In fact, children who don't like learning often can't find the pleasure of learning. They think learning is hard work. In learning, it is not difficult to find a phenomenon: the better children learn, the more they love learning, and the worse children learn, the more they hate learning.
How can parents change this situation and make their children fall in love with learning?
1, let children know the purpose of learning. Chen Meiling, the author of "50 Laws of Education, I Send Three Sons to Stanford", recalls that before the children go to school, she will try her best to let the little ones know the purpose of learning, why they should go to school and why they should study hard.
"Tell me, why do you want to go to school?" All her three children are of school age, and she has asked this question one by one.
At first, the children couldn't answer, and Chen Meiling didn't force them to answer at once. Let the children doubt this first, and then find a suitable time to discuss the problem with them seriously.
Chen Meiling felt:
If children can fully understand the meaning of going to school, even if they are young, they can go to school with great ambitions, so parents don't have to worry about whether their children will be tired of learning.
One of her eldest sons has a wish to be a cook when he grows up, so Chen Meiling suits the remedy to the case and says:
If you are a chef, you have to settle accounts when you buy things. You must be able to read and weigh in order not to make mistakes on the menu! If you go to school, you can learn all this. Isn't it great?
One thing to remember: parents should never talk about negative reasons such as "everyone has to go to school, and if you don't study, you will become an idiot". It should not be the reason why your child must go to school.
Learning is a very positive thing. Being lucky to go to school is a reward of life. We must understand this and understand the purpose of learning, which is the premise for children to fall in love with learning.
2. Grasp habits and improve children's interest in learning. Educational psychology research shows that:
Primary school is the most critical period to cultivate children's learning ability, so we must cultivate children purposefully.
The ancients said, "Practice becomes habit, habit becomes nature, and nature becomes life." People who are used to it will have a good fate. Primary school is a critical period for habit formation. Only by developing good study habits will children like learning more and more.
Compare the following and see how many children you have.
1. Do your homework on time after school. 2. When studying, turn off the TV and the Internet, and there are no distractions. 3. Finish your homework and check it carefully. I will tidy up my schoolbag before going to bed. 5. Ask the teacher questions if you don't understand at school. 6. Raise your hand actively when answering questions in class. 7. Take notes in class. 8. Actively preview new lessons. 9. study in a planned way. 10, often misread the problem book and test paper. 1 1. Write clearly and neatly under any circumstances. 12, love reading. Children's self-control ability is not strong, especially children who have just started school, and their ability to learn independently has not yet been established. If children do not get good grades at first, it is difficult to feel the fun of learning. In this case, if parents let them neglect their children's study, it is difficult for them to form good study habits. In this way, the responsibility of parents is great.
The sooner you establish good study habits, the more conducive it is for children to fall in love with learning.
Parents should create a learning atmosphere for their children at home. There should be a special place for children to study at home. There should be nothing unrelated to study on the desk where they read and write. When children study, there should be no interference from TV, telephone and other sounds.
Parents also try not to go in and out when their children are studying, and don't disturb their children at will.
Parents should accompany their children to do their homework, so don't stare at them all the time. Children can't point out their mistakes at once.
Learning itself is very boring. If parents always nag and blame, it is difficult for children to study happily, let alone fall in love with learning. In order to make children fall in love with learning and improve their academic performance, parents must pay attention to methods when accompanying their children to study.
For example:
When children do their homework, we can read a book beside them and say to them, "When you write these two lines, I want to finish reading this page. Don't write too fast, or mother won't catch up with you. " It's easy to stimulate children's competitiveness. If he wants to surpass you, he will do it silently.
After writing homework with your child for a few days, you still remember to thank him sincerely and say to him, "My mother has finished reading this book while studying with you. If I follow this trend and accompany you to write homework for a few years, my mother will definitely make a lot of progress like you. "
Creating a good learning atmosphere is a necessary guarantee for children to love learning.
4, just the right praise and reward, so that children love learning more. First, praise should be to the point.
For example, if you find that your child is doing the problem quickly, your mother should not praise "Baby, you are great". In fact, you can say, "Wow, so fast! Mom noticed that you were particularly attentive when you were studying just now, and sure enough, the topic was done quickly. " In this way, children will understand that the advantage of concentrating on learning is that "it will be faster to do problems."
If you see him reciting difficult texts, you should say, "Son, you have worked hard. You have recited all the difficult texts. " Next time, he will know that no matter how difficult the task is, he can finish it as long as he persists.
Second, material rewards should pay attention to methods.
For example, parents can't say "You did well in the exam, and mom took you to a big dinner". Doing well in the exam has nothing to do with eating the big meal itself, but saying, "mom has been studying hard before you saw the exam, and she really got good grades this time!" You are very tired from studying these days. I'll take you to a big meal and reward yourself for your hard work. "
In this way, children will understand that the behavior of "study hard and review carefully" is useful and can achieve good results. This is an inherent benefit. Eating a big meal is an encouragement to study hard. Its function is only to strengthen the sense of joy and accomplishment, and it will also make children feel that you care about him, not just his achievements.
Proper praise and reward will make children feel a sense of achievement in learning and make them like learning more.
5. When learning difficulties, first recognize the child's fear of difficulties, and then accompany the child to find a solution. When children encounter problems that they can't do, parents like to say, "This problem is not difficult and simple." This practice is wrong.
There is a word in psychology called "same-frequency resonance", that is, a child's inner feelings can only resonate if they are recognized by their parents, and then he will listen to what their parents say.
Therefore, when children encounter difficulties in their studies, we must first identify with their fear of difficulties, and then work together to find a solution.
For example, a child's learning efficiency is low, how to help the child solve this problem?
If it were me, I would search online first to see if there is a great god to share this experience. If you search enough information, you will find a book mentioned many times-How to Learn Effectively. I have read this book, and its views are very pertinent.
All in all, parents should pay attention to the problems encountered in their children's learning and clear the way for their children to fall in love with learning.
As long as parents make their children fall in love with learning in the key period of primary school, they will benefit for life.