I came across an article in Parenting Education on the Internet the other day, which deeply touched me. Nowadays, with the rapid development of society, the younger generation is gradually facing more and more temptations while enjoying high-quality material enjoyment. How to educate children and let them have a good future has become the primary task of qualified parents. Especially after reading the articles on parenting education, I also felt the importance of educating children, and at the same time realized my previous misunderstanding in educating children.

In the article, a child said, "Mom always brushes her mistakes aside and never reviews herself. When I made the same mistake, I just scolded me blindly, never thinking whether I was influenced by her. And in our relationship, I almost never get praise. Over time, I gradually became introverted and timid. Inferiority, even self-loathing ... "Seeing this, I think if we can correctly accept and treat our shortcomings. The requirements for children also need to set an example. Parents should first set an example and let their children know what to do. In daily life, parents should have a pair of eyes that are good at discovering children's bright spots, often give children positive psychological hints, and at the same time dilute children's unprincipled mistakes and shortcomings, take advantage of the situation and not blindly preach. Then we can face our children's shortcomings calmly, and children can naturally gain the necessary self-identity from their parents' acceptance, which is very important for cultivating their self-confidence and self-esteem. The simple truth is that a person will be full of confidence only if he likes himself.

That's why I thought of the truth again. Truth is a very difficult thing, especially for children. Many times, in order to achieve our own goals, we will act on children, using tricks that we think are very clever, but we don't know that children have long understood. Just because they don't talk doesn't mean they don't know. Children, as the closest members of a family, can accurately infer the words, deeds and expressions of their parents, which is absolutely beyond our imagination. Don't worry, no parents don't look down on their children. Therefore, if we can't really get along with children, then children won't get along with people around them, including their parents, because they didn't learn the truth from their parents, and truth is just a quality that can stand the test of time.

In family education, it is very important for parents to control their emotions in time, especially negative emotions. As parents, it is normal for us to encounter unsatisfactory things, even setbacks and failures, and then have bad emotions. The key is to adjust the mentality and resolve it in time. Never pass this emotion on to children, because children are innocent and should not be trash cans in our hearts. The child's mind is actually far more delicate and sensitive than we think.

In the family, we should respect children, treat them as equal members of the family, make friends with them, communicate with them patiently, learn to be a good listener (sometimes listening is more important than preaching), understand their unique inner world and pay attention to their hearts. Parents should have the courage to admit their mistakes to their children when they are wrong.

Learning is a special concern of parents. However, teenagers in today's society are generally tired of learning. Children's weariness of learning is sometimes just a superficial phenomenon, and there must be a reason behind it: haven't they developed good study habits? Don't you see the best in your child? Don't you use your brain scientifically? Are parents hindering their children's nature of "playing middle school"? But children don't realize that learning is their own business ... finding the reasons behind it can help children get out of the shadow of being tired of learning. Children's lack of curiosity is usually not due to the influence of parents or lack of strict requirements, but because their interest is hindered. Interest (curiosity), dreams, sense of accomplishment, questioning, gratitude, enthusiasm and anger are all channels to dredge and stimulate children's thirst for knowledge. For children, the so-called competitive advantage is the effective development of potential. Mood, enlightenment, suggestion, reverie, encouragement and planning are the six principles to stimulate children's learning potential.

When parents' praise and positive hints for children are constantly strengthened and enter the child's subconscious, children will consciously regulate their study and life and eventually become the people expected by their parents.