Up to now, my life has been very dull. For example, my senior three math teacher once asked me which class I was in, but she didn't remember me for half a year. What impressed me may be the words that the class teacher encouraged me before the college entrance examination. In fact, regardless of primary school, junior high school and senior high school, my sense of existence in the class is very low, because my academic performance is not top-notch, and I am not a particularly smart student. In terms of study, my parents only care about grades, so I just study casually. In terms of interpersonal communication, I am not too outgoing. I think having three or five friends is enough. So I have been mixing, studying and living, and now it is like this, high or low, ordinary, very ordinary.
I also reflect from time to time, and then I find that what I lack is a kind of motivation. I don't have the courage to be the best, or I am not competitive, so I am either the worst or my goal. Then gradually become ordinary in the ordinary again and again.
In other words, I believe that it is motivation, a steady stream of motivation, that determines a child's life. This motivation can be curiosity in interest, lofty ideals in life, strong competitive spirit, or direct temptation from parents. In short, when you are moved, the road will show.
As far as I can think, the simplest source of motivation for children is role model, ideal for teenagers and pressure for adults.
Where the heart points, the road goes. The road is at your feet, and the road is in your heart. Touched, the road is there.
Coming from the countryside, I feel the deepest about this matter. I lived an innocent and uncontroversial life when I was a child. Parents don't know how to educate us, but tell us not to study badly and study hard. I am an honest and introverted person. Fortunately, playing with a group of naughty classmates didn't assimilate me. I still keep my learning mentality and study hard. Although it is ok to compare with others, I didn't know until I came out to work that it is not only hard work, but also confidence, vision and pattern that determines children. Because I have observed that people from our village will not fight for it, lack self-confidence and even lack pattern. If they have a little success, they will be content with the status quo and will not have a long-term vision. They will save money to build a house for their families, or save money for a wife. It's no use building a house in the end, and their wives will not get married. For example, after work is an entertainment life. They won't improve their skills, they won't get a raise with all kinds of certificates, and they dare not ask their leaders for a raise. Parents who have trained children with long-term vision ask them to scrimp and save their monthly salary and try to improve themselves. As a result, the students who came out together went farther and farther than themselves, feeling still standing still. Therefore, when children are young, parents should educate their children to fight for what they should fight for, have a big pattern and have a long-term vision for the future. Only when such children grow up can they achieve something.
From my own point of view, I can take my own unsuccessful or even failed cases to talk about the fundamentals that determine a child's life.
Up to now, my life has been very dull. For example, my senior three math teacher once asked me which class I was in, but she didn't remember me for half a year. What impressed me may be the words that the class teacher encouraged me before the college entrance examination. In fact, regardless of primary school, junior high school and senior high school, my sense of existence in the class is very low, because my academic performance is not top-notch, and I am not a particularly smart student. In terms of study, my parents only care about grades, so I just study casually. In terms of interpersonal communication, I am not too outgoing. I think having three or five friends is enough. So I have been mixing, studying and living, and now it is like this, high or low, ordinary, very ordinary.
I also reflect from time to time, and then I find that what I lack is a kind of motivation. I don't have the courage to be the best, or I am not competitive, so I am either the worst or my goal. Then gradually become ordinary in the ordinary again and again.
In other words, I believe that it is motivation, a steady stream of motivation, that determines a child's life. This motivation can be curiosity in interest, lofty ideals in life, strong competitive spirit, or direct temptation from parents. In short, when you are moved, the road will show.
As far as I can think, the simplest source of motivation for children is role model, ideal for teenagers and pressure for adults.
Where the heart points, the road goes. The road is at your feet, and the road is in your heart. Touched, the road is there.
What determines a child's life is personality cultivation.
When we educate children, we can't just focus on academic performance. Although it is very important, what is more important than performance is the cultivation of children's personality. When a child is young, we should let him (her) know the manners and cultivate his (her) mind. After this kind of enlightenment education, the child's mind and intelligence will soon open up, because he (she) sees things that are true, kind and beautiful through the cultivation and practice of etiquette, such as smiling, praising and appreciating. Under such edification, children will subtly form kindness, honesty and appreciation.
When children grow up, the importance of personality cultivation will become more and more important. He will treat everyone kindly and friendly, and there is no impurity in his (her) heart. It is as pure as a newly blooming rose, and many people will appreciate and care for it doubly. He (she) grew up under the nourishment of healthy, happy and pure sunshine and rain, so his (her) life must be brilliant and meaningful.
Of course, from the perspective of cultivating a child's comprehensive quality, it is also necessary to improve his or her comprehensive quality through exercise, such as physical quality, cultural quality, ability to adapt to society, and ability to treat people and things. But if you have a noble and sound personality, you will find that he (she) is not particularly bad in these aspects, because they are internally related and complement each other.
Only when parents' educational ideas change can our children receive a good family education and benefit for life.
Let's look at eight key educational instructions for parents.
The first key: how to make children establish an optimistic attitude.
1. Accepting reality is the first step towards optimism.
2. Cultivate an optimistic personality and let children face the misfortunes in life calmly.
3. Let the children keep a normal heart.
If children spend a lot of energy on anxiety, they can't play their innate ability.
5. Humor seems to be a "small skill", but it is actually a "big skill".
The second key: let children learn to be grateful and know how to be tolerant.
1, being narrow-minded will only make children suffer for life.
2. With love, you have the motivation to seek knowledge and beauty.
3, pranks will "get into trouble" and guide children to correct in time.
4. Eliminate the cruelty of children in time.
5, know how to be grateful, will grow.
The third key: cultivate children's courage to face setbacks.
1, the child is fragile, teach him to face up to failure.
2. Cultivating children's willpower can't be ignored.
It is difficult for children unfamiliar with setbacks to integrate into society.
4. Replace inferiority with self-confidence.
5, always blame the child's failure, the child will become "incompetent."
6. Praise your child, but don't overdo it.
The fourth key: teach children to protect themselves.
1, teach children some safety knowledge and deal with injuries calmly.
Children who depend on their parents will inevitably degenerate.
3, children lack the ability to live and are in danger of being swallowed up by life at any time.
4. Overprotection equals "injury".
5. Improve the child's "immunity" and face the temptation calmly.
The fifth key: let children dare to dream.
1, have a dream to create.
2, don't reprimand the child's "dream talk."
3. When a child has a dream, urge him to take a step towards it.
Rejecting the "why" asked by the child is equivalent to cutting off the wings of his thinking.
5. Be kind to children's interests.
6. Creative children often have a Mercedes-Benz mind.
The sixth key: cultivate children's good communication skills.
1, children who know social etiquette can have good popularity.
2, children are good at talking, which can best attract the interest and attention of others.
3. Respecting others means respecting yourself.
If the child dares to admit his mistake, the mistake has been changed by half.
5. Cooperation ability is more important than knowledge.
6. Children who know how to listen have personality charm.
The seventh key: teach children to use money reasonably.
1. The sooner children get in touch with and learn to use pocket money, the easier it is for them to earn money when they grow up.
2. Properly handle the children's lucky money.
3. Develop the habit of saving so that children can benefit for life.
It is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish.
5. Correct children's psychology of blindly comparing.
The eighth key: help children know themselves correctly.
1, encourage children to communicate with others actively and eliminate their loneliness.
2, long-term shyness, children are prone to inferiority complex.
3, learn to appreciate others, will appreciate yourself.
4. Let children discover their own advantages every day.
5. Knowing that "giving up" will "get".
Decide whether the child is a teacher or a parent. The teacher you meet will increase your interest in learning. I will also study hard with my mind. When I meet my parents, I will only ask my children if they have the capital for future success because of tuition and books. A special girl asked her to earn her dowry.
The key to a child's growth is a teacher and meeting a good teacher. It will eliminate difficulties for children, solve problems in learning, guide children and remove obstacles. When you meet a bad teacher, not only your childish mind is destroyed, but the shadow of your life is also interfering with your life.
Good parents are the first element of success. A good family learning environment will create conditions for children's success. On the contrary, a good seedling will become a stick, so teachers are more important than parents.
Mr. Cai Yuanpei said in the book "The Cultivation of China People": It is not the academic performance that determines a child's life, but the sound personality cultivation!
Children's education from childhood affects their future development path. Children's education should be tied up with their parents, so what is positive family education? Let's look at eight key educational instructions for parents.
As a modern parent, do you know how to educate modern children? Many parents think that family education is to develop children's intelligence, that is, to let children recite Tang poems from the age of two or three and learn English at the age of four or five. After going to school, you must have tutors and remedial classes, and your grades must be among the best. You must go to a famous university in the future. It seems that only in this way can parents' education succeed and children become talents. Practice has proved that this is a great misunderstanding of family education and a bad consequence of continuing education in family education. The most important task of family education should be to build a great wall of children's personality.
Imagine if a child lacks knowledge of life (he will have suicidal thoughts when encountering setbacks), has no ability to dream (he doesn't know what he wants to do in the future), doesn't know how to protect himself (he is still abducted by farmers after becoming a doctoral student) and can't share with others (he is rich but unhappy). So, what can he do even if he is the first in all subjects?
What needs to be changed most today is parents, not their educational concept. So, what should the correct family education be like? Children should be helped to build a good life platform, so that they can have a good personality, know how to be a man and know the true meaning of success. This is the parents.
Only when parents' educational ideas change can our children receive a good family education and benefit for life.
The first key is how to make children establish an optimistic attitude.
1. Accepting reality is the first step towards optimism.
2. Cultivate an optimistic personality and let children face the misfortunes in life calmly.
3. Let the children keep a normal heart.
If children spend a lot of energy on anxiety, they can't play their innate ability.
Humor seems to be a "trick", but it is actually a "stunt"
The second key is to let children learn to be grateful and tolerant.
1, being narrow-minded will only make children suffer for life.
2. With love, you have the motivation to seek knowledge and beauty.
3, pranks will "get into trouble" and guide children to correct in time.
4. Eliminate the cruelty of children in time.
5, know how to be grateful, will grow.
The third key is to cultivate children's courage to face setbacks.
1, the child is fragile, teach him to face up to failure.
2. Cultivating children's willpower can't be ignored.
It is difficult for children unfamiliar with setbacks to integrate into society.
4. Replace inferiority with self-confidence.
Always blame the child for his failure, and the child will become "incompetent".
6. Praise your child, but don't overdo it.
The fourth key is to teach children to protect themselves.
1, teach children some safety knowledge and deal with injuries calmly.
Children who depend on their parents will inevitably degenerate.
Children are in danger of being swallowed up by life at any time because of their lack of social skills.
4. Overprotection is equal to "injury"
5. Improve the child's "immunity" and face the temptation calmly.
The fifth key is to let children dare to dream.
1, have a dream to create.
2, don't reprimand the child's "dream talk"
3. When a child has a dream, urge him to take a step towards it.
Rejecting the "why" asked by the child is equivalent to cutting off the wings of his thinking.
5. Be kind to children's interests
6. Creative children often have a Mercedes-Benz mind.
The sixth key is to cultivate children's good communication skills.
1, only children who know social etiquette can have good relationships.
2, children are good at talking, which can best attract the interest and attention of others.
3. Respecting others means respecting yourself.
If the child dares to admit his mistake, the mistake has been changed by half.
5. Cooperation ability is more important than knowledge.
6. Children who know how to listen have personality charm.
The seventh key is to teach children to use money reasonably.
The sooner children learn to use pocket money, the easier it is for them to earn money when they grow up.
3. Properly handle children's lucky money.
4. Develop the habit of saving so that children can benefit for life.
It is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish.
6. Correct children's psychology of blindly comparing.
The eighth key is to help children know themselves correctly.
1, encourage children to communicate with others actively and eliminate their loneliness.
2. Long-term shyness makes children prone to inferiority complex.
3, learn to appreciate others, will appreciate yourself.
4. Let children discover one of their own advantages every day.
Only by knowing how to "give up" can you gain something.
This is a big problem.
It is often the seeds sown at the beginning of life that determine a child's life. No pains, no gains. Look at the age of 3, and look at the age of 7. This is a fact.
Virtue precedes wisdom, and character must be the primary requirement for children's growth. Many parents' kindness to their children may be manifested in their polite address to people and their respect for their elders. As long as the method is proper, parents can set an example by themselves, and they will certainly give their children a brand demonstration, so that they can take the first step in life and move towards the right path.
I once saw a report that a father took his son through a car on the side of the road and saw that the window was not closed. Dad stole two bags and 2300 yuan in front of the children, and was finally caught. Do you think this demonstration effect is to make the next generation look like him?
Today's children are so fragile that they are shocking. What makes children so stressed?
Among them, there are both the characteristics of the times and the influence of family factors. Compared with our parents' generation, children nowadays are really too comfortable and comfortable.
Therefore, consciously letting children face failure and rise bravely in failure is to lay a good vaccine for their future and protect themselves.
A child must have a clear and correct understanding of himself. A child with a high sense of self-worth will not give up his life easily. He will know that he is so precious that he can't waste time.
Children with self-esteem often have self-confidence, and the combination of the two will make children full of vitality and sunshine.
Putting this at the end doesn't mean it's unimportant, but because we always think that we all put this in the most important position. I don't think so. With the above three points, children often get smart minds and dexterous hands.
The way to achieve it is not difficult, as long as parents do a good job of guidance, such as giving children more opportunities to try and explore, giving children more room to grow up and seeing the positive side of their children.
That's true. It's hard for children to be smart or not!
There are many factors that determine a child's life. I just want to talk about my opinion.
First of all, be enterprising. Only by being proactive can we have the energy and passion to struggle, and our life will not be stagnant. Einstein once said: "I have never regarded ease and happiness as the purpose of life itself-this ethical basis, I call it the ideal of pigsty." Only by making continuous progress will your life be more exciting.
Secondly, we should have a normal mind. One's life can't be smooth sailing. If they encounter setbacks and are muddy, they should face them with a smile and have a peaceful mind, so that there will be much less trouble. If you care less, you will be happier. Try your best to do one thing well and don't over-calculate what gains and losses are. No matter whether it is failure or success, we should treat it with normality, and we should not be complacent in failure or arrogant in victory.
Again, we must always be childlike. If a person loses childlike innocence in life, there is nothing interesting. Happiness lies in childlike innocence. Those happiness comes from your pure love for life and your obsession with nature. The dew in the grass is shining, the stars in the sky are hidden in mystery, and the windmill on the mountain is singing ... only childlike innocence exists, so why worry about happiness?
Life is too short to make children less utilitarian and less worldly. In the process of striving for progress, children should not only reap the joy of success, but also have ordinary happiness and cherish the interest of life.