Fool the author/Zhang (Chairman of Taiwan Province parenting education Promotion Association) Star Wars has made waves again. I don't like science fiction movies. After watching several episodes, I got a lot of inspiration at first sight, which is actually very helpful for me to understand children's behavior. In fact, this is a political film, which can also be said to be an educational film. I am deeply touched by the saying "the dark side of the Force". Anakin Skywalker was lured by the dark side of his powerful Force and became a pawn of the empire. His son Luke also has great power. Jedi Master Yoda told him to be careful of the darkness of the Force. He described the dark side as "anger, fear and aggression". In earlier episodes, Yoda also brought pain to hatred ... "In my past experience, I have seen many groups of children, including countless primary school camps. If there was once a dark leader in the group, simply speaking, a child with leadership ability and a little aggression may be presented in a way of excluding others, perhaps for a period of time, perhaps for a short period of time. When the dark leader is gone, there is a great chance that there will be successors, or children who have experienced this period will have a chance to come to a place. Ask someone not to play with someone.
The strangest thing is that even if the members come from families whose parents are very cautious and abandon bullying and oppression, these legions may still be formed, perhaps at least two people.
This is very thought-provoking
The dark power comes from human nature.
Many people say this is imitation, but I don't think it's that simple. Imitation sounds like unconscious behavior. Therefore, it is hardly a kind of copying behavior with moral problems at the risk of adult intervention, but a kind of human nature.
A group of children gather, even a group of adults interact, and how many humans are entangled in it, and then some people are injured, some people recover, and some people plant the seeds of fear in their hearts. Isn't anger and hatred likely to follow? Will children be protected from the temptation of dark humanity because they are young?
People always regard children as angels. It's time to wake up. If you don't face up to "evil", how can you accompany your child to experience dark suffering and struggle? For children who feel particularly deep fear, have a particularly heavy shadow and have a strong force (strong will), how can we accompany them to coexist with themselves (dark temptation is strong)? Children grow up physically and seem to have more power than before. They have seen darkness and power. From birth, he began to experience power, but he was very small. Once his body grows up, what an attractive force it is and how easy it is to hate. He thought it was a way to make himself comfortable, but it was actually a dark road to a cheap way. Will it be that in the end, hatred will accumulate and roll with each other, causing him to feel more hatred and it is difficult to understand and tolerate the consequences?
If the child is rejected, although he may have moved, these two things should be handled separately. If we gently put him down and ask him questions, maybe we are encouraging the dark forces.
Some adults don't beat and scold children, but they think it's a good thing for children to fight among their peers. Especially when children are not taught, they secretly expect their children to be beaten back by other children, thinking that children will learn well and even cultivate their fighting capacity. This attitude makes things more difficult and is a breeding ground for the dark forces.
Facing the dark side is a precious opportunity to know yourself.
I hope everyone will not be scared. This is a very real side. As educators, we must be calm. As parents, we must also be calm. Fortunately, we found that fear is an important factor. We are afraid of losing friendship, love, love, strength and control. For those who take dark actions, hatred and attack may be behind fear, which gives me a lot of inspiration. Many adults are shocked by the darkness of children and can't understand it. It's like asking a person to die ... If we don't have more imagination about human nature, how can we see the plight of children and how can we accept it? Even parents are afraid of that dark force. If they want to deny it, does it not exist?
I don't think "darkness" will disappear in groups, especially among children. Not eradicating it is the first step. This is a precious opportunity for children to know themselves. I also think that dark thoughts will not be removed from everyone's heart. We have been tempted all our lives and have more power. When we have a lot, the fear of loss will increase, and the dark forces will have a chance to enter the heart, which is far more terrible than when you were a nobody and were not born permanently.
So what can parents do? We can't protect children from fear forever, and we shouldn't. Every child has different degrees of fear and needs different recovery time. Therefore, what we can do is to start from our own requirements, accept children's dark feelings based on equal respect and rational communication, don't presuppose that they are afraid of it, and abandon children's naive escape imagination. The point I want to make later is that the dark side is human nature. It crawls around like a lion, hiding from Tibet. A normal and healthy child also has human desire for power and aggression, but it can hurt people or not, so we should face up to these needs.
Facing the darkness is a lifelong practice.
The topic of human nature is very big, but I can give you some advice. I am very supportive of adults and children playing fake fights or fighting games. Dad is also very qualified for this role. This is a good parent-child connection. As long as you don't bully your child with your body, don't train your child with the devil, and don't deliberately discourage your child, you can always play with your child because he wants to play, so that these human natures can have a suitable exit in the game. My child is eight years old. When he was three or four years old, I often played war games with him. The reason is that he wants to buy toy weapons. In order to avoid being more forbidden and more beautiful, we finally agreed to buy it for him. After that, he invited me to play battle games every day, playing in the atrium of the community, playing in the park, playing everywhere, hiding behind a tree and attacking. He seems to have this need. After playing for two years, we played that trick but didn't really cause a storm.
In fact, playing is just a little fencing. The process of playing is competitive and decent, but in this process, we support each other, even appreciate and care for each other, and occasionally praise each other. But later, we have to pretend to be cruel, not cruel and not fun, but also very devoted, and we have been playing like this until one day he doesn't want to play with me anymore. Before that, I'm completely ready. This also shaped his son's game mode. He plays games with people and fighting games, but he never packages playing and hurting people in games, nor does he package his dark desires in games.
In middle age, I finally watched seven episodes of Star Wars, which inspired me. Everyone has the Force and a driving force to copy the inner dark power. This is a lifelong lesson, regardless of your age and mine. It will only make the education we provide empty, and let us have the courage to take ten steps back and accompany our children to know everyone in human nature with a broader and more humble heart.
? "This article is the author's view on cooperative innovation, not his position."