise.
Step 5 ignore the advantages
I feel that children have no strengths, and even if they do, parents take it for granted. China people are modest, so some parents are not used to praising their children in front of others, and sometimes they criticize them casually.
In fact, parents' evaluation of children is the basis for children to establish their self-image. If his shortcomings are often mentioned, children will doubt their abilities, which will not only affect their self-confidence, but even think that they are useless, so they will not make progress.
Parents should praise their children's good behavior in time and accordingly. Otherwise, children won't know why they are praised, so they won't have any impression on this kind of praise, and they can't strengthen good behavior. Praise should be specific. The more specific the praise, the easier it is for children to understand what good behavior is and the easier it is to find the direction of their efforts.