The child was originally excellent, but after saying those words, his grades plummeted and he won't even get 60 points next time. After reading the child's test paper, I was even more depressed. I continued to scold the child for being inferior to other children!
Such parents actually "educate" their children by belittling and hitting them. They use one thing and one thing to completely degrade their children to what they "want" to see. In the end, children will not degenerate like them: they will never be as good as other children!
Why do such parents "educate" their children like this? Don't you want to see your children excellent? No, they want to see their children become better than anyone else, but their education method is very wrong. Comparing their children with other children for a long time shows that they just want their children to get better, not train them to get better.
Parents don't know how to raise their children, but they always compare their children with other people's children, and compare their children's shortcomings or unsatisfactory times with the advantages or satisfactory times of other people's children. The result must be that they are not as good as other children. In fact, this is the hidden inferiority complex of parents.
Parents with implicit inferiority complex don't seem to feel inferior, even self-righteous, but in fact, they feel inferior inside. They know in their hearts that they are inferior to others. If their children are inferior to others, they will feel more inferior, which is the last thing they can stand. They hide their inferiority in front of their children and others, and even say how good they used to be in front of their children, which is very self-righteous. In fact, they just don't want their children to see that they are not as good as other people's parents, for fear of losing face in front of their children!
They really want their children to be better, and they want their children to be better than others' children, so as to win back their face. But they can't educate, and they are not good themselves. What educational methods can they find to train their children at one time?
It is their inferiority complex that makes them eager for quick success and instant benefit. They won't get to know their children, and they don't know what's good or strong about their children. They all see shortcomings from children, even if the children are fine! Because of inferiority, they know that they are inferior to others, and children are certainly inferior. In their minds, it is always how good other people's children are, so they have the deformed "education" to belittle and attack their own children. Seeing that other people's children are so good, they compare their children with other people's children and want their children to be as good as other people's children.
But they know that such "education" has hit children's self-confidence, made them lose face, and made them really feel that they are useless, not as good as other children!
Because of his hidden inferiority complex, he degraded his children into children with inferiority complex. Children used to be excellent, but after being often belittled and hit, their Excellence and strengths may never see the light of day!
There is nothing wrong with parents wanting their children to be excellent. The mistake is that they will not be educated and will only be whimsical. Is it possible to think about making your children excellent by beating and cursing? If it is so easy to educate children only by scolding, belittling, attacking, criticizing, etc., then others will not have to train children so hard. Why bother?
As parents, we must know how to educate our children correctly, especially the younger generation of men and women. We must study harder. If we want our children to be excellent, we must be excellent, so as not to let our inner inferiority hurt the next generation.
Adults have both advantages and disadvantages, not to mention children. Excellent people can see their good side in children, while bad people can only see their bad side in children.
If you study more and become better, you will know more about your children, discover their advantages and strengths, teach them in accordance with their aptitude, and guide them correctly. Naturally, you won't compare your own children with other people's children, let alone belittle and attack your own children.