1, keep a cool head. When children are rebellious, parents are generally dissatisfied and generally use power to suppress their children. In fact, parents at this time should remind themselves to stay calm and wait for their children to calm down before communicating. When a child is rebellious, his words and deeds will be like a storm, and he will not know how to control himself, but his parents are adults and should know when to stay calm.

2, put down the shelf of the elders, when the children's intimate friends. Children who are rebellious in adolescence will inevitably have more resistance to the authority of their parents. Therefore, when children are struggling for their own independent desires, parents should not easily suppress her for various reasons, because it is easy to arouse her rebellious heart; On the contrary, take a step back and be your child's "mentor", help your child make suggestions and let him realize his desire for independence, and he will be grateful to you.

3, talk about things, don't turn over old accounts. In the face of children's rebellious behavior, parents should not say "no" directly, which can only trigger children's rebellious psychology and feel that parents can't communicate and don't understand themselves. It is to open the door to communication and communicate with children. It is necessary to allow children to make mistakes, educate them not to be emotional, not to turn over old scores, not to insult personal dignity, and to guide them by asking questions instead of asking for dignity.

4. Respect and trust children. Because they have a very strong sense of independence, we should give them corresponding trust. Children often say that my parents don't trust me or understand me. In this case, we should give him some rights and trust, let him do something independently, and accept the side that they are not doing so well. Because they are in a semi-adult and naive state, trust is very important.

5. Give children autonomy. Adolescent children have learned to think independently. At this time, their thoughts and behaviors will change greatly, and they want to get rid of their dependence on their parents. Therefore, it is time for parents to try to gradually hand over their autonomy to their children, leave some space for them, and let them make their own decisions without too much interference and infringement. Children can be involved in family decision-making, and the family can discuss with each other, so that children can feel that they are also a member of the family. On the one hand, it can cultivate their sense of family responsibility, on the other hand, it can increase the opportunities of parent-child interaction and better understand their thoughts, styles and abilities.