Remember those two dads in Shanghai who made an appointment at the school gate? Because of the children, two fathers made an appointment at the school gate, and eventually one went to the hospital and the other to the public security bureau. And sometimes things between children need to be solved by themselves. Parents don't like their children being bullied and want to help them. Can you help for a while or for life?

When parents intervene, the contradiction between two children can easily become the contradiction between two families. Indirectly, the two children can no longer be friends. In fact, if he wants to be friends with each other, he has to take care of his parents' face. So the consequences are more serious.

"Intervention" should be clearly defined, not "helping children fight"; Whether to intervene depends on the situation. In some cases, we can observe first. For example, when there are few people, you can see that the two sides are evenly matched, and you can observe what the children are doing. For boys, if there is no fierce confrontation, it is unfavorable for character development. It doesn't matter if the child suffers a little loss. What they are afraid of is that children avoid or are afraid of conflict. Such a child can easily become a soft persimmon in the eyes of other children, and then become a victim of school bullying. At this time, it is impossible not to intervene.

Many parents don't understand the meaning of their baby's slapstick, and they are always worried about being beaten or beaten by other children, trying to stop it.

In fact, fighting is actually a way of communication between children. Parents stop them, which is similar to doing bad things with good intentions and ruining the communication between children. Therefore, children just fight, and parents don't have to care.

Only by teaching children how to pay attention to safety, how to protect themselves, how to tolerate classmates, how to get along with classmates, and have experienced some things, can children who can handle it well really mature. Many children grow up under the protection of their parents and eventually become immature children, which will affect their future work and life.

I think the correct way of education is not to prevent children from fighting, but to prevent children from taking the initiative to fight, but to dare to fight back when they are bullied and beaten, so it is good even if they lose. The same is true between parents.