We must stay away from stupid parents. It is not easy for parents to raise us. We should be grateful, but at the same time, some parents are not qualified enough and their education methods are improper, which has brought negative effects to their children. The following sharing must stay away from stupid parents.
Be sure to stay away from stupid parents 1. Some parents are not smart, they are mercenary and can't educate their children. When you meet such parents, your child's personality will deteriorate.
Some very selfish parents are actually stupid parents. These parents are ugly and mean in front of their children, and the children will learn from them in the future, so that the children's character will have characteristics.
Parents' selfishness is mostly reflected in daily trifles, and their selfish behavior is manifested in all aspects of life, varied and ubiquitous. Care about housework, care about children, and be afraid of losing money. Even at the dinner table, you blame each other, who eats more and who eats less.
Parents are selfish and their children are unfilial, so it may be a little difficult for such parents to get respect and care from their children. Children who grow up in such a selfish environment are also likely to inherit their parents' selfish personality, heartless, and subconsciously resent and resent their parents, while selfish personality is easy to be rejected in society, thus producing bad emotions, which are likely to be added to their parents, leading to their alienation and indifference.
Smart parents actually know how to make their children develop a sound personality, rather than being an "excellent machine". A sound personality attracts children more than grades. A famous philosopher once said, "A man's fate lies in his character. Whether a person has done something in his life and whether he is happy is often the decisive factor, not intelligence.
Stupid parents only know how to feed their children, force them to learn some special skills and force them to get high marks, but never think about how to cultivate their sound personality and character. Children's personality can be molded, and smart parents know how to guide their children to develop a sound personality.
Some parents are so stupid, see things very one-sidedly, and their thoughts are quite old-fashioned and pedantic. If your life is in their hands, it may be like that, and it's over. You can't choose your family background, but you can choose your own path. Leave them alone! Change city life, do what you like, associate with people you like, maybe you can find an ideal partner and start a happy new life.
Be sure to stay away from stupid parents. Many parents are very strong in today's society. Kidnapping one's own children morally, thinking that what they say is right, but it is not.
Of course, this distance is not only a physical distance, but also a distance from them in cognition, thinking, pattern and living habits.
Because stupid parents with low quality have a stronger desire to control their children, while parents with high quality will give their children more freedom. Many unsuccessful parents let their children go their own way.
Do you think if you follow their ideas, there is still a chance to turn over in this life?
Therefore, such parents should minimize the negative impact on themselves and stay away from stupid parents.
Of course, your parents are ill, so you shouldn't stay away from them at this time. Raising children to prevent old age, we should take good care of the elderly at this time and let them enjoy the happy time in their later years. If parents are in good health and don't need their children's personal care, then concentrate on their careers and don't distract themselves too much.
Why do you find your parents selfish when you grow up?
What has the greatest influence on people in this life is the family environment, that is, the closest relatives, friends, classmates and neighbors. Among them, parents have the greatest personal influence.
The older you grow up, the more selfish your parents are, which means you have grown up. As you grow up, so do your parents. Your self-care ability is improving, while their ability is stable or declining. If they can give you love and care, it will gradually decrease. This is also an opportunity for you to grow and stand on your own feet, which is also natural.
In the end, you must move towards a completely independent process. Don't blame your parents for their selfishness. This is a natural process that everyone will encounter.
Be sure to stay away from stupid parents. Smart parents let their children develop a sound personality.
A sound personality attracts children more than grades. A famous philosopher once said, "A man's fate lies in his character. Whether a person has done something in his life and whether he is happy is often the decisive factor, not intelligence.
Stupid parents only know how to feed their children, force them to learn some special skills and force them to get high marks, but never think about how to cultivate their sound personality and character. Children's personality can be molded, and smart parents know how to guide their children to develop a sound personality.
Cultivate children to be good. Goodness is the basic accomplishment of human beings and an important factor of career success. Former South African President nelson mandela was imprisoned for political reasons when he was young, during which two prison guards often abused him. When Mandela was released, he said, "If I get out of prison, if I still have resentment in my heart, I will still live in prison." Kindness is always the personality background of successful people.
More manly. Many parents emphasize that children are obedient. I think it's right for children to listen to adults, but we can't let them blindly follow everything. Children who are disobedient are not good children, and children who are too obedient will not achieve much. A child who is too simple and lacks independent opinions is more vulnerable if he is eroded by evil factors. Cultivate children's independence from an early age.
Keep children away from extremes from childhood. When you grow up, you will see both sides of things. When you grow up, you will not walk into a dead end.
Smart parents teach their children to be down-to-earth and not to be smart.
Smart can't raise a big pattern, and even ruin the future of children. Zeng Guofan's success proves this point. Let the children keep their feet on the ground and work hard. Many parents let their children pretend to be short just to avoid bus tickets. China has a saying: Take the lead, observe its power from a distance, and observe its people for a long time. Even if you can pretend for a while, can you cheat for a lifetime? Let the child pretend to be short. Can he escape this time and next time? Even if you escape, the negative psychological impact you bring to your child is permanent and indelible. Children who are not sensible will develop the bad habit of taking advantage, and children who are sensible will be ashamed of their parents' behavior.
For children, smart parents will set an example and do things in a down-to-earth manner, so that children can succeed step by step. For children to "develop" their own cleverness, such as pretending to be ill in order not to go to school. If a child is complacent because he has taken advantage of it, parents should not show happiness or appreciation for his cleverness, lest he love to play tricks. Is to ignore the child's intelligence, pretend to be invisible, and not respond. After a long time, children will feel that their cleverness has no "market" and will naturally get rid of it gradually.
Smart parents see things from their children's point of view.
Stupid parents always look at and educate their children from the perspective of adults, and they can only solve their children's problems with adult thinking. The result is likely to cause irreparable trauma to the child.
Once there was a mother who took her children to the shopping center. She thought that the children would definitely like this lively place, but instead, the children were not happy at all in the shopping mall, and even a little scared, clamoring to go out. Mom doesn't understand, how can a child who always likes to play exclude beautiful and lively shopping malls? But when she squatted down and asked the child why, she understood that from the child's point of view, she could only see strips of human legs and some high cabinets, which were not pleasing to the eye at all and were very uncomfortable, but could not be seen at the height of adults.
Smart parents always look at problems from their children's perspective and use their children's thinking to develop and solve problems. When getting along with children, parents should kneel down, look at the world from the child's point of view, and master the children's hearing, vision and understanding characteristics. Many parents will interact with their children from the perspective of adults, indirectly or directly arrange and even order their children to do, play and play. In fact, children are children, and the height of body and mind has yet to grow. If you stand in the position of an adult, it is difficult to understand the joys and sorrows of a child.
Squat down, you can walk into the child's world, know what you can see at his height, and communicate effectively with the child.
Smart parents know how to take advantage of their children's mistakes.
What children are often past praying for? Psychological research shows that children's psychological development is not mature enough, and their abilities of learning, judging right and wrong, memory and self-control are poor. After making a mistake, they may repeat it despite being pointed out and educated by their parents. At this time, punishment can play a better role in correcting children's incorrect behavior.
But punishing children is neither corporal punishment nor humiliation. Many parents don't understand the true meaning of punishment.
There are two kinds of scientific punishment:
1, knowing that the child will step on the pit, the parents deliberately let the child learn the lesson.
There is a little girl who is always late for group activities. Teachers and classmates deliberately told her every time, but it was useless. Helpless mother specially greeted the teacher before an autumn outing. Don't wait for her this time, let her realize her mistake. Sure enough, when the little girl slowly arrived at the meeting place, there were no signs of teachers and vehicles. The little girl spent a sad day at home alone and was seldom late again.
2. Pay the price for mistakes and take responsibility.
There is a little boy who plays badminton very well, but he has a bad habit, that is, he likes to hit other things with a badminton racket, which often breaks down in less than a month. This time, when his father bought him a new racket, he warned him: "I won't buy you a new racket for half a year." I hope you cherish this racket! " "The little boy doesn't think so. A month later, the racket broke down again. His father just wouldn't buy him a new one. He stayed up for a few months and cherished it when he got a new racket.
In the face of children's mistakes, stupid parents always foolishly accuse, even insult and humiliate their children. This way can not prevent children from correcting mistakes, but also easily arouse children's rebellious psychology, complete the trauma in their hearts, and complete the alienation of children from their parents.
Parents use violence to teach their children to bully the weak. Whether right or wrong, children will be disgusted because they are unable to resist, which will not play any positive educational role. On the contrary, children who are often beaten and scolded will become more and more relaxed, they will deliberately repeat mistakes to show resistance, and even become fond of lying, aggression and other bad behaviors.