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In an interview program, Degang Guo recalled his family education.

Degang Guo's father is a policeman and his mother is a teacher. He grew up with a very strict family education. Now, Degang Guo never dares to cross his legs in front of his father. He always calls himself "you".

For the education of his son Guo Qilin, Degang Guo also continued the consistent family style.

He said he was hard on children. When Guo Qilin was young, many of his disciples came to live in his home. He insisted that all delicious food should be eaten by outsiders first, and then he asked Guo Qilin to "eat" after all the outsiders had finished eating.

Now that Guo Qilin has grown up, he will ask at home, "Can I eat this?"

Degang Guo said that all parents in the world don't care about their children, but you are the father's pet, and those people outside are not all his biological fathers. You've scolded him enough, and no one will scold him when he goes out. Do you think it is better for you to scold him or for outsiders to scold him?

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This may not be easy to understand at first glance: why do parents scold their children enough at home, and then no one scolds them outside?

When I think about it carefully, I understand that "enough scolding" means setting rules for children from an early age and educating them well so that they will not make mistakes outside, and of course they will not be scolded again.

Children are spoiled by their parents at home, but in society, others are not your parents and will not spoil you any more.

A good education at home is better than spoiling it at home and suffering outside.

The best way for parents to love their children is not to prevent them from being beaten and scolded, but to teach them to learn to be human and never be beaten and scolded in society.

Degang Guo's "scolding" refers to strict management and punishment of children's mistakes.

Although the words are a little rough, the truth is not rough, which is worth learning from every parent.

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Some parents are always too proud of their children and have no bottom line tolerance.

At home, children are superior, and they are little emperors who can't be taunted by anyone. They eat the best food first, use the best things first, and even enjoy them alone.

Whatever children need, no matter how difficult their parents are, they will try their best to meet them, begging the stars not to pick the moon.

Children's diet and daily life are all helped by adults, and they don't want to do anything.

Even children have to be coaxed to eat and do their homework.

Even if the child makes a mistake, it doesn't matter to say "he is too young to understand". .

Over time, such children will develop a self-centered character, which is not only difficult to get along with others in society, but also a little wronged and frustrated.

They don't seem to have suffered as children, but they are likely to make up for it more when they grow up.

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In fact, so is our school education.

In recent years, we have been emphasizing appreciation education and nature education, while ignoring rules education and punishment education.

It is certainly good to regard the story of the so-called "three sugars" as an educational anecdote and a good example of education, but it can never be regarded as the standard and template of education.

Because this practice violates the most basic educational principles and social rules.

The reason why this society can function normally is because there is a simple rule: there is a reward for doing well and a punishment for not doing well.

Children should study at home and school and abide by these rules.

How to deal with a student being beaten should be bound by the school rules and regulations, and how to deal with it should be handled, instead of trying to influence him blindly.

To paraphrase Degang Guo, if students are punished enough at school, they will not be punished in society in the future. If you are lawless at school, you may suffer big losses in the future.

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I especially appreciate a sentence: "Education must be painful."

The function of education is to teach children both cultural knowledge and social rules.

Children's growth must be restrained, and they must do something that conforms to this social norm but they are unwilling to do. This is the same all over the world.

The role of family and school is not only to protect children, but also to make children grow into people who conform to social rules.

Parents can spoil you and teachers can spoil you, but in society, no one will spoil you.

Instead of letting children suffer in society in the future, we should be strict with them from now on.

Scold them now, just to avoid being scolded in the future; Punish them now, just let them not be punished in the future.

Degang Guo said well, "You can manage him well, and you will know the benefits when you are older." . Children may not understand when they are young, but they will understand when they grow up.

Really, families and schools attach importance to children's regular education and are strict with their children. In fact, they are responsible for their future.