More communication is the way you want to educate your children. You can talk to your wife and reach an educational agreement on something. Only in this way will children be willing to accept it.
Consult more, how to educate this matter is better, and we need to negotiate to see whose method is better. We use this method to help children, and it is a good method to educate children well.
Consult more information, and in case of dispute, you can choose a more suitable method with the help of reference books.