Parents should pay attention to timeliness, diversity and moderation when using encouragement, otherwise the expected effect will not be achieved. Encouraging timeliness means giving affirmation and appreciation immediately when children make progress. Encouraging diversity refers to expressing parents' affirmation of children's behavior in various forms such as eyes, language and material, and encouraging moderation refers to accurately grasping the scale of praise and seeking truth from facts.

Encouragement is to give full play to children's main role in family education and achieve the purpose of education by appreciating children's behavior. Parents' usually approving eyes and encouraging words may change a child's life, especially for enhancing his self-confidence.

Equal communication with children means that parents and children exchange views and opinions, seek consensus, eliminate barriers and seek agreement. With the enrichment of children's knowledge and the enhancement of their understanding ability, communication methods become more and more important. In the process of communicating with children, parents must pay attention to two-way communication, equal communication and communication opportunities.

Two-way communication is to prevent unilateral preaching, to understand from the child's point of view, to allow children to express their views, to respond clearly when agreeing with their views, and to remember that communication is mutual. Equal communication is to communicate by reasoning rather than reprimanding, to completely change your role, to be your child's bosom friend, and to learn from your child with an open mind. Grasping the communication opportunity is the key to the communication effect. Generally speaking, it is advisable to communicate when children are particularly happy or make mistakes.

Don't put too much pressure on children. Every parent wants their children to grow up to be useful to society, so it is inevitable to be strict with their children. I hope they can get good grades in life and study. However, such strict requirements will make children breathless. Under high pressure, children will become more and more negative and their academic performance will get worse and worse. It is good for children to have some pressure in their studies, but parents must understand the scale of pressure. If the pressure is too great, it will only make children more and more negative and inferior.