As soon as Xiao Gong Ao was born, Dai Huiming began to let him study hard.
On the first full moon in Gong Ao, Dai Huiming took him out of the house, blowing the cold wind of early spring in Beijing, leaving him in tears. When I was 9 months old, I took him to the subway and squeezed the bus. Just turned 1 year-old, bite a tooth and send it to kindergarten; When he was just two years old, another cruel heart let him enter a full-time nursery. At that time, there was no weekend, and the "unaccompanied" day was six days after the child passed! Every Saturday afternoon, Dai Huiming came to pick him up, and he was so wronged that he cried. Dai Huiming also shed tears, but she never changed her mind.
Dai Huiming's practice at that time was criticized by many parties, saying that he was "asking for it."
Because the old people on both sides are retired and at home; Dai Huiming and his wife, who work for CCTV and Xinhua respectively, have money and leisure. What's more, he is not only an only child, but also an only grandson. "It is precisely because the child's living environment is so superior that he intends to make him suffer more. Parents can't always be safe havens for their children. Once they enter the society, they must bear all the hardships themselves. Now that life is rich, it is not easy to imagine such suffering, so you should ask for it. " Dai Huiming said.
"Dai Huiming's suffering education was quickly confirmed."
Gong Ao has been on camera frequently since he was two and a half years old, taking part in karaoke competitions, being a small host in CCTV and singing theme songs for cartoons. At the age of 4, he began to participate in TV series and film shooting. At the filming scene, it is common to wear cotton in summer and cotton in winter; Falling, hitting and rolling mud must be true; After school, I will make a movie one day. I will study and do my homework. ...
What people see is only Gong Ao's glamorous side: The movie Kidnapping Childlike Heart was nominated for the Best Children's Film in 1995 Golden Rooster Award; In the same year, he starred in Growing Up with Love, and was nominated for best actor with the popular film Hundred Flowers Award of 1996. ...
Some people say that Gong Ao's success is due to his family background and talent. In fact, this is only two reasons. A child with a family background and talent like Gong Ao may have such an opportunity, but he didn't succeed. One of the key reasons is that he doesn't have his spirit of persistence and hard work.
"Children are curious and active, so you might as well get involved."
Many parents are worried about their children's curiosity and activeness, and are afraid of causing any trouble, so they often preach solemnly or scare people alarmingly, but the effect is not very good. In this regard, Dai Huiming's "brilliant move" is "You might as well get involved".
When Gong Ao was very young, he was interested in the game for some time. He always plays with them in his hand and draws one from time to time to see the magical flame. Dai Huiming's first thought after discovering it was "confiscation". On second thought, he was in a good mood. He confiscated it today and will look for it tomorrow. So she went over, calmly asked for a match, took out Gong Ao's favorite clothes from the room and lit them without hesitation. Gong Ao was in a hurry and tried to save his clothes, but Dai Huiming stopped him: "Don't worry about this clothes, you won't pick useless things to burn when a fire breaks out ..." At the same time, he told him the function and power of fire. Hearing this, Gong Ao said nothing with tears in his eyes, but he never played with fire again.
On another occasion, when it was raining outside, parents called their children home from door to door.
Gong Ao sat in the room, watching the rain outside, and wanted to go out to play for a while. This scene was discovered by Dai Huiming. She went up to him and asked him, "Do you want to go out to play?" Gong Ao nodded some not confident. So Dai Huiming immediately took his hand and rushed into the rain and fog.
The mother and son are barefoot, rolling their trouser legs, drenching in the rain, wading and stepping on the mud. That kind of happiness attracted the envious eyes of many children through the window. Dai Huiming said that it is children's wish to play in the rain, but at this time they are often locked at home. Parents only see the child's wet hair and mud splashed on his trousers, but they can't see the joy on his face. I heard the child sneeze a few times, but I couldn't hear his happy laughter. And through this play with children, children will understand why they can't stay outside when it rains, which is also an accumulation of his life experience.
The accumulation of life experience is a necessary process for children to grow up.
In this process, what children need is not parents' guidance and education, but parents' participation. When you become a part of your child's growth in all aspects, he will do whatever you say.
It is precisely because of Dai Huiming's participation that Gong Ao often mopped the floor with his mother's special mop when he was over two years old. More than 3 years old, can roll dumpling skin; I took the initiative to learn to cook when I was just in primary school. His hobbies: swimming, singing, playing guitar, roller skating, basketball, tennis, table tennis, calligraphy, painting ... Every detail also has the shadow of his mother Dai Huiming.
"Don't ignore your child's words and deeds."
A child who is not familiar with the world always instinctively observes adults, and his parents are his role models and mirrors. When parents are rude, he is rude, and when parents are quiet, he is quiet. Therefore, at any time, parents can't ignore their children's words and deeds, otherwise, maybe your mistakes today will become your children's road tomorrow.
Dai Huiming and his family worked hard for this.
When Gong Ao was in kindergarten, he had a conflict with a child, but the teacher only severely reprimanded Gong Ao. This scene happened to be seen by Dai Huiming, his mother who came to pick him up. Dai Huiming was very angry at that time. She tried to rush up to remind the teacher to be fair several times, but in the end she stood where she was until the teacher left, and she walked over calmly. Because, she realized that the child was observing her reaction at this time, regardless of whether the teacher's criticism was appropriate or not, parents should have enough psychological endurance. Otherwise, what children will learn from you will be disrespect for teachers, impulsive attitude to solve problems and unacceptable criticism from others. Therefore, when Gong Ao told her what happened today, Dai Huiming told him not whether it was fair, but: "If you make a mistake, you have to accept criticism. The way of criticism is not important."
"The second story is a big event."
That year, Gong Ao was invited to Zhejiang, accompanied by his grandfather Mr. Lao Dai, and co-chaired a large-scale literary evening to commemorate Zhou Enlai's centenary birthday with the famous host Zhuge Hongyun. Unexpectedly, the manuscript received that day actually had 13 pages, and it was required to memorize it quickly. It was broadcast live the next day, and there were no mistakes. That year, Gong Ao 13 years old, which is too difficult for his age! At first, Gong Ao was too scared. After careful consideration, Mr. Dai chose the "repeated memorization method" for him, so that he could recite, play, recite and play for a while, and keep him relaxed. After reciting about 10 times, Gong Ao completely broke away from the script and played very well in the live broadcast host the next day.
In fact, Mr. Dai was under a lot of pressure at that time. However, if Mr. Dai looks anxious and walks back and forth, the result will only make the child's young mind more fragile until it collapses. Therefore, from beginning to end, Mr. Dai remained calm and confident. When he got home, Mr. Dai told Dai Huiming about it. Dai Huiming gently took Gong Ao into her arms, stroked his head and praised him.
Things have changed. At the beginning of the year, Gong Ao's mother Dai Huiming died of illness. Gong Ao lost his mother's arms forever, but the dribs and drabs of his mother's teaching remained in Gong Ao's heart, which became the criterion for him to be a man and do things.