A boy should be confident, brave, strong, sunny and happy. Always tell children brave stories. Good at observation, when he encounters difficulties, he can get timely help and encourage him to overcome them. Some children are timid and lack courage. A very important reason is that parents spoil their children too much. Newborn calves are not afraid of tigers. Children don't know fear when they are very young. However, because many parents pay too much attention to their children and worry that they will be wronged and hurt, they immediately put their children under the umbrella when they face minor difficulties or tests, depriving them of the opportunity to exercise their brave qualities. The past has caused children's timid character, which is difficult to correct when they grow up. Only by boldly letting children do things and exercising in life can children become brave, strong and brave.

First, get close to your children. In the process of cultivating happy personality, friendship plays an important role, so parents should deepen their feelings with their children, encourage their children to play with their peers and let them learn to communicate with others happily and harmoniously.

Second, give children the right to make decisions. Cultivating a happy personality is closely related to guiding and controlling children's behavior. Parents should try their best to give their children opportunities to know how to use their decision-making power from an early age.

Third, teach children to adjust their mental state. To let children know that some people are happy all their lives, the secret is to have a highly adaptive psychological state, so that they can quickly cheer up from disappointment. When a child is frustrated, he can point out that the future is always bright and let him find comfort in the environment of restoring his happy mood. He loves to cry and be angry because he knows that when he cries, he won't embarrass him again. The next time he cries, you don't have to tell him it's useless to cry and then guide him to solve it a little bit, such as quarrelling with his classmates. You should ask him why he is embarrassed. Do you think you are wrong? What do you think should be done? I also think this method you mentioned is good. If he does, give him spiritual encouragement. Let him feel that he is an adult equally from the bottom of his heart, and he can think independently when he cries because he can't get anything. He cannot compromise. Once he gets into the habit, his greed will grow bigger and bigger. I'm afraid that one day his parents can't afford it. If you don't buy it for him right away, there is another advantage, which will let him know that things are precious. You can't get it by crying casually. At ordinary times, you can talk more about guiding his values and world outlook and express your attitude. After a long time, he will form a general outline in his heart, and he will develop in the direction you set.

Fourth, let him touch the nail that should be touched. When a child comes into this world, he is naive. If his parents arrange everything perfectly, he won't have a real understanding of the world, and he is likely to run into a big nail in the future. Just like a fish is born to swim in the water, what if you put a lifebuoy on him with good intentions? Most of today's only children have excellent living conditions. Usually, their mouths are full of food and their clothes are stretched. Such children are often at a loss when they encounter difficulties. A child wore his trousers inside out and couldn't pee in kindergarten. He has been peeing for a long time, but he can't find a way to change his pants, so he has to endure the pain of peeing. After returning home, he cried to his parents. It can be seen that these children will complain only in the face of difficulties. If we can set some difficulties for children in daily life and encourage them to find ways to solve them, it will help to enhance their living ability and cultivate their courage and will to overcome difficulties.

5. make a detour and let him go around. Children may not buy shortcuts provided by parents. Even if he takes a shortcut, he may not be able to settle down, but he will never forget the road he designed. Moreover, success without process ending and setbacks is like giving China the title of world champion out of thin air. What's the point?

Sixth, let him suffer. Let children know that all happiness is hard-won. Otherwise, he won't cherish it, and he won't understand it, so he doesn't know when to be blessed. Usually, it is not only conducive to improving children's physical fitness, but also to cultivating children's hard-working spirit, so that they can increase their wisdom and experience the hardships of others, so as to learn to respect other people's labor and cherish their own labor results.

Seven, use your head to let him move. Children have their own thinking, so we should give them some space. On the one hand, they can exercise their resilience, on the other hand, they can experience the ups and downs of life.

8. Criticism should make him suffer. Many children who are in the position of "stars holding the moon" are arrogant. When they are occasionally criticized, they will get angry, cry or lose confidence. For such children, it is very necessary to criticize and educate them in time, point out their shortcomings and deficiencies, and impose appropriate constraints. Although these children are very uncomfortable when accepting criticism, this psychological suffering is a good medicine to overcome arrogance and coquetry.

Nine, the cultivation and training of male independence. At home, treat the boy as a real man, give him the opportunity to do things independently, and let him think about the problems he faces independently. Parents should not overprotect the boy, but should pay attention to giving him independent and free space for activities as soon as possible before going to primary school, and have his own small room, which is independent in form and content.

Ten, create a relaxed living and learning space. We should pay more attention to cultivating the leadership quality of boys, and the formation of their unique personality is very important. Parents should not arrange the details of his study life for the boy, and should not ask the boy to be passive, but should try to teach him to make up his own mind and make his own decisions. It is more important than anything to train his ability to make decisive decisions and organize and command others.

Eleven, parents should give respect and understanding to the little boy. Adolescent boys, in particular, lack the opportunity to pour out their feelings and feelings. It's a thousand times better to talk from heart to heart than to boss around. Parents must always have psychological communication with boys to avoid excessive doting on the elderly; Make boys be good at opening their hearts, be cheerful and outspoken, and don't be timid and taciturn.

Twelve, exercise the courage and willpower to deal with all kinds of setbacks. Self-confidence is the wing of a boy's growth and success. Boys should stand all kinds of blows. Good psychological endurance and strong willpower are the basis of building self-confidence. The father is not only a male role model for the boy, but also gives him encouragement, support and fatherly love when time and space are in place. Boys who lack fatherly love will be "calcium-deficient in personality".

Thirteen, boys should have their own "circle of friends". Interpersonal communication can exercise boys' social adaptability, and it is the only way for boys to mature psychologically by establishing their good public image and credibility through extensive communication with their peers.

Fourteen, cultivate a sense of responsibility and obligation to society and family. Paying attention to and serving the family is the beginning of human socialization; Boys must do housework at home and learn to take care of themselves in order to become useful materials in society.

1, parents should gradually let go, but tell the child that parents will always be by his side and accompany him to make him feel safe.

2, let the baby participate in outdoor and group activities, and let the baby play with girls, which can satisfy their little sense of responsibility.

3. It is suggested to set up excellent male idols for children. This idol can be father, grandfather, grandfather, etc. These men must be allowed to spend more time with their children, especially their fathers.

4. Be considerate of boys' special expressions. Because of the role of testosterone in the body, boys are more likely to get angry than girls and need to vent more. Aggressiveness, adventure and competitiveness are the nature of boys, and boys often like to express their feelings with body language. Parents should guide the boy to ask why, analyze the problem with him, propose solutions to the problem, and cultivate the boy's rational thinking.

5. Set an example for boys. At different stages of life, boys always look for a man around them to be an example to imitate. Here, I especially want to tell all dads not to miss this opportunity. Father's company and education will make boys grow safer. It is found that the role of a boy looking for his father's example in his growth is far more effective than preaching, scolding, punishing, buying and cajoling. Boys tend to pay attention to their father's every move and every tiny difference in his behavior and values. Therefore, the father should set an example in front of the boy and do what he can to help the boy establish a sense of responsibility.