Family education has become the primary task of every parent. No matter how busy the housework and work are, parents should take time out to educate their children. However, some parents are often troubled by ineffective counseling. The reason is simple, your family education method is not correct. Question/kloc-Linlin, 0/5 years old, threw dozens of building blocks and toys all over the room. Mother must put them in the box. Linlin ignored them and finally cried for her grandmother, who began to clean up, but her mother still said, "Children should learn to clean up their own toys." Later, my father said to Linlin, "I forgive you this time. I'll clean it. You help me. Next time, do it yourself. " Dad put five blocks in the box and all his works were hidden. The next day, Linlin put away the five blocks she had finished playing, and her father rewarded her with five more blocks. What do you think of the analysis? Six-year-old Binbin saw a bottle of open sauce on the dining table, and immediately dragged it to her and licked it with her fingers, licked and fished, fished and licked. Grandma found out and said, "Why did you put your finger in the bottle?" How dirty! "Mother gave Binbin a spoon and asked him to take it from the bottle. Dad expressed his opposition to this with his eyes, but his mother said, "Look at you, children are stingy to eat some jam!" " "Excuse me, who is right or wrong about this matter? Topic 3 Xiao Min likes her doll very much. Once she saw that her father had left the scissors on the table, so she picked them up and put the new headscarf beside her. Dad was very angry when he found that the gift he wanted to give his mother was broken, so he punished Xiao Min. At this time, my mother didn't understand this until she came home. She dragged her father into the kitchen and said, "Xiao Min is only 4 years old. Don't punish her like this. Tell her it's wrong to cut like this. " But dad insisted on a rule at home: whoever spoils things, regardless of adults or children, will be punished. So do you think this is a strong performance of principle? Question 4: Xiao Tong once saw his father smoking at home and asked, "Dad, people say smoking is not good, so why do you smoke?" Dad blushed a little and said to Xiao Tong, "Well, I won't smoke in the future." After a while, he found it difficult to do it, so he couldn't help secretly smoking again. But Xiao Tong still smelled the smoke and saw the cigarette end, so he asked his father, "Didn't you say you didn't smoke?" It seems that dad's answer this time can't be said casually What exactly should I answer? In two weeks, Mingjie will be 5 years old, and her mother bought him a birthday present-an electric car. When my mother hid the car in the cupboard, Ming Jie asked her what it was. My mother smiled mysteriously and said it was a "secret". Yu Mingjie pestered me to ask what the "secret" was. Mom said, "That's enough. You are really annoying. I will show it to you that day. " Sister Ming said, "Hi, I see, this is my birthday present! Give me a look, I just need to take a look, I promise! " Can you predict the outcome of this matter? What's wrong with it? A: 1. Cultivating children's good habits should not only be a requirement, but should be carried out in the order of explanation-demonstration-completion under the guidance of adults-independent completion-evaluation. Mom doesn't understand that four or five-year-old children can throw dozens of things around, but they can't put them away; It is necessary to gradually train children to do it themselves like their fathers; You shouldn't do what grandma did. Children aged 2, 6 and 7 often haven't developed the habit of being polite and hygienic, and they don't know how to get permission from adults in advance. Of course, it is even more wrong for mom to blame dad. Dad is not stingy. It is certainly wrong to scoop jam directly from the bottle. Jam should be scooped on a plate before being spread on steamed bread or bread. So don't open the jam bottle, let alone serve it directly. 3. In fact, Dad himself made several mistakes: firstly, scissors should not be misplaced, secondly, gifts should be confiscated, and more importantly, children's behavior should be treated according to adult standards: because in Xiao Min's view, it is very important for her to do so-her doll needs a headscarf, which is nothing wrong. Mom's opinion is correct, and she is also very careful not to blame Dad immediately in front of the children. Now that father has promised not to smoke again, he must keep his promise, no matter how difficult it is, because it is of great significance to the education of children. Now my father can't hide any longer, so he can only answer: "This is not for the guests. I promised not to smoke, but I didn't. Son, this is worse than smoking. Now that smoking has become a habit, it is difficult to give it up at once. You must never learn to smoke in the future, I will try to give it up. You can quit as long as you make up your mind. " It is conceivable that my mother could not beat Sister Ming in the end. Not only did she look at him, but by the birthday, these cars might have been worn out. Many young parents themselves can't help showing off in front of their children and praising everything, which is not good.