As a form of education, family education has appeared since the emergence of family in human society. This kind of education, together with school education and social education, constitutes all the education accepted by human beings. Because family education is carried out among family members, it determines its initial, lasting and intimate teacher-student relationship. Naturally, family education has a great influence on people. Throughout history, we can see that good family education benefits people for life, while bad family education naturally delays people's life. 1 A school teacher pays less attention to many students than two or even many people at home pay attention to one student! School education is the education of scientific and cultural quality! And family is the education of life officer's values! Both are more important than the latter! Because there is no correct outlook on life, world outlook and values, no amount of scientific and cultural quality can benefit the society! Instead, it will harm society! For example, terrorists can make missiles and have knowledge but are harmful to society. 3. There are consequences that family education does not pay attention to: students' grades fluctuate greatly; Tension with classmates; Easy to go to extremes. Cause eccentricity! You should imagine what your opponents will say: they may emphasize the perfect education in schools and put on a mask! To give you an example, isn't the school going to hold a parent-teacher conference at a certain time? This shows that family education is also very important and an indispensable part of school education! At the just-concluded two sessions, the state attached importance to students' EQ education, which is cultivated by family education! Family is the window to cultivate students' minds, and school is the place to cultivate scientific and cultural knowledge. Imagine that you have a lot of scientific and cultural knowledge, but you can't play it out because of mental problems. The big exam is easy to fail and will not succeed! That's all, the most important thing is to seize the loophole of the other party's speech! The importance of family education has been concerned by people since ancient times, but it is only in recent years that it is studied as a subject in China. This is the development of the times, the demand for talents and the improvement of the overall quality of the people. This paper discusses the importance of family education to parents, aiming at making the family, society and education departments jointly undertake the task of educating the next generation. Human education is a systematic educational project, which includes family education, social education and collective education (kindergartens and schools), which are interrelated, organically combined, mutually influenced, interacted and restricted. It is impossible to leave any of these educational projects, but in this systematic project, family education is the foundation of all education. Suhomlinski, a famous educator in the former Soviet Union, once compared a child to a marble. He said that it takes six sculptors to shape this marble into a statue: 1 family; 2 schools; 3. The collective to which the child belongs; 4 children themselves; 5 books; 6 accidental factors. Judging from the arrangement order, the family ranks first, which shows that the family plays an important role in shaping children and occupies a considerable position in the minds of educators. So it is necessary for parents to understand the importance of family education. First, family education is the starting point and basic point of educating people. Family education generally refers to the process in which parents and their adults educate their minor children. Its educational goal should be: to ensure the healthy development of children's body and mind before entering the society to receive collective education (kindergarten and school education), and to lay a good foundation for receiving kindergarten and school education. After children enter the park, they cooperate with kindergartens and schools to make them develop morally, intellectually, physically, aesthetically and laboriously. The focus of education is to pay attention to moral education, cultivate children's good moral quality and develop good behavior habits, including living habits, work habits and study habits. And teach children how to learn to be human. Compared with kindergarten, school education and social education, family education has the following characteristics, which make family education the starting point and basic point of educating people and have advantages that other education does not have. (1) Family education Early sexual family is the cradle of children's life, the first place for people to receive education after birth, that is, the first classroom in life; Parents are the children's first teachers, that is, the first teachers. Therefore, parents' education for their children is the earliest. Generally speaking, after three years of development, children enter early childhood, from 3 to 6 years old is preschool, which is often called early education stage, which is an important period for people's physical and mental development. There is an old saying in China: "If you dye the sky, it will be pale, and if you dye it yellow, it will be yellow." Childhood is the beginning of life edification, and many basic abilities of people are formed at this age, such as language expression, basic movements and certain living habits, and personality is gradually formed. American psychologist Bloom believes that if a person's intelligence development is 100% at the age of 17, it will reach 50% at the age of 4. 4-8 years old increased by 30%, and 8- 17 years old increased by 20%. It can be seen that children's intellectual development is the fastest before the age of 5, and it is also the best period for early intellectual development. If parents carry out good family education during this period, it will be the key to children's early intellectual development. Throughout the ages, many people with lofty ideals and effective celebrities have received good family education in their childhood, which is an important reason for their success in the future. For example, Goethe, a great German poet and playwright, succeeded because of his early family education. When Goethe was 2-3 years old, his father took him to the countryside for an outing to observe nature and cultivate Goethe's observation ability. At the age of 3-4, his father taught him to sing, recite ballads and tell fairy tales, and specially asked him to give a speech in front of everyone to cultivate his oral English. These conscious education made Goethe optimistic, willing to think and good at learning. Goethe was able to read books in French, German, English, Italian, Latin and Greek at the age of 8, wrote plays at the age of 65,438+04, and wrote a well-known European poem "The Trouble of Young Werther" at the age of 25. For example, Wang Xizhi and Wang Xianzhi, the famous "father and son calligraphers" in ancient times, Edison, a great inventor with more than 1350 inventions, Guo Moruo, a literary superstar, Mao Dun and other celebrities. The growth process shows that family education is very important for early intellectual development. On the contrary, in many cases, the normal development of intelligence is affected by people's lack of good family education in childhood. For example, kamala, an Indian "wolf child", was captured by wolves at the age of 8, but his life habits were different from those of people. His living habits are similar to those of wolves, crawling on all fours, eating raw meat and walking at night. Later, after manual training, he was able to stand after two years, walk like a human after six years, and learned six words in four years. 65,438+07 years old, with improved intelligence. According to China Women's Daily, a worker surnamed Ma in Nanjing, China, was afraid of persecution of his children because of mental illness. He locked his three children at home from an early age and kept them in contact with the outside world for more than ten years, which made them mentally retarded and slow in speech. Compared with their peers, their intelligence and living ability are far from being idiots. Therefore, the early role of family education can not be ignored. After the child is born, he lives at home for almost 2/3 of the time and is educated by his parents all day. This kind of education is carried out intentionally or unintentionally, planned and unplanned, consciously or unconsciously. No matter how and when education is carried out, it is parents who influence their children with their words and deeds anytime and anywhere. This kind of education is constantly influencing and demonstrating children's living habits, moral conduct and manners. Its subtle function is quite great. As a person lives, it can be said that it is never too old to learn, so some educators call parents lifelong teachers. This kind of lifelong education often reflects the family style of a family. The quality of the family style often lasts for several generations, even ten or dozens of generations, and this family style is often related to the occupations of family members. Such as: Xinglin family, Liyuan family, education family and so on. At the same time, family style reflects the style of study of a family, and the quality of the style of study often lasts for several generations, ten generations and dozens of generations. For example, in modern China, Wuxi Gong Yan supplemented the Selected Works of the Palace Museum in the Qing Dynasty. According to statistics, from the 3rd year of Shunzhi in Qing Dynasty to the 30th year of Guangxu, there were 65,438+065,438+04 top scholars, including fathers, sons, brothers, uncles and nephews, such as Suzhou Miao, Wu, Pan, Changshu Weng, Jiang, Zhejiang and Pan. It can be seen that the continuity of family education often has an important impact on the rise of talent groups. This situation. Ancient and modern times are more prominent. Nowadays, with the development of science, the increase of social demand and unemployment, people choose a wide range of jobs. It is impossible for all members of a family to engage in the same job, but it is not uncommon that some family members have made many achievements and been commended in their work, while others have committed crimes one after another. This has a lot to do with the continuity of family education. (3) The authority of family education refers to the power and power embodied by parents and elders in their children. The existence of family determines the blood relationship, upbringing relationship and emotional relationship between parents and children. Children have great dependence on their parents and elders in ethics and material needs, and the consistency of the fundamental interests of family members determines that fathers have a greater restrictive effect on their children. Parents' education is easy to be accepted and obeyed by children, and parents' rational use of this feature is very beneficial to the formation of children's good moral character and behavior habits, especially for young children. When children play games with other children and have disputes, they often quote their parents' words to prove that their words and actions are right. For example, they like to say, "My father said so." Or "My mother did it." Wait a minute. The authority of parents in children's minds determines how children view education in kindergartens, schools and society. The relationship between children and their parents is an important social relationship that children face first. In this relationship, almost all aspects of social ethics are embodied. If cracks and defects are formed in this relationship, children will go to society in the future, which will be reflected in various interpersonal relationships. Therefore, the importance of parents' authority is emphasized because parents always play a dual role in their children's childhood: they are both protectors of their children's safe survival and guides of life enlightenment. The effect of parental education depends on the degree of parental authority. The establishment of parental authority must be based on respect for children's personality, not on feudal paternalism. Wise parents know the importance of establishing authority. They know that authority is not established by repression, coercion and subjective judgment, but by combining rigidity with softness. Parents should first coordinate with each other when educating their children. They should combine leniency with severity, establish a kind and dignified image in front of their children, and make them easy to accept their parents' education. (4) Family education infects the naturalness and intimacy of the blood relationship between parents and children, so that parents' joys and sorrows have a strong infectious effect on their children. Children often understand their parents' words and deeds and empathize with them. When dealing with the relationship and problems between people and things around them, children's attitude towards their parents can easily resonate. When parents are happy, children will also participate in happiness. When parents show irritability and unhappiness, children's emotions are easily affected, even children. If parents are irrational, emotional and grumpy, they will let their children blindly absorb their weaknesses. When dealing with some emergencies, parents are at a loss and have a bad influence on their children; If parents are calm and firm, they will also make their children calm and calm, which will play a positive role in the cultivation of their psychological quality.