"China's children are not lost at the starting line, but exhausted at the starting line."

Professor Zheng Qiang, a Changjiang scholar from the Ministry of Education, said this in an interview with An Interview with Yang Lan, which shocked many parents.

At present, many parents are caught in the whirlpool of "involution" and "chicken baby" and try their best to cheer up their children, hoping that their children will win at the starting line.

They give children a lot of learning tasks and squeeze their little play time. Once your grades drop, you will feel like an enemy and anxious.

As everyone knows, this practice has drained children's love for learning and overdrawn their desire for science.

When children enter universities and lose supervision, they will indulge their emotions and spirits, and there will be many problems that they can't keep up with their studies and the environment can't adapt.

Professor Zheng Qiang reminded that children's future is a long runway, not determined by the first few steps, but it is more important to run for a long time than to start in a hurry.

So, from what aspects should parents train their children so that they can win in the future?

Bai is a person who likes reading very much.

Growing up, he was obsessed with all kinds of books, whether adult books, children's books or many strange books, and he read them with relish.

Enlightened mother never stopped her, but gave Bai two reading cards so that he could borrow books.

Bai said that those books planted many "seeds" in his life that could take root, sprout, blossom and bear fruit, and let him grow constantly.

A "Xinhua Dictionary" made him enter the vast China culture, thus becoming a real China person in the cultural sense.

An "Selected Poems" made him enter the colorful world of poetry, thus becoming a China person who dares to think and take responsibility.

A copy of Zeng Guofan made him realize the most complicated human nature, so that he could talk with Kan Kan and Kan Kan when he was in charge of the Eastern Time and Space.

White said to:

"Be confident, rational, peaceful and optimistic. There is no other way and no shortcut except reading."

Under the influence of Bai, my son also likes reading very much. From reading extensively to studying history, he has gradually defined his development direction.

Reading is not only to open a window and lead us to see the bigger world, but also to open many doors for us to talk with ancient and modern sages and improve our thinking and pattern.

I want to ask, there are two children, one is playing games with his mobile phone all day, and the other is reading quietly every day. What will their future be like?

I think everyone may agree that children who love reading have a richer life.

Children raised by books have mountains and valleys in their hearts and mountains and water in their eyes. Their lives will certainly become more and more open.

As the greatest scientist and physicist in the 20th century, Einstein said:

"I am not a genius. The reason why I can make a little contribution is because I have always maintained a strong curiosity about the world. "

At the age of 4, Einstein didn't like chatting with his peers, and he liked to hide in a quiet place and meditate alone.

Those details that were ignored by others became the object of his observation, which caused "100,000 whys" thinking in his small head.

At the age of five, Einstein was able to build a miniature building out of discarded small pieces of wood. The wood blocks are closely meshed and balanced, which conforms to the principles of geometry and mechanics and looks no different from real buildings.

Once, his father gave Einstein a compass. He found that the magnetic needle always pointed to the north and asked his father the principle behind it.

Father said that the earth was magnetic, which caused the needle to point to the north.

But where is the magnetic force? Obviously invisible and intangible, how does it work?

When his father couldn't answer, Einstein looked for the answer himself and vowed to solve the problem before giving up.

Driven by curiosity, Einstein kept seeking knowledge and exploring, which led to a series of subsequent achievements.

Professor James Mirrlees, winner of the Nobel Prize in Economics, pointed out:

"For teenagers, keeping an exploratory and curious heart is very beneficial to success."

Parents should guide their children to try more, allow them to make mistakes, be kind to every question raised by their children and encourage them to find answers, which can stimulate their curiosity.

Curiosity can't guarantee how fast children walk, but it can certainly guide them to go further.

A curious child can observe subtle changes, take the initiative to solve problems, and always keep his eyes open and energetic.

The movie Eddie Eagle tells a tearful story.

Eddie, a boy, is a young man who has dreamed of participating in the Olympic Games since he was a child. Every day, he packed his bags and set off for the game.

In the face of his strange behavior, his parents did not laugh or ridicule, but quietly took him home.

In order to approach his dream, he took the initiative to take part in various exercises, such as running, long jump and weightlifting. ...

Although he broke countless glasses and hurt his knee, he never gave up.

Eddie finally got the qualification for skiing training, and the Winter Olympics seems to be just around the corner. He jumped up with joy.

However, the broken dream came too fast, and he was kicked out of the project team because of high myopia and disability.

Will this experience drag Eddie down? Of course not.

Eddie has a clear goal. If this road doesn't work, find another way-ski jumping.

This sport is extremely dangerous and expensive. After the training, Eddie worked in a bar in a ski resort.

Fortunately, he met the talented platform skier Pierre here. Under the careful guidance of the other side, he successfully participated in the Olympic Games, challenged the 90-meter platform and broke his own record.

Although this achievement didn't win him a medal, Eddie was proud enough to achieve his goal.

The driving force of his dream is his parents' silent love and his strong internal drive.

Psychologist Betty said a passage:

Parents really love their children, not by putting expectations and anxiety on them, but by guiding them to find their own love and goals.

When children have no goal to move forward and no motivation to move forward, they will swing from side to side and become negative and depressed.

When children have their own direction, they will not feel confused, but will work hard a little bit to achieve their dreams more easily.

I often hear some parents say that today's children are too fragile and give up when they encounter a little setback.

If you are criticized by your parents, you will not do your homework or even run away from home;

If you don't become a student cadre, you won't go to school and break up with your classmates;

If an exam is not ideal, you will be discouraged, as if the end of the world is coming. ...

Behind this is the lack of adversity quotient strength.

Paul Stotz, an American management scholar, pointed out that adversity quotient, also known as "frustration quotient" or "adversity quotient", refers to people's response to adversity, that is, their ability to face setbacks, get rid of difficulties and surmount difficulties.

High-energy children in adversity quotient can often laugh at setbacks, not afraid of challenges, and hit bottom in difficulties.

Children with low adversity quotient tend to avoid challenges, and when they encounter difficulties, they become dejected and depressed.

Sue is a child of adversity quotient test.

He just turned 18 this year and won a gold medal and a silver medal at the Beijing Winter Olympics.

People who are familiar with him say that behind Su's success, he made unimaginable efforts.

Because I love skiing and aim to be a world champion, I take part in training whenever I have time, and I never feel hard.

Even though he fell and was injured again and again, he was told by the doctor that "the tibia has been deformed", and he was not discouraged and strengthened his rehabilitation practice.

"I will think very seriously about why I am injured and what kind of actions will lead to injuries ... I have full thinking, so there will be no fear."

This optimistic attitude and indomitable spirit, accompanied by his every training and competition, made him more frustrated and brave and became a world champion.

A writer once said such a passage, which is worth pondering by all parents.

"We tried our best to learn how to successfully sprint 100 meters, but no one taught us:

Fell down, how can you fall down with dignity?

How to clean and bandage when the knee bleeds;

When you are in pain, what kind of expression do you use to face others?

When you fall headlong, how to treat the bleeding and pain in your heart and how to get inner peace;

Be careful, it's broken like glass. How to clean it up? "

Compared with urging children to get good grades, it is more necessary to give them proper frustration education and cultivate their adversity quotient strength.

When a child has a strong body and a strong heart, he can always be full of hope, fearless of wind and rain, and make steady progress towards his goal.

Every child's life is running towards the sea of stars, eager to live a wonderful life.

Parents can give their children the best love, which is to add some temperature and strength to their children's growth path and help them resist the wind and waves and move forward bravely.

The accumulation of reading makes children more knowledgeable; Stimulate curiosity and let children explore bravely;

The ignition of internal drive makes children more persistent; The cultivation of adversity quotient strength makes children fearless of wind and rain.

Click [Watch] and hope that all children can have a bright and colorful future with sunshine in their hearts and strength in their hands.

Author | Xu, WeChat official account: Fantasy Xu (ID: ID: xvxiaoao2018)

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